Need some advice!! Options

[JonathanK]

Ok well back in my high school days. (Last year) my first ever gf dumped me for a guy she talked to on the computer and never met before. Ok yea that hurt me and it took me a while to get over. Now Im in University, i have a clean slate. Well the first few weeks were awsome. Met this girl, she said she liked me so we started to go out. It's now been about a month and a half and yesterday after i finished work we were suppose to hang out. She texted me later saying *something came up and she might run alittle late*. I thought ok not a big deal. Then it became 11 o'clock and i was bored out of my mind and she texted me again saying *I don't think ill make it tonight, ill explain tomorrow . I am sorry*. So i texted her back and asked her if anythnig was wrong. I then went to sleep at about 11:30 cause well i was bored and nothing to do. I planned this romantic night out and everything and well yea nothing. Then I get a texted saying along the line "I need to be honest with you, i need to be alone tonight and clear my head. I feel overwhlemed right now with everything and i feel like i want to be single but i don't* That came as a great shock to me and i couldnt sleep all night. She has a job and told me she started gettin gmore hours, and this is our frist year at uni so maybe she's just stressed. I texted her back saying something like *well im sorry you feel that way but im sure you cna make it through this*. I don't know i feel so cheap right now. Everytime i get somethnig going and start to be happy in life something gets in my way. Im sick of it, i always ask myself am I not suppose to have what i want, and am i ever going to have what i want sometimes. I don't know i really connect with my gf like any other and i don't wanna lose her. But maybe i should let her go think for a while and if she really cares she'll come back. Im sorry im just venting right now. Im just in a mix of depression and being pissed. I don't know where to turn. Thnaks

[Kay-]

Aww.. im sorry to hear that but i guess you ran into a bit of bad luck

[JonathanK]

I dont know what she's thinknig right now. Hopefully it turns out alright, least i pray for that. It seems if i don't have bad luck i don't have anything with the word *luck* in it at all. Seems everytime i get something going something stops me. Just really pissed and depressed

[Dianavontease]

Just let her go.
And party hard (well not too hard) You are in college..Youll find someone better.

[JonathanK]

well she just texted me and wants to take a break...I feel fan f**king tastic now.....god am i depressed i really like her. Relationships with me always seem to mess up, im sick of this.

[Dianavontease]

Honey I dont think at this time you are ready for a long term relationship.

Try playing the field a bit.

[JonathanK]

im gonna give her her space. Maybe after she clears her head she'll come back. I guess now i have to pick a new spot to sit in class lol.... this happened to me twice already it really bites though. Seems like im alwyas standin in the rain watchin my life fall apart.

[*BANANATUNG*]

FUCK OFF BITCH
YOU ARE A LOSER. GO GET LAID

[RAWRstephishere]

Turn gay.

[JonathanK]

This is exactly what she wrote me if you guy/girls want to know and want to make of it *I have to be honest with u, i need to clear my head and i need to be alone i feel like right now things r overwhelming and i need to be single*

[*jeanna*]

Just let her go.
And party hard (well not too hard) You are in college..Youll find someone better.

exactly. college isn't about finding your husband lol. he'll be drunk and wake up with herpes.

i'm not even looking for a long term relationship till my mid 20's

[MissFits]

I'll be blunt. I don't think she likes you. You really deserve a girl that's as excited about you as you are about her.

So, make friends, go to parties, find ladies and make nice :)

[kayla0790x]

This sounds like me a bit
I have no luck with relationships either
Just stay single!
Live your life
I dont know your age but im guessing your still pretty young
So just be young!
Wait untill your older for a relationship.
Saves any heartache on top of college stress

[S-Majere]

Sounds like the girl really is overwhelmed!

I've just started uni too - it's basically a free-for-all singles night with everyone trying to pair up before the term starts. I'd give her the space she needs and just be there for her. She hasn't blown you off - I used that line of 'needing space' on my current and only boyfriend no end of times before we started dating seriously. He was my first too, so I was equally as confused.

I'd give it time, best of luck!

[Call911Quick]

She doesn't not-like you. She's probably taking heavy courses, plus working, etc.

Tell her that it's ok, and that you'd give her as much time and space as she needs, and that you'd be there for her if she ever needed you. Tell her to talk to you when she feels secure with her life, and is ready to date.

That'll show you respect her, genuinely care for her, and will thus make her fall madly in love with you.

Ok maybe not madly in love but you get the drift.

You have to be really cool with everything, and understanding. However, don't loosen your grip, aka if she wants to go to some dance that you're not invited to, or a house party of another guy, you'll have to step in. But, if she's working late, etc. Give her some space.