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[shadowfax]

I actually thought that CB would be better after we all had to start a new chapter in the history of CB but nope, not much has changed. It's going to be back to the way it used to be, which is a shame because I've seen many positive changes but there'll always be the one problem with drama on CB. Shit, man, a little respect and friendliness wouldn't be so bad. A little civility wouldn't hurt anyone, especially if it's directed to someone you don't like.

[Elba]

I agree. WTF happened? Stupid Amber; I blame her.

[rnicron]

STFU, Rent-a-mod.

[superstitious]

I love you Padfoot.

I thought things were getting better too. :[

[shadowfax]

I agree. WTF happened? Stupid Amber; I blame her.

Eh. General bitchniess (even if was just a joke) doesn't exactly help.

The Lounge has just become a dump for drama.

I love you Padfoot.

I thought things were getting better too. :[

I love you, Moony.

[freeflow]

Hey atleast we went in a good direction for sometime I don't think we're that bad though. I mean yes there's drama but its not as bad as before IMO.

[EddieV]

Things are somewhat going down, not like when I first came. Which was dramatic as well but less.....so I think anyway....

[superstitious]

I was looking for the thread regarding post counts in Introductions (but Elba was kind enough to just say why LOL)

Anyway, in searching I came across this thread, which lead me to this thread, which leads me to, I miss Nate!

And Toya, you're right. It isn't that bad, just would be great if people could be nicer. I'll take people being genuine over faking nice, for sure but yeah.

[freeflow]

Yea I agree with what you and Mona said, no worries :]

[*BANANATUNG*]

Let me ask you. Is everyone in real life nice? No. There will never be any peace here on cB as you wish there to be. It's just how life works. Once a drama ends, another one starts up.

[Elba]

I am actually really nice offline A little bitchy, but nice nonetheless.

[xtwitchyx]

A long time ago, there was a forum I used to go to where they had a seperate area for people who wanted to cause trouble or have some e-drama. It was kind of funny sometimes.

[pandora]

yknow i honestly dont think it's as bad as it was. half the threads you're talking about are just jokes; there's no real hostility. just the steven vs tung drama and us vs sandra drama which wouldnt even exist if she would just quit being a mod.

[shadowfax]

Let me ask you. Is everyone in real life nice? No. There will never be any peace here on cB as you wish there to be. It's just how life works. Once a drama ends, another one starts up.

Of course not but it's not exactly the same. Here, drama just sits there or it festers, which is what usually happens. Some people SEEK drama/attention and for someone like me, it's harder to ignore it on CB than irl. I do a fair job of not getting involved or seeing drama in irl.

I can understand the jokes but sometimes, it's taken too far and it's annoying.

[superstitious]

I don't think that Mona is under the impression that there will ever be total peace here. I know I don't.

It would be nice if there was a little of this and a little of that. This place has plenty of assholes, plenty of bitches, plenty and plenty of mean spirited posts. That's fine. Most of it seems tongue-in-cheek anyway. It just would be nice if in addition to that there would be some pleasant and thought provoking conversation as well, that's all.

[karmakiller]

Hey atleast we went in a good direction for sometime I don't think we're that bad though. I mean yes there's drama but its not as bad as before IMO.

I agree. There's lots of joking amongst friends on the boards that people who are new here or don't know could take the wrong way. I don't think it's as bad as before. No one is going to be 100% kind 100% of the time. The forums would be boring then, but I think we've come a long way. Doesn't mean there isn't room for improvement.

[monster]

I actually thought that CB would be better after we all had to start a new chapter in the history of CB but nope, not much has changed. It's going to be back to the way it used to be, which is a shame because I've seen many positive changes but there'll always be the one problem with drama on CB. Shit, man, a little respect and friendliness wouldn't be so bad. A little civility wouldn't hurt anyone, especially if it's directed to someone you don't like.

to be honest with you, this is what makes CB awesome. it's friendly in some areas and in some areas, it's lots of drama.

look at what happens to utopias.

[arcanum]

I'm still sweet. Sometimes.

I really am the sweetest person you'll ever meet. I just think eDrama is funny. I never take anything serious on cB.

[shadowfax]

Meh, I wouldn't say that's what makes it awesome.

And I don't mean for this to be so serious. If there is conflict on the forums, it is rarely solved peacefully (lol, yeah, I know I'm asking too much for everyone to get along. That's like asking for world peace.) if solved at all. I guess I'm just annoyed that the recent conflicts haven't ended well.

[HakunaMatata]

I really thought the tear-down would be a really nice clean-slate sorta deal. And it was, but like Mona said - it's just back to the way it was again. I'm not, in any way, saying that inside jokes are terrible and are ruining cB, but take a look at the Lounge - it's just full of it, and only a very select number of people who take part. The sense of overall community, I think, is going way, way down.

