break?, another problem |
 Aug 5 2007, 09:27 AM
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okay.. just to make things short
we've been together for almost a year and we just argue way too much... u can say our "love" brings us together but we've had more bad times than good so far and its just him who has really bad patience and anger....as for me, i too get defensive but i let things slide before matters come to worse... i try to manage with it by staying with him and hoping things are going to be better like when we firrst started going out.... and now unsure about having a break..... personally i dont think breaks will fix things but is it worth the risk? what to do? |
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Aug 5 2007, 10:16 AM
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If you fight a lot, I think you should break up.
My parents fight all the time, and they are going to get a divorce. |
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Aug 5 2007, 01:35 PM
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Breaks don't always work and they don't always fail, its a 50 50 thing. But it depends on what you guys want. A break can make you appreciate what you have or it can make you realize what you want. If you constantly fight then perhaps a breakup is what is needed.
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Aug 5 2007, 04:31 PM
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Yeah, if you both argue more then not, then a break up is the best thing.
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Aug 5 2007, 05:09 PM
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hmm my dad has anger problems and my step mom is defensive.. they are still together.. but they are married and go to church now hahahaha maybe thats a suggestion? lol idk how much are u willing to do for this guy?
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Aug 5 2007, 08:19 PM
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well.. alot.... just the matter of how much he would do for me and lately hes been thinking about himself and how much he cn get around things when i prove him wrong.... the only thing is holding me back is our past... it was almost PERFECT till things screwed up
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Aug 5 2007, 10:41 PM
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a relationship is nothing without a few arguments....but what if youve sat down with him and explained how you felt and things were still the same, then it would be time to split ways
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Aug 5 2007, 11:03 PM
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My ex and myself were together for about 17 months and we still really love each other, a year after the break, but we've become accustomed to the fact that when we are together, we have our good times and bad times, and mostly bad times with all our fighting.
The problem I had with my ex seems similar to the problem you are having, so maybe you should keep it on lower key terms. More of a friendship status. Easier said that done? I didn't talk to my ex for about 8 months before we started getting close again... even though we secretly still loved/cared each other for those eight months? I guess you just know what you are better off doing. If it feels right being with him, then stay with him, and if it doesn't... well, you know. Hope I helped at least a little bit. |
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Aug 5 2007, 11:59 PM
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a break could also be a sign that maybe it wasn't meant to work. for instance, if you take a break and maybe it wasn't meant to be, you'll never get back together.
that's just what i had to add to what others have said. |
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