Pessimistic or Realistic blog? Options

[*jeanna*]

A friend of mine posted this on her blog and I think she's really bitter about her last relationship since he cheated on her. I'm not saying she deserved it but the girl was having a abstinence relationship with a guy who wasn't into it..


"Has the world gone mad? This is CRAZY! People, who say they're in love, ARE CRAZY.


They go to the extreme. What the hell? Like saying "He is my everything". Shut the hell up because he IS NOT your everything. He is only ONE thing, he can't posess everything you need. Why do you make him your life, when there's more to your life than this boy? Relationships like this make me laugh, because I can basically predict what will happen. The guy will leave her, and she will think she is left with NOTHING. You know why? Because she made him her everything, and now he is gone, and she hurts more than ever. She thinks there is no hope, no life, nothing good will come from it. He is just a BOY, And you'll get over it.

Or, the guy thinks the girl is his whole world. He thinks he can do anything to her, and she'll always stay. Like act like a whiny baby, talk down to her, be a bump on a log. And when she says something about breaking up, he cries and sucks up and sucks her back in. But when she is finally ready to give up on him and be free, he can't believe that his plan isn't working! So he pulls shit like suicide threats and fake dying phone calls. Just to get her attention. She's not falling for it this time, and now he thinks he lost everything. Again, she is just a girl, you'll freakin get over it.

So stop it. Guys and girls, if you want a good relationship, don't tell the guy that he is your air, because he isn't. You may feel like he is, but that's unhealthy. You can't look for your answers within a guy/girl, you have to find them from somewhere else, whether it be God, friends, yourself.

Never Ever make someone your everything, cause when they leave, you will feel like you have nothing.

Never think you "can't without them", CAUSE YOU CAN.

Life isn't all about HIM/HER, it's about freedom, fun, adventure, friends, love, God, family, hobbies, learning, dreaming, and passion.

You may think you can never love again, but you'll be surprised!! Time heals all pain, so get on with your life and move on, its hard but you can do it. Its not the end of the world if someone has walked out on you. Before you know it someoen will walk in."

She is really religious and I have a feeling she will not only be let down by guys in her future but also by God.
Don't people get mad at God because they have taken a loved one or family member away or something else bad has happened? I wouldn't know since I'm atheist but I was just thinking that God can stab your back in a way or so my friends have told me while blaming God for their problems.

[transcendentalis...]

i say she's realistic.

i'm a nondenominational christian, and i haven't ever really been angry with God for taking away people... that's just life. you can't expect all your friends to stay forever, and even if you're lifelong friends, everyone's gotta die.

when people die, it means they're done fulfilling their purpose or that they've made the impact on the environment around them that they needed to.

God isn't an omnipotent bellboy and it's not his job to create utopias.

[*jeanna*]

i say she's realistic.

i'm a nondenominational christian, and i haven't ever really been angry with God for taking away people... that's just life. you can't expect all your friends to stay forever, and even if you're lifelong friends, everyone's gotta die.

when people die, it means they're done fulfilling their purpose or that they've made the impact on the environment around them that they needed to.

God isn't an omnipotent bellboy and it's not his job to create utopias.

what do you think about this?

" Hopes.

where should your hope go? Well you shouldnt have "hope" in things. you should have faith. and that my friend, should be in God.

dont put faith in the things of this world. they come and go like the sun and the moon. they predictably fail you.

do you guys realize how much God is there for you? i mean its like every time you turn around, He's there to hold you in His arms. when the world leaves you, ditches you, spits on you, Hes there to clean you all up. you dont know how much that makes me so darn happy.

If you put faith only in God, your outlook on life with be so more easy and simple. If you were to put faith in the ones around you, even your family, you would get let down so many times. as much as you like to think that people arent going to hurt you, they will. as much as you think that people will always be there for you, just as much, they will turn away from you and change.

you guys need to rid yourselves of the evil things in this world. it can overtake and overcome you in an instant. and the worst part is, you wont even realize it. you dont understand how easy it is to go down the wrong road.

ive almost gone down those roads myself. and they seem so easy and not even bad. thats because you are transforming into something that is getting away from God. I am so thankful that God pulled me back to him.

back to main. God. Will. always. be. there.
this feeling. this faith. this contentment. this joy. it doesnt come out of no where. There is a source. and i know He who givith. ha that sounds cool.