And I know, know, know how many people just absolutely hate Rico. And I know that there are times when he's practically asking for it, but I don't know...it just seems so out of hand, like it's literally everyone vs. Rico. And that whole Amber thing? It just really feels like there's always that one person that a million people rally against to gtfo, and that kind of....bullying, I would say, shouldn't be so intense and constant.

[*BANANATUNG*]

Well said Kaycee. Couldn't be any more true. The whole bullying of Suz was imo unnecessary. There were other ways to get her to step down. But what's done is done. And then the whole bullying of Sandra is also stupid.

[arcanum]

'Bullying' of Suzzette? Are you talking about what happened before she went crazy? I would hardly call that bullying. And no, I don't think there were other ways to get her to step down.
The community needed to know what was going on, and what happened happened, its in the past.

I also don't think people voicing their opinions is really 'bullying'. Though, I suppose they could take it a bit easier on Sandra. But w/e.
[You're still cool in my book, Tung]

Steven, Trish, Elba, Spenc... they are always going to be the way they are. The way they act is very consistent, which is what I love about all of them.
If you don't like it, well... get over it. Cause they aren't going to change for you or anyone else.
(Thats probably the most I've typed on cB in awhile haha)

edit:
I still think the community is better than it used to be. but w/e.

[monster]

I really thought the tear-down would be a really nice clean-slate sorta deal. And it was, but like Mona said - it's just back to the way it was again. I'm not, in any way, saying that inside jokes are terrible and are ruining cB, but take a look at the Lounge - it's just full of it, and only a very select number of people who take part. The sense of overall community, I think, is going way, way down.

And I know, know, know how many people just absolutely hate Rico. And I know that there are times when he's practically asking for it, but I don't know...it just seems so out of hand, like it's literally everyone vs. Rico. And that whole Amber thing? It just really feels like there's always that one person that a million people rally against to gtfo, and that kind of....bullying, I would say, shouldn't be so intense and constant.

Seriously, if you want something where everyone loves everyone, go to a Christian forum.


and yes, alovesopure, you're right. CB is way better than it used to be.

[1angel3]

The Lounge has just become a dump for drama.

I agree.

[pandora]

so i guess.. we should just stop joking around. cuz i guess mona assumes that all newcomers dont have a sense of humor. i'm not trying to be a bitch in this particular thread, but seriously, mona. we're joking around. who the hell would think a thread full of "ELBA SHUT UP ELBA SHUT UP" is serious? no one argues like that, unless they're in 2nd grade. lighten up. kara is right, we're not going to change just because you're not happy about the way we act.

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and i've been to forums and other types of online communities where people are MUCH more unwelcoming towards newcomers. ESPECIALLY towards pretty girls and dumb noobs because the majority of people on there are ugly geeks who need to validate their existence in cyberland.

[rnicron]

so i guess.. we should just stop joking around. cuz i guess mona assumes that all newcomers dont have a sense of humor. i'm not trying to be a bitch in this particular thread, but seriously, mona. we're joking around. who the hell would think a thread full of "ELBA SHUT UP ELBA SHUT UP" is serious? no one argues like that, unless they're in 2nd grade. lighten up. kara is right, we're not going to change just because you're not happy about the way we act.

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and i've been to forums and other types of online communities where people are MUCH more unwelcoming towards newcomers. ESPECIALLY towards pretty girls and dumb noobs because the majority of people on there are ugly geeks who need to validate their existence in cyberland.

Like cliquemb?

[pandora]

you're an ass, kthx.

[rnicron]

inorite

[shadowfax]

so i guess.. we should just stop joking around. cuz i guess mona assumes that all newcomers dont have a sense of humor. i'm not trying to be a bitch in this particular thread, but seriously, mona. we're joking around. who the hell would think a thread full of "ELBA SHUT UP ELBA SHUT UP" is serious? no one argues like that, unless they're in 2nd grade. lighten up. kara is right, we're not going to change just because you're not happy about the way we act.

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and i've been to forums and other types of online communities where people are MUCH more unwelcoming towards newcomers. ESPECIALLY towards pretty girls and dumb noobs because the majority of people on there are ugly geeks who need to validate their existence in cyberland.

I didn't name any particular threads or particular people and I wasn't talking about inside jokes. It was more about conflicts.

And I'm not really concerned with other forums. One forum, and CB at that, is more than enough for me.

[ChadDevil]

i love how you make this thread yet people get in fights when were trying to change it

it isnt working

[arcanum]

No one is 'fighting', just discussing/sharing their opinions. There is a difference.

[brooklyneast05]

i'm in 100% agreement chad
i strongly believe spamming is the only way we can change cb
u are the savior

[ChadDevil]

^ Are you being sarcastic cause if you are well i am trying to change un like many members on cB.

