Love and Marriage, Go together like a horse and carriage Options

[Insurmountable]

What does marriage mean to you?

It seems like now a days marriage just doesn't mean as much as it did way back in time. It's starting to lose its touch and with the divorce numbers on a sky high no wonder people don't want to get caught in marriage in the fear of risking getting hurt.

So what does Marriage mean to you? Do you plan on getting married?

[xtwitchyx]

I'm not sure if I would get married or not. If I did, I'd rather wait until I was a little older. Plus it would really depend on how well me and the person got along and if the other person was in it for the long haul along with me. If they aren't in it for the long haul and won't do everything 50/50 like it should be, then I don't want to marry them.

I think the reasons people get divorced is because they are too lazy to put a lot of work into anything. Not only that, I also find that seems to be way too much expected from one or both couples in marriages these days. That's my opinion though.

Other reasons for divorces... There's some couples who can't and won't talk to eachother about anything. Which they should, but won't for silly reasons. (Or they just can't get along well enough.) That will lead to a divorce. (Communication, very important.) Then there's others who get married for really stupid reasons, while knowing that it could turn to disaster. (Getting married while intoixcated, or because someone gets pregnant, or because it was expected that so and so get married, etc.) Then I think another big part of it is in the mind. There's too many researches, studies, etc. That are out there and cause people to get ideas in their head that their marriage won't work out because most people state "this" or state "that" about how their marriages didn't work. For anyone paranoid, ideas like that can only cause problems. There's also the money issue that tends to get a lot of couples into arguements. Which is really stupid, money isn't everything. Last but not least, there are some couples who just lose that fire and flare that they once had. Those are situations that can't always be fixed. I know that there's more than just those reasons, but I am really sleepy and it's hard to list things.

I can undertsand getting divorced because of abuse issues and stuff like that. I don't know why anyone would want to stay in one of those situations.

[*jeanna*]

marriage means nothing to me. gay relationships seems to last longer than straight people who are married.

anyways, i dont really believe in marriage. a piece of metal around someone's finger won't stop them from cheating and why be married with all those papers if you get a divorce [especially with the % now]

[datass]

well, to me, marriage is a life long commitment. and i believe the reason why couples should get married is because they want to have babies together.

i might edit this post

[tokyo-rose]

well, to me, marriage is a life long commitment.

I think marriage is a lifelong commitment as well. I do plan on getting married when I find the right person and we've been together long enough to know we want to spend the rest of our lives together.

I think part of the reason so many couples get divorced is because they rush into marriage without considering things in the long run, like if they'll really be able to love and live with this person until they die. Another reason may be couples that marry too young, which relates to my previous point: sometimes lack of age and/or maturity causes ignorance of just how permanent marriage is. Then there are the couples who marry out of wedlock thinking it's best for their baby. Conflicts arise later on, and one of them (usually the mother) ends up leaving with the baby. People need to think about what marriage will mean for them once it's done before actually doing it.

[Elba]

To me, marriage means unconditional love and respect between you and your partner. I'm currently reading this marriage/relationship book, so I'll be able to elaborate on this a little more later. Anyway, I REALLY REALLY want to be married by the time I am 25. I don't want to have kids after 30.

[Sandraaa]

In my opinion, marriage means him + me = forever. It's a forever committment and shouldn't be taken for granted. Once you're in it, you shouldn't get out. Which is why I don't want to get married. I am almost certain I'll cheat on my husband or some tragic event will happen. I don't want to be divorced at all, so why risk it? I'd rather remain single than waste a huge part of my life on nothing.

Also, I don't think marriage is that important. If you can do everything a married couple should do without actually getting tied (and of course, you're perfectly OK with it) why get married?

[Insurmountable]

Marriage to me is this lifelong commitment on becoming one with someone else. You think you know a person but when you get married to them you don't even know the chip of the ice berg so your forever having conversations with the other person trying to get to know them better for who they really are and accepting every bit of it and compromise. And eventually you'll become this one. I've been reading a few books as well on love and marriage and sex. A lot of things have changed; there was this one type of marriage ceremony were these two people that were coming together would stand under this chuppah. And it was the marriage of God and people. When you stand under this its like god was above them and in the end pretty much these two people were not married until they had sex and then they were announced being married.

Personally I want to get married one day, I really really really want to. But before I do I want to take premarital counseling. Some people find it to be really negative to take something like that before their marriage but I think it helps. And even if we don't find out anything quite new its still nice to know that we had great open communication.

