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 Dec 30 2007, 03:00 PM
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So i was going out with this guy, let's call him MC, and we broke up but we ended up being...i guess you could say, friends with benefits. we still cared for each other and we still did..."stuff".
then, a week later, we were on the phone and we started talking about how we would never make out with each other's best friends...but the next day, i made out with his best friend... so he found out and got mad at us but he forgave his friend within like two hours...and now [a week later] he told me he's trying to get over me because he likes someone else and he can't trust me anymore because he considers it "cheating" even though he dumped me... but last night he said i should still "make it up to him" but no sexual stuff, no presents... Now i have two questions... 1. do i owe him anything more than an apology because technically i was single, and he dumped me... 2. if i really should make it up to him...any ideas? |
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Dec 30 2007, 03:09 PM
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What you did isn't technically wrong, since you were single. But, you did lie to him when you told him you wouldn't do it and then you did it the next day. I know I'd be upset if I were him.
You should definitely apologize. I don't see what he means by making it up to him. |
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Dec 30 2007, 03:25 PM
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i apologized and he said he's not mad that i did it...he's mad that i lied...
but yeah, i don't see what he means you can make it up to me... |
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Dec 30 2007, 03:28 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,586 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 531,256 |
Right. Wouldn't you be mad if he said he would never do anything with your best friend, but did the next day?
I think you just have to earn his trust back. That's really all you can do. |
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Dec 30 2007, 04:25 PM
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You broke up with someone but still had sex. That reads like you were still having a relationship with him, albeit a shallow one. Then you started things with his best friend after assuring him you wouldn't.
That reads something terrible. I suggest a chastity belt and some self-restraint whilst you sort out what really matters. |
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Jan 1 2008, 06:15 PM
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 iLOVE'HiM.♥ Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,314 |
Talk to him. Trust takes time to gain back.
Talking to us about it isn't going to make him forgive and trust you again. Spend time talking and hanging out with him. |
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Jan 1 2008, 06:47 PM
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girl dont even say sorry or anything cause this guy is definately playing you since he dumped you and still wanted to do stuff it means that when he get bored he just want a chick to play around ya knw?! this sound exactly like my ex even thou hes gotta new girlfriend he would still tell me we can have sex she doesnt need to know and that even if she does she will understand i was like wtf lol but dont listen to what he said really if he thinks that ur cheatin on him hooking up with his best mate dude ur single dont let him fool you around!
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