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 Oct 6 2007, 08:20 PM
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 roosternamedingo.  Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926  |
Okay. Posting this embarasses me a bit. I feel pathetic. No scratch that, I AM pathetic. But here goes:
Anyway. I have this ex-boyfriend. We broke up roughly 2 months ago. I don't think I'm over him yet. I don't know if he's over me. Right now, we hang out a lot, talk a lot, he even walked me home and stayed at my house once. Basically, we're like best friends? I think. I don't know. I'm confused. Am I justified in thinking that there might still be something there? And how would I know if there is something? Please don't tell me to move on. Looong story about how I can't at the moment. I will someday. Promise. |
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Oct 6 2007, 08:29 PM
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 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
ask him
there's not another way to know... |
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| *Villainess* |
Oct 6 2007, 08:52 PM
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Sometimes you jsut have to get balls and ask.
It cant hurt to try right? |
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Oct 6 2007, 08:56 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
^ Yes it does. I don't wanna be let down =(
Ignorance is bliss? I just want to know what typical ex behavior is. |
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Oct 6 2007, 08:59 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
I think you guys should have sex. And if you guys both liked it, then yes there is something there.
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Oct 6 2007, 09:01 PM
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 s e c r e c y * Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 417,181 |
or stick a banana up his butt and see if he likes it.
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Oct 6 2007, 10:26 PM
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 BANG Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Aug 2007 Member No: 565,234 |
Well it kinda depends on why you guys broke up in the first place.
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Oct 8 2007, 04:49 AM
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 ‹(. .)› Group: Official Member Posts: 2,367 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,089 |
unless one has already fallen for another or if one has simply stopped feeling love/lust/desire for the other (which may be the reason for the breakup), there will always be lingering feelings between two people right after they break up.
at the very least, they would still care for/about one another. so uh... yes? |
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| *Uronacid* |
Oct 8 2007, 10:10 AM
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Look, you're never going to move on if you just hang out with him all the time. You have to stop hanging out with him until you loose those boyfriend/girlfriend feelings and can think with a level head.
It sounds like the situation is hurting you. Tell him, if nothing is going on between you both then you would like to move on because as much as you would like to have him around you can't move on with him being there all the time. You need some time away from him to loose the feelings you had if he's not going to fulfill your emotional needs. |
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Oct 8 2007, 03:46 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 59 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 580,537 |
i really don't believe in going backwards (i.e., breaking up and getting back together.) after you break up with someone, your feelings change drastically - remember, there WAS a reason you broke up in the first place. all of the times i've seen my friends get back together, it's been really ugly. you can't expect to ever be able to get over him if you keep hanging out with him and getting mixed feelings.
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Oct 8 2007, 04:20 PM
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 cheeeesy like theres no tomorrow Group: Member Posts: 3,316 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,142 |
QUOTE(Drifted @ Oct 6 2007, 10:01 PM)  or stick a banana up his butt and see if he likes it. i second. |
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Oct 9 2007, 04:08 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
QUOTE i really don't believe in going backwards (i.e., breaking up and getting back together.) after you break up with someone, your feelings change drastically - remember, there WAS a reason you broke up in the first place. all of the times i've seen my friends get back together, it's been really ugly. you can't expect to ever be able to get over him if you keep hanging out with him and getting mixed feelings. Maybe. But we're giving it a shot. We admitted to still having feelings for each other last night. We're not going back out again...yet, but we'll just let it flow and see what happens. Thanks guys 
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Oct 27 2007, 08:22 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
I say you just ask him, you don't wanna be let down--but how will you ever know?
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Oct 27 2007, 08:47 PM
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 for SHIZZ. Group: Member Posts: 878 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 435,846 |
Better to be let down now than later...
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