Mom problems... Options

[Call911Quick]

Ok seeing as how this is my first post ever on this forum, guess I should introduce myself a bit...

My bday's Oct. 27, 1991. I grew up in Chicago, but now live in Taiwan, and I'm Chinese. Male.

Ok so here's the deal. My dad has had cancer for a year, but he still works, and is the only source of income for my family of 3. He's quite successful, but his health is failing, and is doing everything he can to ensure my future by sending me to a high-tuition private international school, etc. My mom, on the other hand, pretty much does housework. Now, on a usual basis, she seems quite content. However, every once in a while, she gets really, really angry at me. She always says how I never do my hw, I play too many games, I stay at home too much, I go out too much, etc. Those are just a few of the many examples. Sometimes I'm in my room, and I turn off the AC. I say it's a bit cold and I want to save energy, but my mom insists and she ALWAYS gets her way. Etc. etc. etc. Now, just earlier, my mom wanted to go out, but my dad just had chemotherapy and is feeling like sh!t pretty much. They have a fight, my mom gets loud because she has a REALLY bad temper, and it pretty much just elevates.

What I'm trying to say is that my anger twoards my mom constantly bottles up with these little things she does. She's NEVER happy with me. She says I need a haircut, I say I'll wait a month, in the end she gets scissors and cuts my hair herself. I mean what's the deal with her? Ok, she cares for me, but if she does she should care about my -happiness-? Living with her is miserable, but every time I just nod and do as she says, bottling it up. Junior year's commin along, and I realize how important it is to study and all, but now she's goin as far as to taking my computer and deleting all my games, programs, etc. Anything that isn't necessary for study. I mean wtf? I'm gonna pop soon. I've done so before, I've suddenly started yelling at her in the middle of her fits, but I mean I'm gonna POP soon. Any help?

[xKatt]

You're handling this really well from what I understand.

She may be putting an overbearing amount of protection over you because she knows she'll soon lose another person whom she's very close to. After all, you said your family was only a family of 3. Soon, you may be all that's left and since you're going away to college soon, she just wants to see the best for you and see that you succeed and do the best that you can do.

It's not necessary for her to restrict your happiness, so I suggest that you talk to her one on one when she's in a good mood. Tell her how you feel in the most sincere and calm tone of voice. You should be sympathetic of what she's going through. You're not the only one that's hurting.

[iGio]

Go to the sub-forums >>writing>>cb diary>> read my latest post.

My mom is crazy too.very very crazy,and she gets her way alot too.All you have to do.It's ok to pop.Let it out tell her how you feel regardless of the consequences.And my mom does the same with my hair.Don't let it bottle up,because I did and ended up having bad panic attacks because of it.Just when you're or if you are going to tell her off take it slow,dont get rawr on her too fast.Because if you keep letting her like push you around like that.It will continue and continue and you'll be miserable for god only knows how long.

And I hope your dad gets better.

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I just read what katt said.I agree with her too.

[tr1pp1n]

TELL HER TO QUIT FREELOADING OFF YOUR DAD AND TO DO WHAT A WIFE SHOULD REALLY DO

AND THEN TELL YOUR DAD TO PUT $$$ INTO A TRUST FUND FOR YOU WHEN YOU'RE 18 YOU CAN SHIT ON YOUR MOM

[*steve330*]

Your mom is probably feeling helpless/worthless being at home cleaning all day while her husband w/ cancer is out supporting his family. She doesn't want you to neglect studies because they're so important and honestly, as long as you have an internet browser, you should be fine. Also MMO's etc during school being taken away isn't a bad thing lmao. I used to play WoW and all I can say is thank god that I don't anymore. Oh and she may very well just be a control freak.

[EmoEyelinerx]

I agree with what everyone said.

[courtn3y]

I'm having a similar trouble with my mom, so I know how you feel about bottling emotions up. And yeah, I too feel like exploding any minute.

Listen to/read what everyone else has said, it's true.