Different Religions Options

[*jeanna*]

Alright, do you honestly believe that if you and your partner have different outlooks on religion that you can have a healthy relationship?

I'm an atheist and have dated Christians even a Mormon.

One guy was horrible. He knew my thoughts on it yet still tried to shove his religion in my face whenever he could*.

When I dated the Mormon I tried SO hard to be understanding and accept it. I even went to his church with him 2 times but it was too strange and *so was he. I did date an atheist once and it did last pretty long. With all these different religions popping up and options, think it could last?

[*not saying all religious people do. he was the only one]

i checked and didnt see any other posts about this

[brooklyneast05]

it just depends on the person i think
because u have the christians who want to save u from a burning eternal hell so they shove their beliefs down ur throat 24/7 even though u don't give a f**k because u don't believe it in the first place
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and then there's those who it doesn't seem to matter to

[*jeanna*]

it just depends on the person i think
because u have the christians who want to save u from a burning eternal hell so they shove their beliefs down ur throat 24/7 even though u don't give a f**k because u don't believe it in the first place
cough
and then there's those who it doesn't seem to matter to

yeah. i just dont think or ever seen couples who have different religious beliefs that end up together, sure there are going to be some.

[rorhinna]

I don't think that it can work,
I'm a christian, but I don't shove
religion down other people's throats
at all.
I've actually turned down several
guys because they didn't have the same
belief as me and I just know that
it would be a point of frustration and
misunderstanding if they didn't have
the same beliefs as me.

[MissFits]

I think it could work. Both the people in the relationship would have to be understanding of their partners beliefs. Just as you excpect people to be understanding of yours.

You would have the most problems when you had children, though.

[revka]

it just depends on the person i think
because u have the christians who want to save u from a burning eternal hell so they shove their beliefs down ur throat 24/7 even though u don't give a f**k because u don't believe it in the first place
cough
and then there's those who it doesn't seem to matter to

exactly

and u don't want ur partner constantly criticizing what u do or don't believe in

[nosylilme]

I think it depends on the people in the relationship. If the two people accept the fact that they don't share the same beliefs, it should work out.
I don't necessarily share the same religious thoughts with my boyfriend. We never really talk about our religions actually.

[brooklyneast05]

also
i don't really wanna be with someone who thinks i'm going to burn in hell forever and ever.

[Trinity54]

It is all up to the person if they care more about religion than an relationship it is there choice they are the ones missing out but I could care less about it I myself am in Paganism yet I have dated a man with the religion of christianity we worked out well for a few months yet we did not judge eachother due to personal belifes.

[Sandraaa]

I dated a Jew who told me that Christians are hypocrites and that they're going to hell. He said they were idiots yadi yada. I'm agnostic but my family is Christian. We fought A LOT. I always defend my family.

It didn't work out. Not solely because of religion, so many other things too.

Honestly, I'd rather date an Agnostic or Atheist than a religious person.

[brooklyneast05]

^ agreed, it's just easier

[Trinity54]

I dated a Jew who told me that Christians are hypocrites and that they're going to hell. He said they were idiots yadi yada. I'm agnostic but my family is Christian. We fought A LOT. I always defend my family.

It didn't work out. Not solely because of religion, so many other things too.

Honestly, I'd rather date an Agnostic or Atheist than a religious person.

I say if you have an religion then keep it to yourself do not try and push it on others just live on and keep your focus on the relationship other than the religion.

[Elba]

I would not go out with someone who is a different religion--unless Christian since it's basically the same thing. Definitely would NOT go out with a Jehova's Witness.

[Sandraaa]

I forgot.

I dated a muslim who wanted me to touch the Koran. I'm not scared of the book but the way he went around it freaked me! He was always murmuring something in Arabic. He converted to Islam about a year ago and I swear, he exaggerated the religion thing. He's Brazilian but he learned Arabic in less than a year. He goes to the Mosque (I can't spell it) EVERY Friday, prays at a certain time.

I swear, it was awkward. He was way too religious for me. Although, that's not why it ended.

[S-Majere]

I don't really like the idea of dating anyone with any religious beliefs.

The whole idea of God seems ridiculous to me at times; at others merely quaint.

[*jeanna*]

I would not go out with someone who is a different religion--unless Christian since it's basically the same thing. Definitely would NOT go out with a Jehova's Witness.

no christmas presents for you!

[Elba]

no christmas presents for you!