[rnicron]

Can you start by using puncuation? Thanks.

Same goes for Undesi(red). Your posts confuse the hell out of me when you don't puncuate.

[HakunaMatata]

Oh, no, trust me on this one, you guys: I didn't mind that Suz was bullied.

[brooklyneast05]

^ Are you being sarcastic cause if you are well i am trying to change un like many members on cB.

keep up the good work son

[*jeanna*]

it pisses me off.
i'm sure the things people do [including myself] doesn't help but the people who get attacked dug their grave on their OWN. lying is the biggest reason probably

[superstitious]

Oh, no, trust me on this one, you guys: I didn't mind that Suz was bullied.

I don't think that she was "bullied" at all. People exposing someone's real side/agenda isn't bullying. Think of it as a candid press release. ;)

And like Kara, I don't think that there's any "fighting" going on here at all. People can disagree or discuss things without it being "fighting."

[S-Majere]

[Regarding Suzette] Even still superstitious, candid press releases could quite often be construed as defamation of character and that's a civil offence. A good lawyer can make a mint from the rubbish people publish online.

Seriously, after taking Law classes I'm extra careful about what I write online now. A little respect goes a helluva long way.

[superstitious]

Yikes, I didn't mean to get into a debate about Suzzette (in fact, I'm rather tired of the subject). I was just saying that I didn't think she was "bullied." :)

Having said that, having myself and my child mentioned among her little chats is a bit of defamation as well. ;) No win, no win. No matter how you look at it.

[S-Majere]

Quite possibly I think things would become far too confused for any outsider to make sense of; but it's a scary thought to think that people on forums have been sued for what they've typed without thinking!

I scare myself sometimes, cripes.

[*Steven*]

Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The Real Golden Rule: He who has the gold, rules.
Silver Rule: What goes around comes around.

[shadowfax]

Is there a Bronze rule?

[*Steven*]

iono, don't paint your skin orange?

[stephinika]

^^
Oh jeez.

But I don't know...I sort of agree with Mona. I think it has gotten better, but as we all are quite aware of, its not going to completely disappear (the drama/conflicts/etc.) so I think I've somewhat come to terms with that. *shrug* It does get frustrating in a way, but after some time there's not much that can be done.

[rnicron]

You know it's all just a bad dream now.

[Elba]

[Regarding Suzette] Even still superstitious, candid press releases could quite often be construed as defamation of character and that's a civil offence. A good lawyer can make a mint from the rubbish people publish online.

Seriously, after taking Law classes I'm extra careful about what I write online now. A little respect goes a helluva long way.

Defamation of character? You can't argue the truth. That bitch was two-faced.

[S-Majere]

An opinion is not the truth, but opinion will null that offense so either way, you could theoretically be safe.

[*Steven*]

An opinion is not the truth, but opinion will null that offense so either way, you could theoretically be safe.

If an opinion is stated enough and agreed upon by enough it becomes fact, regardless if it's factual.

[S-Majere]

Ah, so 'the winner is who writes the history books' kinda argument? Wouldn't say it makes it fact though. To Wikipedia!

[superstitious]

To play devil's advocate here, the words came from the horse's mouth. So how is posting a chat transcript (where you can see the words yourself) considered an "opinion"? She incriminated herself, she merely got caught and was exposed.

[S-Majere]

Oh right; not something I'd seen. She directly incriminated herself then?

I was thinking that considoring someone two-faced was simply a personal opinion jobby.

Didn't mean to bring this all up again!

[superstitious]

Haha, no worries. It's all here.

Wait Steve, you paint your skin orange. o.O

[S-Majere]

Oompa Loompa styly I think.

Hot damn that is a loooong conversation. I think I'll just stick to using the forums. Heh.

[ersatz]

People keep saying they start drama because they don't care about people online, but I think it's because they care too much...if you really didn't care, you wouldn't get into it. People make such a huuuuuuuuuuuge deal about the smallest things on here. Every little thing that anyone does wrong (or even right) is made into a giant spectacle. Mona's right; it's a new person every week. Once you run out of things to make fun of one person about or when they stop caring, you find a new one to make fun of and be mean to, cause I guess it's cool or something and then you don't feel so alone. If someone makes fun of you, you have your 5 or 6 people with you that make fun of others to back you up. It's seriously a high school (strangely enough, a lot of the "drama" people are in college).

Do it! Jump all over me! Now!

[rnicron]

You don't even come around enough for your opinion to matter. You guys think fun should just be one sides where everyone is nice and polite to everyone. I'd like to point out that most of the people you are referring to are keeping these boards alive. If you don't believe me, suspend us all for a day and see what happens.

