secret relationships, your gf or bf parents dont know your dating them Options

[Dafugitive]

I'm not really sure why the hell i'm posting this, either i'm kinda upset or just frusterated. I think i'm just lookin for advice from others who know how to deal with this kind of situation. I've been goin out with my gf for a month and her parents hve no idea i'm dating her. Its difficult to go out and be with her cause her parents want to know who she will be with and i think shes afraid to tell them about us. This could help others who are in this situation but i need advice. i dont want to break up with her i just want to be with her more without restrictions of her parents not knowing of us.

[dustbunny]

well, what's the main reason she's afraid of telling her parents?

is it..

1. her parents are just PLAIN OUT against her dating?
2. you're 18+?
3. something else about you that would not put yourself in good graces with her parents?

[btw how old is she?]

anyhow, if you really have the charisma, you might even just want to contact her parents and impress them with a meeting of some sort. iuno it could be a stretch, but that's what i'd do if i was really into the girl

[*steve330*]

You have to meet the parents. Be upfront/genuine with them. They'll often respect you much more if you are honest and don't try to hide things from them.

Give us more info, how old are y'all, grades, do her parents have prejudices against certain races, are they open to their daughter dating?

[towntown2]

Arrange a meeting with her parents - after talking to her first, of course - and tell them your intentions.
Be honest and genuinely respectful of their opinions. After all, the parents are just trying to be protective of her.
If there are any problems, then resolve them politely with words. Don't challenge them. They're adults and are still entitled to their opinions even if they contradict yours.

We still need details, though.

[SarahxJoy]

Yeah, my dad doesn't know that I've been with my boyfriend for thirteen months, he's against me dating and everything until I'm finished with college. There's no way around it. But my mom is fine with it, so it's not as hard as it could be if she didn't know. Also, he's always out of town, so..yeah.

Try asking her parents if you can date her. Be polite and don't joke around with them until or if you get the chance to be more familiar with each other. Considering the questions stated in the above posts will help too.

[*steve330*]

Also I saw a commercial that might help you out. You should get your movie tickets online so you can just stroll up and get your tickets and not worry about being late. Parents love that, and might even let you drive their Ferrari and start referring to you as "son".

[SarahxJoy]

^ Love that commercial.

[transcendentalis...]

sneak out or go to 'work.'

personally i'd prefer parents to be able to know without throwing a fit, but that's not possible with mine..

[*stephinika*]

^^
Same here, but mine let me have a boyfriend. But yeah, firstly find out why she doesn't want her parents to know and depending on the situation, try and meet them and get on their good sides.

[y0urelectrikk]

pfft I pretty much never tell my parents who I'm dating. they eventually find out on their own. I usually say we're just friends or something if they ask cause it seems they're less worried/curious. I'd rather them just stay out of my business as much as possible. maybe it could be the same with her?

[Beunique]

You have to meet the parents. Be upfront/genuine with them. They'll often respect you much more if you are honest and don't try to hide things from them.

Give us more info, how old are y'all, grades, do her parents have prejudices against certain races, are they open to their daughter dating?

hell no to the meeting the parents. m sorry but this happend to me with my parents. they didnt want me to date. so i did it behid their backs.

ask ur gf why she doesnt tell her parents.. maybe her parents started having kids when they were young and dont want their daughter to make the same mistakes they made.. ? maybe its something else. when she does tell her parents about you when shes confident then they will want to meet u. not the other wat around.. but dont let it exceed dating for more than three months without the parents knowledge..

belive me my parents found out the nasty way.. macking in the mall.. lol so they werennt too pleased.. it was a year long relationship and all i can say is that it will end badly if you let it go for that long.


so just talk to your gf. she'll talk to you. :)

[*MyMichelle*]

If this is a relationship in middle-school, it's understandable. If you really like this girl, you would respect both her AND her parents' wishes by backing-off at tad but still being loyal and caring towards her. It may turn out great if this dating continues on until she is allowed to date, and you become a trusting friend in her parents' eyes.

[EmoEyelinerx]

pfft I pretty much never tell my parents who I'm dating. they eventually find out on their own. I usually say we're just friends or something if they ask cause it seems they're less worried/curious. I'd rather them just stay out of my business as much as possible. maybe it could be the same with her?

Lol, im the same way. Its just less complicated if you say your going out with a friend becuase if you said your going out with your bf/gf your parents might worry about what you two might be doing.

Anyways, maybe her parents dont want her to date yet, your alot older then her? or that theirs something about you that she doesent think her parents would like about you. (How old are you two anyways?)

[nosylilme]

I was pretty much in the same situation. My parents didnt know the first three months. He finally got me to tell them. It wasn't so bad. But it depends on the parents, i suppose. Just wait until she's ready to tell her parents.

[pinacoolada]

Hmm...my boyfriend isn't allowed to date, and his parents haven't known for 6 months now. Oh well.

[Rubeus-Hagrid]

Me and `ermoine have been` bonin` fiesty li` thang

[*Mercy*]

^WOW hagrid stop.

I find that unless it gets really serious then make the move and tell your parents.What can they do really? you cant stop someone from seeing another person.it violates your free will.