girls and lesbian/bisexual friends, are you ok with lesbian friends? |
 Oct 14 2007, 06:47 PM
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 HpDm  Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 539,336  |
When I was in middle school I came out to my friends and began dating a girl (I'm female if you haven't guessed yet). I had some heartbreak over that, and I have not dated anyone, guy or girl since. Many of my friends who knew me then, have avoided the subject of me liking women. I feel really self-concious around them now and am always worried that they will think I am attracted to them or hitting on them when I could NEVER think that about my friends. What makes it worse is we have a hotel-stay during the year and I am in a room with 3 other women and I am always worried they think I am staring at them!
I guess I am curious about how other girls respond to their friends or would respond to their friends if they were lesbian or bisexual. Would you be suspicious of behaviour? Would you be ok staying in a room with them? |
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Oct 14 2007, 06:52 PM
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 最高のLady Group: Member Posts: 300 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 514,808 |
i have gay and lesbian friends. id never treat my friend's sexual preference as a contagious disease or something.i accept them for who they are.
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Oct 14 2007, 07:04 PM
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 Death is kinky. Group: Member Posts: 155 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 583,172 |
Im bisexual.And i used to have some bitchass friends like that.
So what I did is I told them to suck my clit and GTFO of my life then if you cant support me. Sometimes you have to do that in order to better yourself. |
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Oct 14 2007, 07:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,020 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,785 |
Id be okay with it, because I know they dont like me in that way.
Chances are you are probably more worried about it then they are, if you think they are worried about it, just talk to them. |
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Oct 17 2007, 10:55 PM
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 bliss. Group: Member Posts: 735 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,566 |
one of my best friend is a lesbian and i used to go to a all girls school so not a problem for me.
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Oct 17 2007, 11:10 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
yeah i'm completely fine. then again, i'm at an all-women's college where a large percentage of the women here are lesbians/bisexual. if not, they're lugs or bugs. i roomed with a lesbian for 1 semester last year. some of my best friends at college are lesbians. so no, i have absolutely no problem at all.
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Oct 17 2007, 11:13 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 299 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 457,013 |
I had and still have friends who are bi. I never feel uncomfortable around them.
Don't worry about what they think. If they can't accept you, then it's time to find some new people who'll accept you for who you are. |
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Oct 17 2007, 11:28 PM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
while still thinking about that, i'm probably bi myself.
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| *Steven* |
Oct 17 2007, 11:57 PM
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^would you eat another girl out?
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Oct 18 2007, 12:01 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
i've never ate a girl out before, but i don't think that i'd mind.
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Oct 18 2007, 12:50 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 455 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,104 |
I wouldn't judge my friends by their sexual orientation.
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Oct 18 2007, 12:56 AM
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 :) Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,636 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,459 |
I have quite a few bi/lesbian friends. It doesn't bother me though, and I don't mind being in a room with them.
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Oct 18 2007, 02:42 AM
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 I am not afraid, I was born for this. Group: Official Member Posts: 805 Joined: Aug 2007 Member No: 565,063 |
I have no problem with Gay people. Who cares? My best friend is BiSexual. As long as my gay male friends don't get to detailed about what they do with there "boyfriends", i'm good. or as long as my gay female friends don't try anything with me, considering i'm not gay, then i'm fine with them.
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Oct 18 2007, 07:10 AM
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 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
I have had several bisexual or gay friends and it actually made me feel really uncomfortable. I am homophobic to some extent; which I simply can't help, I realise that love is love and a person has every right to live life how they want, but it didn't stop me feeling very awkward around my 'otherwise inclined' friends...especially if they were drunk at the time.
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Oct 18 2007, 07:17 AM
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 damn, right! Group: Member Posts: 368 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,547 |
I don't really mind having lesbian or bisexual friends.. I mean, I had bisexual classmates during PE and we had to take the shower together and all... nobody really cared.
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Oct 18 2007, 09:40 AM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
Well...I wouldn't mind about bisexuality or Lesbians. Think girls would be bi-curious in time to time.
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| *jeanna* |
Oct 18 2007, 11:22 AM
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i have a lesbian friend. she came out in high school. she even shaved her head.
it's not odd around her. |
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Oct 18 2007, 03:03 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
I don't have any lesbian friends currently, but my old best friend was bisexual. I was fine with it. Homosexuality doesn't matter to me in my friendships.
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Oct 18 2007, 04:35 PM
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 Luv u Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 527,401 |
I'm cool with my gay and bisexual friends.
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Oct 18 2007, 08:05 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
It doesn't bother me. The only way that it'd be strange for me is if it's them and me and they're all into their PDA. It's like that with my straight friends too, lol. PDA is just gross.
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Oct 19 2007, 03:51 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,071 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,748 |
I don't have any actually, but honestly, I wouldn't care at all. I'm very open when it comes to that stuff so it wouldn't be a problem for me.
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Oct 23 2007, 09:04 AM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
I told my friends that I was bisexual BUT that I wasn't attracted to them at all. I told them that they weren't my type. And it's the truth.
Find yourself new 'friends'. Gaah. |
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Oct 23 2007, 11:53 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 573,282 |
the only reason I hesitated in telling my friends and other people I like girls is because I always think the girls i tell are going to automatically assume I like them. I'm just like, "you don't like every guy you see, right? well, it works the same way for me, and I'm SO not into you!"
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Oct 23 2007, 12:19 PM
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 shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
i have plenty of gay and lesbians friends. i don't have a problem with them. they're pretty cool to me i think. i mean they are just trying to live life.
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