so i just have to say to you people--keep your faith in God, and not the ones around you. Only God is true happiness. He is the only one that can complete you. i can not stress that enough. and i can not say enough that this can simply NOT be fake. i can not deny this. i simply can not. its like denying chocolate chip icecream. even tho that is NO comparison."

that sounds pretty bellboy like

[Flaunted]

My cousin is kind of like this, she was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years. They started going out since she was 16 and in the relationship, they stepped up to even buying a house and live together. When he left her (reason, i don't know) she literally ... turned REALLLY religious to the point where she would go to church every single day, it was unhealthy to see her like this because everyone was worried because she had done some things that were really bad. now she has been better but, still after this relationship i don't think she'll ever get close to another guy again..Its really sad, but she even told me she doesn't even want to hug a guy because she doesn't want to 'lead them on'

I say realistic, it just sounds pessimistic cause of her tone in the blog.

[babecakes]

Because she made him her everything, and now he is gone, and she hurts more than ever.

realistic.

[*jeanna*]

realistic.

buttt she is also doing the same thing for God. hm? and im sure he can hurt you too

[MissHygienic]

Realism may be directly related to pessimism. Bet you never thought of that. . .

[Elba]

Yeah, I would say she is just being realistic--minus the god references. I love my boyfriend to death, but I know (because i have learned) that I don't need him.

[MissFits]

This really reminds me of a beach boys song.

I may not always love you
But long as there are stars above you
You never need to doubt it
Ill make you so sure about it

God only knows what Id be without you

If you should ever leave me
Though life would still go on believe me
The world could show nothing to me
So what good would living do me

God only knows what Id be without you

God only knows what Id be without you

If you should ever leave me
Well life would still go on believe me
The world could show nothing to me
So what good would living do me

God only knows what Id be without you
God only knows what Id be without you
God only knows (x 1,000,000,000,000)

He doesn't really say God only knows that many times, and it's a damn good song.

But, I know I could live without John, why would I ever want to do that though? He gives me everything I need and want. I guess she is realistic for her life. She will have a hard time finding a relationship if she is always such a negative nancy.

[*jeanna*]

Yeah, I would say she is just being realistic--minus the god references. I love my boyfriend to death, but I know (because i have learned) that I don't need him.

i agree.

[transcendentalis...]

do you guys realize how much God is there for you? i mean its like every time you turn around, He's there to hold you in His arms. when the world leaves you, ditches you, spits on you, Hes there to clean you all up. you dont know how much that makes me so darn happy.

uhhhh no.
yeah, every time you turn around, God's there, but it sure as hell isn't so he can hold you in his arms. for someone who seemed so realistic (at least in the first entry you posted), that's pretty damn idealistic.

for me, God's the dude who tells you to straighten yourself out and to quit being such a moron when i keep tripping over my flaws. when the world leaves me, ditches me, and spits on me... he doesn't clean you all up. to me, he tells me that if i give up or quit, things aren't going to get better all by themselves.

it's not like you're a dumb clumsy kid who falls in a mud puddle and goes back running to God-nanny at the heaven-mansion so God-nanny can make you a holy water baptismal bubble bath. wtf mate.

If you put faith only in God, your outlook on life with be so more easy and simple. If you were to put faith in the ones around you, even your family, you would get let down so many times. as much as you like to think that people arent going to hurt you, they will. as much as you think that people will always be there for you, just as much, they will turn away from you and change.

yeah, things are simpler to me when i put 'faith in God' as she puts it. i'm pretty sure this is common sense for a lot of people - humanity lets you down, what's new eh? no big deal.

i hate church wording, so here's mine.
i know who God is, he can do whatever he wants or let whatever happen to me, and i'm not gonna be worried.

you guys need to rid yourselves of the evil things in this world. it can overtake and overcome you in an instant. and the worst part is, you wont even realize it. you dont understand how easy it is to go down the wrong road.

no duh.
NO DUH.
right about here, this friend of yours goes into some weird idea that people don't know that some things are wrong. most drug addicts i know realize that it's really not a good thing to do. most alcoholics i know realize that it's not a good thing to get involved in. people who cheat in school know cheating's wrong... we're not all retarded.

in life, people will NEVER rid themselves of evil. that's called perfection. doing things for personal enjoyment or self-preservation is human, and that's why my version of christianity revolves around grace, not ... being ben franklin and achieving moral perfection. wiki it if you don't get it.