Divorces: I think the main reason people have divorces because think about it. When people get married the one thought people have is this one person choose this other person out of the 6 billion other people in the world. They choose them.

But after a while when they stop the forms of communications and the stopping of letting the other person in and stopping the getting to know each other more and more to create this one person their supposed to create in the long run...their opinion of I choose you out of the 6 billion people in the world turns in to this sad "I choose you?" and then they start to chase something better in which the long run they actually think is better and leave the other person in the past.

Marriage is a holy thing and it should be respected with the most honor and respect in my opinion.

Although in todays view marriage has become the complete opposite.

[MissFits]

I am getting married this coming October
Marriage, is a life long commitment that changes your relationship forever. It's a promise to love and cherish that person for the rest of your life. Even through the mistakes. Through the bad and the good you will be with your partner and your partner will be with you, both contributing what you can and compromising what you can't. It's something that is not always easy, but is worth it in the end.

I go to premarital counseling. He just asks a bunch of questions that we answer honestly, then we talk about it if we don't agree.

[Uronacid]

I can't think about how I feel about marriage. I don't think I know enough about the subject. Holly, you'll need to teach me. Anyway, here is the little that I do know. I'm afraid to get married. I will do it, but with the percentage of divorce these days I am afraid that it will end up in failure. :[

I am getting married this coming October
Marriage, is a life long commitment that changes your relationship forever. It's a promise to love and cherish that person for the rest of your life. Even through the mistakes. Through the bad and the good you will be with your partner and your partner will be with you, both contributing what you can and compromising what you can't. It's something that is not always easy, but is worth it in the end.

I go to premarital counseling. He just asks a bunch of questions that we answer honestly, then we talk about it if we don't agree.

Wait how old are you?

[tokyo-rose]

Wait how old are you?

She's 18.

[MissFits]

I am indeed 18, and I will be 19 when I am married. My husband will be 20

[Uronacid]

I am indeed 18, and I will be 19 when I am married. My husband will be 20

Wow, that's cool. It's going to be a while before I'm married. I have the patience, but in some ways I can't wait. xD

[MissFits]

Thank you, I think it's really cool.
We go to counseling and we were best friends for years before we even started dating. I really hate when people tell me I am not old enough to get married. If you don't know me, it's not your place to say that.
I can see why some people want to wait, but we don't see why we need to.

[Uronacid]

Thank you, I think it's really cool.
We go to counseling and we were best friends for years before we even started dating. I really hate when people tell me I am not old enough to get married. If you don't know me, it's not your place to say that.
I can see why some people want to wait, but we don't see why we need to.

Hey, it sounds like you're being responsible about it. Why should I judge you. xD

[MissFits]

Thank you!
Planning a wedding is expensive and confusing. It's also one of the most exciting things I have ever done. Knowing that after October 24 he and I will be bound together for all eternity is such an amazing thought, I can't even put it into words.

It sounds very serious but we still have a lot of fun with it. Whenever people ask why we are getting married I always say "So, I can marry into fame" because he is a Clooney. It's not true, of course, but I think it's funny.

[S-Majere]

Knowing that after October 24 he and I will be bound together for all eternity is such an amazing thought, I can't even put it into words.

First of all, congratulations!

Secondly, that part made me 'awww' softly at the computer screen.

I love the idea of marriage. I'm saddened to see a lot of modern couples just cruising through life either as 'partners' or in the 'engaged but never married' group. I'm with Elba on wanting to marry before 25 - and I damn sure know who I'm marrying.

[MissFits]

Thank you very much! I am glad I could make you AW. As a whole society doesn't AW enough :)

I agree with you on the "engaged but never married" My parent's never got married, but were Grandfathered into the common law marriage. Some people are just never ready to be married. It's sad, but I guess it helps lower the divorce rate .

[karmakiller]

I agree with twitchy (Sorry, having a brain fart and can't remember your name.)

I don't think I'll get married until I'm older. Right now I'm in that stage of my life where I don't want to be in a serious relationship. I think when I get older I'll want that, but right now that's not where I am in my life. I feel like I'd be tied down... but maybe that's just because I'm going out-of-state for college.

Marriage is something that I take serious though, and do believe that it should only be done once in your life. It's a commitment. It's when you truly become one. Plus, weddings are expensive enough, why tack on the price and stress of a divorce? I think too many people rush into marriage... like people who haven't known each more than a year. Or people who get married just because she gets pregnant.