Separation Anxiety ;; My Baby's On Vacation ♥, How do you feel when your "significant other" goes away? Options

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So my boyfriend left for a retreat yesterday, he'll be back on friday but i have
[HORRIBLE and TERRIBLE]
separation axiety, depression.. THE WORKS!

its been a month straight that ive hung out with him all day everyday.

im so sad.

The question at hand is:

How do YOU feel when your significant other has to go away for "X" amount of time, and how do you cope?

THIS TOPIC ISNT ABOUT ME! LOOK AT THE QUESTION ITS ASKING,

How do you feel when your "significant other" goes away?

[1angel3]

Make yourself busy. Clean the house.

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Make yourself busy. Clean the house.

Theres nothing to clean. I tried, everythings clean (all thanks to my mother)

[1angel3]

Theres nothing to clean. I tried, everythings clean (all thanks to my mother)

Read a book, get on cb!

[weed]

Yeah, my boyfriend was gone for eight days. He just got back on Saturday. How long have you been with him? This could test your relationship, so it might turn out to be a good thing.

Just keep up the communication. Keep texting him/calling him...keep talking. And when he comes back it will all be better. :)

2 years.
I know this sounds so silly but mannn.
We havent been apart for like a whole week in AGES!



Oh and i really dont feel like reading because ill be doing plenty of it in december.

[xcorphz]

Yeah, my boyfriend was gone for eight days. He just got back on Saturday. How long have you been with him? This could test your relationship, so it might turn out to be a good thing.

Just keep up the communication. Keep texting him/calling him...keep talking. And when he comes back it will all be better. :)

YEAH i agree with her..

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its actually kind of hard because theyre really busy doing things so he'll call maybe 3 times a day for about 10 mins.

Ahhh this is UN-FAIR!

[pinayprincess]

i feel scared... but i try to trust him... im away at the momment, while hes still back home..

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^^^^ i trust him i just miss him terribly.

[Rachel]

Wow get over it. I have spent a total of 3 weeks with my boyfriend the entire summer.

[*Programmer*]

well one thing is for sure when ever you meet up you both already know what's going to happen. so rather then dwell on it. look forward to the occasion.

[towntown2]

Keep yourself busy, 1angel3 said.
Just do stuff.
With him gone, consider it a chance to do whatever you want.
Go shopping, go paint, go be creative!

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
But while he's absent, you gotta find something to occupy your mind with.
The reunion will be sweeter.

Be sure to maintain some communication, too, though.

[yupimchuck]

i dated this kid for over a year
and i went maybe 3 weeks in all without seeing him
liek he went on a trip for a week
and like another 4 day trip

and ten i guess 10 days jus here and there without seein him

and we broke up and i went from seein him every day to never.

now thats shit was hard
i dont really have any advice for you btu i wanted you to know jus - youll be fine
i got really f**kin bad anxiety , not separation but i understand

[*Insurmountable*]

Well considering I'm in a long distance relationship...we only see each other ever 5-6 months..

So we use other types of communication. You know, the phone, letters, etc.


Believe me you don't have it bad. Keep yourself busy and your mind off things and you should be just fine.

[redpeony]

Stop being so selfish and get over it. 3 times a day 10 minutes each is PLENTY. You and your boyfriend should both have your own lives.

I've been with my boyfriend for two years and the entire last year he was away for school. I saw him at winter break and at reading break. It was hard, yes and it will be this coming year but you need to learn to live your own life anyway. That's the only way your relationship can be healthy.

Maybe it's just how I am as an individual, but as much as I miss my boyfriend, I enjoy it when he goes away for little retreats and things. Having extra time to spend with my friends, by myself... I feel it energizes myself and makes me even more happy to see him when he does return.

[xFaith]

i would feel very down
and would be worried he would cheat or something

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Stop being so selfish and get over it. 3 times a day 10 minutes each is PLENTY. You and your boyfriend should both have your own lives.

Shut the f**k up and YOU get a life, i miss him and how the f**k is that wrong?

I dont give ashit how long youve been with your boyfriend its not about HOW LONG you've been with someone its about how you feel.

and right now im f**king pissed off.



ok.

sorry about that.

[Joss-eh-lime]

My friend was attached to her ex boyfriend like nothing I've ever seen. And since I've never been in your shoes I'll just give you some off topic advice

if you choose to spend time with your friends while hes away DO NOT obsess about him and call him every other hour.



Maybe call him once a day, and spend the rest of the time doing things you cant do when hes around.

[*Michelle*]

Considering I'm usually the one that goes away, I just try to KIT as much as possible :] And also, Steven and I always write each other letters before we go on long trips that we can re-read while we're away :] And we always keep a token of each other... He kept my class ring on a chain around his neck, and I had his beanie and a stuffed animal he gave me.

[Rachel]

Shut the f**k up and YOU get a life, i miss him and how the f**k is that wrong?

I dont give ashit how long youve been with your boyfriend its not about HOW LONG you've been with someone its about how you feel.

and right now im f**king pissed off.



ok.

sorry about that.