ive almost gone down those roads myself. and they seem so easy and not even bad. thats because you are transforming into something that is getting away from God. I am so thankful that God pulled me back to him.

well damn. i'm not really sure where her mind is at this point.

back to main. God. Will. always. be. there.
this feeling. this faith. this contentment. this joy. it doesnt come out of no where. There is a source. and i know He who givith. ha that sounds cool.

so i just have to say to you people--keep your faith in God, and not the ones around you. Only God is true happiness. He is the only one that can complete you. i can not stress that enough. and i can not say enough that this can simply NOT be fake. i can not deny this. i simply can not. its like denying chocolate chip icecream. even tho that is NO comparison.

true, and worded horribly to the point where i'd love to deny it.
your friend's writing really bugs me; i dunno why i hope God smites her silly for comparing him to chocolate chip ice cream; that's just bogus

things God puts you through hurts, sometimes, a lot of times, just like everything else. of course you feel let down. of course you feel betrayed and hurt and worthless - but unlessss you realize that's just a good deal of "trials and tribulation," then you're gonna be living a pretty depressing life.

wooohhh long post.

[*jeanna*]

uhhhh no.
yeah, every time you turn around, God's there, but it sure as hell isn't so he can hold you in his arms. for someone who seemed so realistic (at least in the first entry you posted), that's pretty damn idealistic.

for me, God's the dude who tells you to straighten yourself out and to quit being such a moron when i keep tripping over my flaws. when the world leaves me, ditches me, and spits on me... he doesn't clean you all up. to me, he tells me that if i give up or quit, things aren't going to get better all by themselves.

it's not like you're a dumb clumsy kid who falls in a mud puddle and goes back running to God-nanny at the heaven-mansion so God-nanny can make you a holy water baptismal bubble bath. wtf mate.
yeah, things are simpler to me when i put 'faith in God' as she puts it. i'm pretty sure this is common sense for a lot of people - humanity lets you down, what's new eh? no big deal.

i hate church wording, so here's mine.
i know who God is, he can do whatever he wants or let whatever happen to me, and i'm not gonna be worried.
no duh.
NO DUH.
right about here, this friend of yours goes into some weird idea that people don't know that some things are wrong. most drug addicts i know realize that it's really not a good thing to do. most alcoholics i know realize that it's not a good thing to get involved in. people who cheat in school know cheating's wrong... we're not all retarded.

in life, people will NEVER rid themselves of evil. that's called perfection. doing things for personal enjoyment or self-preservation is human, and that's why my version of christianity revolves around grace, not ... being ben franklin and achieving moral perfection. wiki it if you don't get it.
well damn. i'm not really sure where her mind is at this point.
true, and worded horribly to the point where i'd love to deny it.
your friend's writing really bugs me; i dunno why i hope God smites her silly for comparing him to chocolate chip ice cream; that's just bogus

things God puts you through hurts, sometimes, a lot of times, just like everything else. of course you feel let down. of course you feel betrayed and hurt and worthless - but unlessss you realize that's just a good deal of "trials and tribulation," then you're gonna be living a pretty depressing life.

wooohhh long post.

thank you, lol. in her blog i had a feeling like God was being described the same way drug addicts say about their drugs!
"
it's not like you're a dumb clumsy kid who falls in a mud puddle and goes back running to God-nanny at the heaven-mansion so God-nanny can make you a holy water baptismal bubble bath. wtf mate."
yeah, that's basically how she sees him and it pisses me off. also that she said she would smoke pot, become sexual for one guy. talk about being a hypocrite.

the two blogs are sisters. the first one is 19 and the second blog i posted is from her younger sister who 17.
the 17 yr old i'm pretty sure hasn't had any life changing things so idk what she could be thinking about "going down the wrong path" maybe that thing about the guy but i know she wouldn't change it. same with her sister. they have all their family members and never really had any problems. even though i know everyone has some, they have a low amount..

[transcendentalis...]

oh geez, i thought the blogs were from the same person! my bad.

people who have the idea that God is their nanny or bellboy really ... surprise me. i think it's strange that people have that sort of mentality and it doesn't even vaguely fit the idea of God that i have. there's a lot of growing and maturing involved in the progression of anyone's spiritual life, regardless of what you believe (if anything).

haha, i significantlyy like the first entry more.
wooooh back to studying the civil war?

i really don't say this to a lot of people on cb even though i should (because it's not justtt you), but jeanna, you seem pretty cool

[SimplicityGirl]

Realistic, but put it rather harshly XD

[Call911Quick]

I'm Christian.