[Elba]

You don't even come around enough for your opinion to matter. You guys think fun should just be one sides where everyone is nice and polite to everyone. I'd like to point out that most of the people you are referring to are keeping these boards alive. If you don't believe me, suspend us all for a day and see what happens.

I'd actually like to see that.

[*Steven*]

People keep saying they start drama because they don't care about people online, but I think it's because they care too much...if you really didn't care, you wouldn't get into it. People make such a huuuuuuuuuuuge deal about the smallest things on here. Every little thing that anyone does wrong (or even right) is made into a giant spectacle. Mona's right; it's a new person every week. Once you run out of things to make fun of one person about or when they stop caring, you find a new one to make fun of and be mean to, cause I guess it's cool or something and then you don't feel so alone. If someone makes fun of you, you have your 5 or 6 people with you that make fun of others to back you up. It's seriously a high school (strangely enough, a lot of the "drama" people are in college).

Do it! Jump all over me! Now!

Shoo fly, you're stupid.

[*jeanna*]

People keep saying they start drama because they don't care about people online, but I think it's because they care too much...if you really didn't care, you wouldn't get into it. People make such a huuuuuuuuuuuge deal about the smallest things on here. Every little thing that anyone does wrong (or even right) is made into a giant spectacle. Mona's right; it's a new person every week. Once you run out of things to make fun of one person about or when they stop caring, you find a new one to make fun of and be mean to, cause I guess it's cool or something and then you don't feel so alone. If someone makes fun of you, you have your 5 or 6 people with you that make fun of others to back you up. It's seriously a high school (strangely enough, a lot of the "drama" people are in college).

Do it! Jump all over me! Now!

durrr. i'm sure people don't come on here because they have to or they are learning something. only because i'm hella bored and probably anyone else who comes on cb is trying to cure that. life is one huge high school scene and will even happen in the work place.
drama rules the damn world.
alone? cool???
what? it's realizing how nutty people are and do it through a site and if you want that crazy out, you get them out by exposing.
that's what i think anyways.

[pandora]

I'd actually like to see that.

second.

[rnicron]

I have a bunch of plans Saturday, suspend us then?

[rnicron]

[arcanum]

Double poster.

[Elba]

Yeah, Saturday is perfect. I will be out of town all day, so that would be just fine.

[rnicron]

Yeah, Saturday is perfect. I will be out of town all day, so that would be just fine.

Were any of us on tonight? I come back after like 6-7 hours of being away and had nothing to read.

[Elba]

I was on with the exception of a nap and hanging out with the bf... okay, not really. Yeah, it's been dead.

[rnicron]

Let's not say it was because of Halloween and pretend like we caused it.

[Elba]

Okay...

[rnicron]

Mona, suspend us on Saturday. Thanks.

[Elba]

Forreal. All in favor, say "waffle twat".

[rnicron]

Don't use my word, but waffle twat.

[*Steven*]

Waffle Twat

[*jeanna*]

Waffle Twat

1. Waffle Twat
35 up, 17 down


The product of forcefully flogging a vagina with a tennis racket.

"That bitch gave me blue balls, so I got her back with a waffle twat"

[shadowfax]

Mona, suspend us on Saturday. Thanks.

Uh. Just don't sign on.

[rnicron]

Uh, just suspend us.

[shadowfax]

No. I'm not going to suspend people for some social experiment. I classify that as abusing my "powers". How hard would it be not to log in? Or even to come to CB?

[rnicron]

Why? Y'all used to do it all the time with the Dynasty crew.

[shadowfax]

I don't even know who was in the Dynasty crew or what the hell that even was. I think I was on vacation at that time and I wasn't even an admin.

[rnicron]

Steven Ding and his groups little forum.

[Sandraaa]

Yah well, it's cB, no? (un)fortunately, drama is a part of this forum, always will be.
I truly do not see what good being nice would do (which depends on your definition of nice) if it's not in your nature. Obviously, there'd be a lot of ass kissing and pretense which eventually would become boring.

The whole Suzzette problem did bring cBers closer for a short amount of time. Afterwards, cB resumed being cB.

About the Rico issue, what bugged me was the fact that many people started raining insults on him without actually knowing the whole story. Especially newbies.

[shadowfax]

^Well, some people assume they know what's going on or what they're talking about and join in only because it seems to be the "cool" thing to do.

[Sandraaa]

^ Exactly. I mean, fine, some people do have real reason not to like the guy. Rico isn't perfect. At a period, it was becoming the 'in thing'. Everyone bashed Rico. Even those who knew nothing concrete about the issue. Just hearsay. Wow. How cool is that?
But there are others whom's dislike for Rico have got nothing to do with what happened a year back, though. Granted.

[EddieV]

There are many different reasons for disliking Rico though.