How bout you shut the f**k up and realize how good you have it?

[redpeony]

How bout you shut the f**k up and realize how good you have it?

Exactly. I'm just telling you that you should really be more grateful when there are those of us who go for substantially longer periods without our SO's.

Before you blow up and be all immature about it I suggest you realize how good you have it, don't be so whiny and imply that I do not love my boyfriend as much as you love yours just because you miss him more.

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sorry its just SOFAKING harrrrd for me and i know its hard for you too but, [fdjghsdfghkfd] <- thats how i feel.

[AimeeLynn]

Hang out with your friends.

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Hang out with your friends.

i still think about him all the time.
i wonder what he's doing, and if he's eaten...
im so lamee.

[xburnoutx00]

I haven't seen my boyfriend in over two months so stop complaining.
:]

[SimplicityGirl]

no offence but you sound extremely clingy. He's only gone for a couple of days, and you make it sound like he's gone for MONTHS. Look, me and my boyfriend rarely see each other even though we're both here and not on vacation. We see each other maybe once or twice every week; sometimes I don't get to see him for two weeks straight!

Stop obsessing over him sheesh.

[pikimoo]

I think everyone here should read the original post.. unless that's not what it originally said

But yeah.. I know how you feel. I went to Chicago for a week and even though I had only been dating my boyfriend for a month (a month the day I left -.-) I still missed him like crazy and ran all over the city with my laptop trying to get a connection to the internet so I could email/talk to him.

All the other girls on the trip spent the whole time either with their boyfriends who came on the trip and slept in each others rooms.. or they talked with their boyfriends on the phone all night and texted when they weren't talking. I didn't even have a phone with me so I felt really jealous =(

I dunno if I could go through that again, honestly. I missed him a ton. But it was nice shopping around with a couple of the gals, buying stuff for our boyfriends and talking about how much we care about them ^^; It was also nice coming back to him and seeing that he missed me, too..

I wasn't too worried about him cheating on me, but I wanted so much to be back in his arms.


It's not that I'm clingy.. it's just that he's not JUST my boyfriend.. he's also my best friend. I like talking to/seeing him as much as possible.. and I've sorta gotten used to it. If I don't see him on a Thursday (Thurs is our date day) I get really upset. Because it's not what I'm used to.

[Flaunted]

Atleast he could call you right?
Have fun while he's away, do things that you normally wouldn't do with him. Sure you miss him like crazy but that still doesn't mean you can't hang out with your other friends, I'm sure that they want to see you without him sometimes and go on a girls night out or something.

My boyfriend went to Japan for a whole month, on the other side of the world! He called me twice throughout that month for probably 8 minutes. sure there would be emails but yeah. Also the fact that... there are Japanese women and and how that could have really ended us. Seriously it was the hardest shit ever.

But, just keep yourself busy with things you like to do, that don't always involve your boyfriend. he'll be back in your arms in no time :)

[EmoEyelinerx]

Stop being so selfish and get over it. 3 times a day 10 minutes each is PLENTY. You and your boyfriend should both have your own lives.

I agree.

[xxjess-91xx]

My guy went to Canada for two weeks a few months ago, I saw him the day before he left, and was away for one week myself...but its still hard

I found making myself busy actually made me miss him more when I stopped cos I was tired and wants a cuddle

I wrote him a letter that he'd get when he got home and that really helped

[xxjess-91xx]

^^
Adding to my comment

You speak to him 3 times a day for 10 mins...I got 3 15min calls in two weeks!

And he's moving out there soon so I might not see him for ages, until I can afford to go out

Your lucky he'll be home soon
And wny not read a book just cos you'll be doing that in Dec...?

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i don't think i'll be able to survive, if he went away for a long time.. but if i trust him, and he trusts me, and we have a communication plan. it could work out, ;]

[Rachel]

^It was a week, not the end of the f**king world. I went a month without my boyfriend, to seeing him for two weeks, then another month without him, to one single week, and now we're apart again. Honestly, they've been dating for two years, she should deal with the week and get the f**k over it.

[*Uronacid*]

You should start doing heroine. You should become an alcoholic. You should go have sex with your dog. Hell, you should date your dog. Put your boyfriend on a leash, ride him like a pony, take him to school naked, and jerk him off in front of the whole class to show them how it works. Make sure you catch all his milk in a cup so you can rub it all over your face and tell the class how good it is for your skin.

Feed him some hay. :D

[*Insurmountable*]

^hold on is the whole boyfriend thing for if she dated her dog? Or if like she should do that when her bf returns? o_O


or is there a further meaning to it.

*goes into deep thought*

[*Uronacid*]

^hold on is the whole boyfriend thing for if she dated her dog? Or if like she should do that when her bf returns? o_O
or is there a further meaning to it.

*goes into deep thought*

Duh, it's a parable. You don't own your man. Give him some space.

[*Insurmountable*]

ohhhhhhhh

okay

Do what he said