Exactly. I am too selfish for that. ALSO, my aunt married a Jehova's Witness and I hate him. Him and his family are a bunch of hypicrites. I am not saying all of them are like that, but my uncle has just made me realize I don't want someone who is anything like him.

[*Steven*]

Dude Joho's don't even celebrate xmas.

[queen]

i know of a couple who are engaged, and one is irish catholic while the other is a muslim. they have decided that they will expose their children to both religions/cultures, and they would allow them to choose.

on the surface, it seems like a harmless idea --very "american" (the freedom to choose). however, i think it also contradicts the idea of faith. if one truly believes something, why would you let someone you love, your own spouse and offspring, to choose something else, unless you believe in that, too? then there are people who believe in two or more religions at a time, kind of like my own parents, which is also confusing.

i don't want to say that couples who believe in the same religion last longer, because that's not always the case, but it is a factor --sometimes a major factor. it's almost the same as a couple liking the same movies or doing the same things, only faith is something one can base his/her life on, and not just some hobby/interest. it's not something a couple should just experiment or play with, but that's my opinion 'cause i'm pretty grounded in my spiritual beliefs.

[brooklyneast05]

on the surface, it seems like a harmless idea --very "american" (the freedom to choose). however, i think it also contradicts the idea of faith. if one truly believes something, why would you let someone you love, your own spouse and offspring, to choose something else, unless you believe in that, too?

yea that's what i was getting at. i'm not religious, so i can't really say i guess. but it seems like if i REALLY believed it, and i REALLY believed that my gf was going to hell. id' have a major issue with that, i don't want anyone i care about to burn eternally. i just don't see how that works out, but i guess if they just wanna ignore that then ok

[transcendentalis...]

i'm christian and i've dated an agnostic for more than two years. i think you could make a serious relationship work with different religions, but it depends on how deeply you are into your religion or how you interpret it.

[monster]

I forgot.

I dated a muslim who wanted me to touch the Koran. I'm not scared of the book but the way he went around it freaked me! He was always murmuring something in Arabic. He converted to Islam about a year ago and I swear, he exaggerated the religion thing. He's Brazilian but he learned Arabic in less than a year. He goes to the Mosque (I can't spell it) EVERY Friday, prays at a certain time.

I swear, it was awkward. He was way too religious for me. Although, that's not why it ended.

I hope you realize that is the normal for Muslims, and it should be the normal for Christians. ( Dedication-wise, I mean. )

[kryogenix]

i know of a couple who are engaged, and one is irish catholic while the other is a muslim. they have decided that they will expose their children to both religions/cultures, and they would allow them to choose.

on the surface, it seems like a harmless idea --very "american" (the freedom to choose). however, i think it also contradicts the idea of faith. if one truly believes something, why would you let someone you love, your own spouse and offspring, to choose something else, unless you believe in that, too? then there are people who believe in two or more religions at a time, kind of like my own parents, which is also confusing.

i don't want to say that couples who believe in the same religion last longer, because that's not always the case, but it is a factor --sometimes a major factor. it's almost the same as a couple liking the same movies or doing the same things, only faith is something one can base his/her life on, and not just some hobby/interest. it's not something a couple should just experiment or play with, but that's my opinion 'cause i'm pretty grounded in my spiritual beliefs.

Catholics are obligated to marry other Catholics, or at least someone who will raise the children as Catholics.

You hit the nail on the head. You'd be a hypocrite to call yourself a faithful person, yet not share that truth with your family.

[jackizzle]

I think it depends on how dreastic the differences are. I mean if one of you beleives in God and the other beleives in Buddha, then maybe..

I am Mormon. I don't really beleive in my religion (and I'm not weird =])

I think it also depends on how INTO your religion you are. Sometimes it could work I guess, you just have to respect each other.

[Sandraaa]

I hope you realize that is the normal for Muslims, and it should be the normal for Christians. ( Dedication-wise, I mean. )

It is what a normal Muslim (except almost forcing me to touch the Koran) should do. But I don't know of any Muslim who is that dedicated and I have lots of Muslim acquaintances. Hell my class is about 90 % Muslim.
He even talked about me attending the Mosque with him. It was just too much, you know. But it didn't bother me enough to break up with him.

I'd just rather date someone with little or no faith in the future.

[littleswallow]

I think it could work only if you learn how to respect each other's beliefs (which, I admit, is extremely hard to do for most of us).

Hey, I know a couple who have different religions. One is a Muslim and the other one is a Catholic, and they're still going strong.

My grandfather's an atheist and my grandmother is Catholic, the relationship obviously worked because we're here right now.

Respect is the key.