When is it "too much"?, where is the line that can't be crossed? |
 Dec 1 2007, 01:59 AM
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I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. today.
And even tho it was our aniversary, it was one of the worst ever day between us. we ddint even speak for like 10 minutes. I feel like he doesnt love me. because he has seriously just been acting like he doesnt care. It hurts soo bad.... but i dont want to give up. We've had some major problems with everything form his drugs, to {the worst heartache ever: } me having to wait for him to "decide" if he wanted to be with me, or wanted one of our other friends. He has stopped caring about me, stopped trying to hangout with me, he even cancelled plans with me yesturday, and broke one of his promises to me today. I haven't felt the same for him since the whole situation with our frind, and him wanting to be with her. but i still love him i dont know what to do honestly i strongly feel like its not worth it he isnt the best boyfriend. and i feel like he isnt worht all these tears i keep shedding should i end it? |
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Dec 1 2007, 02:03 AM
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Uh, the answer should be obvious. Boys who don't have their priorities straight should not be involved in relationships. Don't get yourself more involved in this crap; if he cared about you, he'd put you before drugs. Not worth it.
You don't love him; you're likely simply dependent on him. |
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Dec 1 2007, 02:15 AM
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but its been so long
but yea i guess im just dependent on him but i know if i end it, then i just gonna want him back again |
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Dec 1 2007, 02:35 AM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
i think you need a dose of self-confidence.
list out all the good qualities you have. he doesn't deserve any of them, from what you've said. i know that if you love him, your mind's probs gonna say - that's not what it's about, love gives even though it's not going to get back. BUT this is clearly an unhealthy relationship if he doesn't reciprocate. you can do much better. it'll take time, but you can get there :) |
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Dec 1 2007, 03:32 AM
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 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Ditch him. Doesn't matter how long you've been going out with him, if you're having second thoughts like these it's not worth staying around for a guy that loves his drugs more than you.
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Dec 1 2007, 02:35 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
You deserve better and you know it. I think you're just afraid that you won't be able to find someone else after you break it off. Listen, someone once told me "If your boyfriend doesn't treat you right, don't wait for him to change, find someone who will."
 As cliche as it sounds, what does your heart say? You can try to talk it over, but you've been down that road before. Time means nothing if you guys aren't bonding together.
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Dec 1 2007, 02:54 PM
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you're 15. 11 months will feel like 20 years when in reality it's nothing compared to other people.
he is a bad influence and clearly doesn't care anymore so leave him. also, you think 10 minutes is horrible? try months. |
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Dec 1 2007, 02:55 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 1 2007, 11:54 AM)  you're 15. 11 months will feel like 20 years when in reality it's nothing compared to other people. he is a bad influence and clearly doesn't care anymore so leave him. also, you think 10 minutes is horrible? try months. Someone's sure had an emo phase. 
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Dec 1 2007, 03:19 PM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Dec 1 2007, 02:55 PM) Someone's sure had an emo phase. It's the birth control. |
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Dec 1 2007, 03:31 PM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Dec 1 2007, 03:55 PM) Someone's sure had an emo phase. what do you mean? |
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Dec 1 2007, 03:59 PM
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QUOTE(SelinaSex @ Dec 1 2007, 02:15 AM) i guess im just dependent on him but i know if i end it, then i just gonna want him back again Dependence is definitely not the same thing as love. And that's a natural feeling for everyone to have after a breakup even if they are the one who did the breaking up. QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 1 2007, 02:54 PM) also, you think 10 minutes is horrible? try months. I think Selina meant that they talked for less than 10 minutes on their anniversary, not that there was a 10-minute silence. |
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| *jeanna* |
Dec 1 2007, 04:17 PM
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QUOTE(Synesthesia @ Dec 1 2007, 04:59 PM) Dependence is definitely not the same thing as love. And that's a natural feeling for everyone to have after a breakup even if they are the one who did the breaking up. I think Selina meant that they talked for less than 10 minutes on their anniversary, not that there was a 10-minute silence. ohhh ok. i thought they had a little fight and he didn't talk for 10 minutes then everything was peachy. makes sense. |
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Dec 1 2007, 04:19 PM
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eek sorry, slow internet made me double post
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Dec 1 2007, 04:52 PM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 1 2007, 04:03 AM) Uh, the answer should be obvious. Boys who don't have their priorities straight should not be involved in relationships. Don't get yourself more involved in this crap; if he cared about you, he'd put you before drugs. You obviously don't understand drug addictions. Are you saying my dad didn't love me because he put doing drugs before taking me to the park? Drug addicts are SICK, they have a very serious problem, and it alters their mind. Now, I am not saying you should stay with him SelinaSex, He reminds me a lot of one of my ex boyfrinds. You need to break up with right now, He doesn't love you. |
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Dec 1 2007, 04:56 PM
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Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
QUOTE(MissFits @ Dec 1 2007, 04:52 PM) You obviously don't understand drug addictions. Are you saying my dad didn't love me because he put doing drugs before taking me to the park? Drug addicts are SICK, they have a very serious problem, and it alters their mind. No, I have a good comprehension of drug addictions. However, I said that her boyfriend needs to get his priorities straight before being involved in relationships as he is incapable of maintaining it, clearly. Dad/daughter relationships are much different than boy/girlfriends. If he can't balance drugs and manage time with his girlfriend, how is she going to feel loved? She won't, it's not possible. You know that your dad has to love you, there's the difference. |
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