Relationships, My boyfriends leaving for the airforce i need advice!! Options

[the-beautiful-le...]

Hey guys,
I would like some help.. ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months now..
hes a really great guy and is soo nice to me. Im really thankful that i have him in my life, theres just one minor glitch.. hes leaving for the airforce this april.. we love eachother and want to stay together.. he'd have holidays of course.. and christmas and while im in my final year of high school and plan on going to university i will have something to take my mind of him, ive never been the type to need another to feel complete.. but i would like someone elses advice.. after all he might not like it and would wanna come home.. but im a little lost as to what i should do i want to stay with him no doubt..

Please help!! Thankyou =]
ally.

[icecreamisyummy]

its gonna be hard at first, but itll work out. i mean he's goign into the airforce not army or marines, so there shouldnt be much to worry about.

[MissHygienic]

If you guys really want to be stay with each other, then with each other you shall be. It's as easy as that.

[the-beautiful-le...]

yeah we are a really strong couple and hes only doing like special equipment like repairs on emergency eqquipment so he wont be anywhere near the front line.. and hes really close to my family i dont think he'd have the heart to break up with me.. only if i cheated on him but i WOULDNT EVER do that to him =] so its all good i just hope he doesnt find a lady friend in the airforce cuz he is quite the attractive type, tall dark and handsome lol thanks guys!!! =] nice possitive feedback is always a plus!

[MissHygienic]

It's good that you're confident about your relationship. Don't get too caught up with whatever females he befriend. If he dumps you, despite all that he's said to you (I would assume that he's said that he really wants to be with you), then he's not worth your time.

Hope all goes well.

[the-beautiful-le...]

thanks miss hygienic =]
yeah id be upset but he theres plenty a fish in the sea.
Im sure that we will try our best tho thanks for your help!!

[S-Majere]

I agree; my boyfriend's several hundred miles away too and has been since we decided upon separate universities. We honestly don't have a problem with it and so long as we continue going strong, we're marrying afterward.

Of course there's always Skype, email, snail mail, phone calls home and all manner of keeping in touch in todays' world. It's not hard if you love him. Good luck!

[SimplicityGirl]

I agree with S-Majere. My boyfriend and I go to different universities...which are three provinces and hours apart (he goes to Toronto, I'm in Vancouver).

The first few weeks are hard. I've been there. You're always going to be constantly thinking about him, and all the times you've spent together. Seeing couples can be painful. Just the idea of knowing that he's not with you is painful.

The not being able to hold hands, hug, kiss or see him will start to get to you after a few months. Webcams are awesome invention...webcamming with my boyfriend always makes me feel like I'm with him. It certainly seem to cut the distance by a lot. Talk a lot. Be it online, email, phone or snail mail, COMMUNICATE. Make a genuine effort to talk a bit everyday...and have a nice long talk once per week. More if you guys can work out the times. Have online dates. Call each other--unlimited evenings and weekends are your friends...so are phone cards. And of course, make the most of your time together =)

As long as you both have the desire, and put in the effort, a long distance relationship is not impossible.

[fameONE]

Being in the Marine Corps, and having been in your shoes, I can relate all too well.

You really need to put certain things into perspective. For example, he probably won't be stationed where you'll be attending school. He may request it, but just joining the military, you don't get to call the shots.

There's a possibility of the long distance relationship working out. His training is in San Antonio at Lackland AFB, right? Last time I checked, thats where all the little flyboys went to cupcake boot camp. If he gets stationed overseas, it will take a lot of maturity and a tremendous amount of willpower on both ends to keep it going.

Just don't break up with him while he's gone. For the love of God, do it face to face if you don't see it working out. I'm not going to discourage marriage, but both of you have lives to live and if he's in AF (those bastards TRAVEL), he has yet to experience anything, the last thing that he'll need is something, or someone, holding him back. Unless its one of those, "baby I can't live without you," sort of deals. That, in turn, puts the weight of fidelity and patience on your shoulders.

Conversely, if you want to get hitched, command sponsorship will take care of your ass and you'll be with your man. There's only so much free advice to give before you come to realization that this is only a choice you can make. Even if you feel like you don't have a clue, deep down, you know what the answer is.

Good luck.

[the-beautiful-le...]

Hey thanks for the responses..
well im from australia i take it majority on here are american =]
well im in my last year of high school then onto uni ill be in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia and He will be in Sydney, New South Whales, Australia. Which is roughly a 2 hour flight to see him or a 2-3 day drive. I have no intention to hold him back from what he loves doing but after i do my degree at uni his 6 year contract will be over so we could move together somewhere like sydney so that way i can see him as much as possible. He's made it clear he wants to stay with me and we know it will be hard. He's hinted he wants to marry me someday. Im not really into the whole love scene and all that mushy stuff but im sure of this. Like ive never been so sure of anything before. And as i said im not the type that needs another person around all the time dont get me wrong its great but i can deal without. So ill be okay with the fact i cant see him as much as id like but knowing we are together is all i need to pull through.

Thank you!
Much appreciated xox ally

[shoryuken]

he ginnaa get own girl. you guys gonna fall for some other guy!!

[the-beautiful-le...]

doubt it.

[fameONE]

I know nothing about Australia other than there's a beautiful woman in Melbourne that I thought was pregnant with little Brandon, but thats beside the point.

Him marrying you "someday" and putting in work to marry you now is completely different. You really need to talk to him.

[the-beautiful-le...]

well its not an easy subject with him cause he postpone the airforce for his last gf and thinks i might want him to stay but im not holding him back from his dream.

I came to a conclusion.
I will wait till april when he leaves and tell him i love him in the hope that if he says it back it will mean hes gunna try his hardest at "us" and see how things go and enjoy what i have left with him now
and hope.. for the best.