change for love?, im in love with this chick..but she wants me to change. Options

[mauriciocruelty]

me & this chick went out for about a week, we broke up because she had family problems..in school we still acted like a couple [hold hands, kiss, etc.] but then we broke up for good, because of some stupid crap that i did. Now we've both talked about it & she wants me to change..
the reason is that im bisexual..& she wants me to change..this is what she told me.

"Okay change for me
be more of a man.
More manly.
When I see that you have changed
I'll give you that chance."



what do i do?

do i change for someone i love..or what?

[PandaKnight14]

1: You can't change bisexuality.

2: Her request sounds utterly idiotic.

[snoopdog]

i think ur to gay to change =D
lol playing i unno
go with the flow

[fameONE]

Regardless of what it is kid, don't change for anyone but yourself.

[Call911Quick]

How could you even be sexually attracted to another guy? It's like masturbating with sandpaper, seriously.

Nothing against gay people, it's just that I can't really relate.

[snoopdog]

hmm
now that i hear that
you could masturbate with sand paper
i think i might just try it =D

[bobbyrocks15]

well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]

[MissHygienic]

well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]

This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.

[datass]

its not like youre gay, i dont see why that girl would tell you to change.

[Kontroll]

Haha, I highly doubt that you love her.

Besides that, she's a selfish little bitch. Don't even bother with her.

Dude, if you change, you're becoming less of a man than you initially said you were. You're doing what she wants you to do, giving her the upper hand, and allowing her to manipulate you even more. And trust me... it won't stop there. I know how you feel when it comes to this because I have the same problem. I don't like making decisions and all that jazz, but seriously, you have to tell her that she's a bitch and that you don't want anything to do with her. That's the only way you're ever going to become "more of a man." Not by doing what she says.

I guarentee you...... 100% that she will fall for you in an instant...

...Or she won't. But, hey, you have to take chances in life.

[Stumbleine]

Besides that, she's a selfish little bitch. Don't even bother with her.

I don't like making decisions and all that jazz, but seriously, you have to tell her that she's a bitch and that you don't want anything to do with her. That's the only way you're ever going to become "more of a man." Not by doing what she says.

Lol! I agree. She seems like a bitch.. you're better than that!

[mauriciocruelty]

Thanks alot,
not it seems..
that well maybe yall are right, & shes wrong.

maybe it was just an illusion of love,
i just cant believe i was actually up for the change
to be with her..


so how do i tell her that i wont change for her?

[DoubleJ]

Please merge this with finals & love!

[Kontroll]

Thanks alot,
not it seems..
that well maybe yall are right, & shes wrong.

maybe it was just an illusion of love,
i just cant believe i was actually up for the change
to be with her..
so how do i tell her that i wont change for her?

Tell her exactly that. You have to tell her something. If you don't talk to her she'll think you're a pussy. But just be firm and strong.

Keep eye contact. Important right there. Shows confidence. Have a strong voice. Don't whisper or anything. So, if there's anything else just ask.

[bobbyrocks15]

This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.

then i guess youve never loved some one before..

[MissHygienic]

then i guess youve never loved some one before..

I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.

[bobbyrocks15]

I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.

no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them

[MissHygienic]

no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them

That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."

[bobbyrocks15]

That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."

i knew you were gonna say that crap
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change

[mauriciocruelty]

i talked to her today
& she said

that the reason she wanted me to change
is because she had

past relationships with bi guys
& that they did her wrong.
I told her that im not like that,
but she didnt listen..

then she said

"i just dont feel comfortable"


im not changing for her.

[MissHygienic]

i knew you were gonna say that crap
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change

Sexuality can hurt people only if the people receiving the news is narrow-minded. Your best friend's dad wasn't having sexual affairs within his family. Being in a relationship versus handling family relations is different.

"Stop being a homo?" Is this a joke? First of all, he's not a "homo," and secondly, that is almost offensive. I'll tell you that I won't stop being straight, just as he will not stop being bisexual.

No, your solution isn't to change who you are, your solution is to reassure her that even though you are bisexual, you are loyal to whomever you date. Trying to deny your sexuality for a girl is not the answer.

[bobbyrocks15]

Sexuality can hurt people only if the people receiving the news is narrow-minded. Your best friend's dad wasn't having sexual affairs within his family. Being in a relationship versus handling family relations is different.

"Stop being a homo?" Is this a joke? First of all, he's not a "homo," and secondly, that is almost offensive. I'll tell you that I won't stop being straight, just as he will not stop being bisexual.

No, your solution isn't to change who you are, your solution is to reassure her that even though you are bisexual, you are loyal to whomever you date. Trying to deny your sexuality for a girl is not the answer.

being bi and homo is pretty much the same thing..
and being straight is always the right answer
but hey he has to decide that one for himself..

[DoubleJ]

i talked to her today
& she said

that the reason she wanted me to change
is because she had

past relationships with bi guys
& that they did her wrong.
I told her that im not like that,
but she didnt listen..

then she said

"i just dont feel comfortable"
im not changing for her.

As you shouldn't. Like I said before, you should live your life for you and for nobody else. Remember, there is only one who can judge and there is only one that you have to answer to. Your life should be based solely on what you do, for you and for nobody else. FACT!0

[mauriciocruelty]

being bi and homo is pretty much the same thing..
and being straight is always the right answer
but hey he has to decide that one for himself..

umm being bi has nothing to do with
homosexuality
not to get rude

but look it up

[S-Majere]

Personally, I found someone who loved me for being me.

You don't need to change for anyone, this girl wants you to be someone else - someone you're not.

[mauriciocruelty]

yeah,
thanks! i kinda found out the hard way
& now what has me kinda mad/depressed is knowing
that i was actually going to try & change for her.

[S-Majere]

You should be proud of yourself for making the decison not to change. It's she who's in the wrong here, not you.

[mauriciocruelty]

THANKS
s-majere

[Smarmosaur]

get some brains and come back-then we'll talk.
ok but really...
duh, don't freakin change.

[rosemary27]

me & this chick went out for about a week, we broke up because she had family problems..in school we still acted like a couple [hold hands, kiss, etc.] but then we broke up for good, because of some stupid crap that i did. Now we've both talked about it & she wants me to change..
the reason is that im bisexual..& she wants me to change..this is what she told me.

"Okay change for me
be more of a man.
More manly.
When I see that you have changed
I'll give you that chance."
what do i do?

do i change for someone i love..or what?

dude, you dont deserve her. she should like you for who you are.. if she dont dem leave her be

[vietbabiiix3]

Youuu can lose your pride over someone you love, but don't lose someone you love over your pride. =)

[NewUsername]

You can't just change your sexuality.
And it sounds like you're not "good enough" for her to me. Wouldn't you rather have someone who accepts you for who you are?

[newkidontheblock]

I know you can't change your sexuality, but the topic title says you love her, i think you should at least try.

Everybody needs love!