when do you call it a relationship? Options

[sugalove1215]

i'm a freshman in high school, and the guy i like is a junior. he's really nice to me and every time i see him, he gives me really long hugs. Also, he gives me his jacket a lot. well, last night, i found out from my friend [whose also his friend] that theres apparently rumors we're going out. he hasn't officially asked me to go out, so i was just wondering if there's a point where two people become a couple without actually saying the words "will you go out with me?"

[*IVIike*]

have you gone on a date???

[sugalove1215]

no, we haven't.
i think it's kinda weird that people think we're going out but hey, i'm not complaining

[*Moderator*]

Well, people ask in different ways without actually having to say "will you go out with me?" Hey, if you don't have a problem with it then I guess you guys can consider each other a couple.

[queen]

ask him if he considers your relationship a romantic one or a friendly one.

[seonho]

Never do you want to assume. Don't automatically presume you guys are in a relationship. You're the only one that's going to look like a dumb shit in the end. Talk to him about it.

[kenshinx001]

Don't make assumptions.... well there was this girl from work i like and we were best friends. i think i'm the only guy she hugs. she got jealous whenever i speak to other girls. there are a few times that we go out but i can't officially say that those are dates. A lot of things happened after but then in the end she told me we were just friends nothing more. i was crushed, devastated, decapitated, burned. she never spoke to me anymore....

[towntown2]

You know what happens when you assume.

The best thing is to talk about it with the guy. That way, you both know where you stand. Casually bring it up in a conversation, like, "Hey, I've been hearing rumors that we're going out. Weird..."

[annalucky]

When he asks you out and continues to? My boyfriend and I were really good friends for a couple of months before he actually asked me out on a date. :]

[ilauqh]

Like others said.. You have to talk to him about it. I was in a similar situation this past year actually. Everyone thought my friend & I were going out but we weren't. We both kind of liked each other but we both knew we weren't dating and that we didn't want relationships so we talked about it and were able to tell people what the real situation was.

Your situation could be very different but it's best to find out what his feelings are before you go around telling people that yes you're going out with him.

[sheridan_whitesi...]

Giving of a warmth giving article of clothing is a definite sign of friendship escalation whether he realizes it or not. Just use more and more romantic-style language and keep dropping hints. Should work unless his head is made of palladium.

[lilsnoopy]

Now a days, the only time a dude would even care of you were cold is unless he has an interest in you! You should be assertive, and ask him out =D Thats my opinion, though a lot of my dude friends say they would go out with an assertive chick who asked them out lol