Well, IMO, if your friends blame God for all the bad things that happen, do they thank God for all the good things that happen?

[StandardEdition]

I think its a bit pessimistic on her part. But she needs a way to vent if she feels rly hurt from her relation ship. Its more on the realistic side. mosto f what she said is true. [you know pertaining to the realationshp part] I didn't the whole thing lol. But I say its realistic.

[Amelie-lOvE]

I think that is the best thing I've read in a while.

[*jeanna*]

I think its a bit pessimistic on her part. But she needs a way to vent if she feels rly hurt from her relation ship. Its more on the realistic side. mosto f what she said is true. [you know pertaining to the realationshp part] I didn't the whole thing lol. But I say its realistic.

well i think they went out for a year and it was her first boyfriend, so yeah. i just found it ironic that she would come off so realistic sounding when you read how her sister believes in God because really, they will see it the same.

oh geez, i thought the blogs were from the same person! my bad.

people who have the idea that God is their nanny or bellboy really ... surprise me. i think it's strange that people have that sort of mentality and it doesn't even vaguely fit the idea of God that i have. there's a lot of growing and maturing involved in the progression of anyone's spiritual life, regardless of what you believe (if anything).

haha, i significantlyy like the first entry more.
wooooh back to studying the civil war?

i really don't say this to a lot of people on cb even though i should (because it's not justtt you), but jeanna, you seem pretty cool

OH MY GOD. i just remembered this is what she told her friend [the 17 yr old]
"i just try to be patient for God to bring me the guy i'm supposed to be with. He just likes to take His time, lol."
wtf...

& why thank you :), you too.

I'm Christian.

Well, IMO, if your friends blame God for all the bad things that happen, do they thank God for all the good things that happen?

oh im sure they thank god and all that stuff

[Relentless]

I find it realistic on most of the issue. Relationships can be such a bytch at times.

One of my best friend was with a guy, they were on & off for more than a year (They were like each other's "everything"). Finally, they broke up, She was literally upset and started to do drugs (Ectasy, shrooms, acid, etc. -- she even said that she wants to try every drug but not coke)... Also, she got super skinny because of this.. Later, she has another boyfriend and they both do drug together. =/ depressing.

[tokyo-rose]

She's realistic. It's good to see that she knows not to make a guy the most important person in her life. Yes, boyfriends are important, but taking care of yourself first is even more so. Besides, reality always comes with a dose of pessimism every once in a while.

[Insurmountable]

How can you be mad at God? Did you know he goes through all the suffereing and pain that you go through? He can't make people love him, thats our choice. Like when you got out on the limb and your pretty much handing yourself to someone else and they take it from you and stomp all over it, God knows how everyone feels and hes felt it just the same, so I think its plain ignorance when you can sit there and be mad at God for your suffering and saying he doesn't understand and what not.


I think she sounds like whiny baby. She needs to learn to get over it and look at the other door in front of her. Yea some of the things she says is right, but shes almost looking at it from the perspective that many immature kids have about love, "Oh hes my everyone, my air and my light" its a load of bullshit that when you get older you lose site of. You can live without someone else on your side for a eternity, many people even Christians never get married and they actually form a better relationship with God.

[*jeanna*]

How can you be mad at God? Did you know he goes through all the suffereing and pain that you go through? He can't make people love him, thats our choice. Like when you got out on the limb and your pretty much handing yourself to someone else and they take it from you and stomp all over it, God knows how everyone feels and hes felt it just the same, so I think its plain ignorance when you can sit there and be mad at God for your suffering and saying he doesn't understand and what not.
I think she sounds like whiny baby. She needs to learn to get over it and look at the other door in front of her. Yea some of the things she says is right, but shes almost looking at it from the perspective that many immature kids have about love, "Oh hes my everyone, my air and my light" its a load of bullshit that when you get older you lose site of. You can live without someone else on your side for a eternity, many people even Christians never get married and they actually form a better relationship with God.

lol i think it's somewhat funny how the 19 yr old sister [first blog] hates love and stuff when her younger sister [17, 2nd blog] is a hopeless romantic. but yeah, their view on religion is kinda skewed as if he is lottery for love