I still like him but.... Options

[lostinLDN]

Ok, well, I still like my ex-boyfriend.
Yeah, um, I think it's kind of sad.
He was my first boyfriend.
It didn't really work out (well, then again, most middle school relationships don't.)
He already has a new girlfriend, and they both really love each other. The love he never gave to me.
I really want to stop loving him, but I can't.
I've told him straight forward that I liked him on the last day of school.
Since then, he's never emailed me back.
Advice please.
Should I get him back,
should I try and stop loving him,
or should I do something else?
I really have no idea.

[*karmakiller*]

In my honest opinion, he's moved on and you should too. There's nothing wrong about still caring for him and liking him--it's human nature. But, like you've even said yourself it's a young relationship and it was your first, take it as a learning experience. Be happy that he's found someone who he's truly happy with. Now you just need someone to make you happy like him and his new girlfriend are. Go out and meet some people and have some fun.

[*MyMichelle*]

I think you should attempt to get over him. Considering it's the summer, hang out with people and keep yourself busy. If he's dating someone and giving them the "love he never gave you," then he's just happier that way.

If you really love him, then you would just want him to be happy right? JK, I believe that cliche is false. Anyways,

He's already with someone else, and it's pretty selfish to try to wedge in between that relationship. If it's only been a few weeks since you broke up, it's understandable that you feel this way. You just have to give it more time. A few months, a year; time will pass and you'll soon find yourself happier without even the thought of him.

[lostinLDN]

yeah i'm really happy for him.
really.
i do wanna get over him, but i can't :P
but at least im going to a new school. i'll try and move on there

[IamRad]

I think that if he's moved on, and he's happy now, you should start trying to get out there and just move on also...because if you just sit back and watch him be happy with someone else its just gonna kill you...i know its easier said than done, but in the long run it will benefit you to try and get your mind off of him.


edit///^^and since you said you're going to a new school, thats pretty much the perfect way to get over him..because you wont see him, and there are so many other guys at a new school that you can get to know. :]

[EmoEyelinerx]

I personally think he moved on and you should too. I have had the same problem in my past (by the way im in middle school too, well going into 9th). I told the guy I liked him (after we broke up), he said he liked someone else, then turns out a few months later he comes crawling back to me (no, we are not dating). I totally forgot all about him over the summer, we never texted, talked or anything. I tryed not to think about him and I kept myself busy doing things to keep my mind off my heartache like hanging with friends, watching tv all those kinds of things. You probably wont ever get completely over him since, well, he was your first boyfriend/love. And because hes with someone else and gives her the "love he never gave you" might mean hes over you. You said you emailed him telling him you liked him and he never replied means he eather 1. Is over you 2. Is trying, like you, to get over you (him in your case). I think because hes already with someone else its pretty selfish to try to break them up, or come between them, becase of your own selfish needs. Only time can heal a broken heart.

[Beunique]

This has Happend to me. except the relationship lasted for 1 year and 2 months going into 9th. then around november of my freshman year we broke up. i still felt something for him a month later and then he found a gf i think less than a week after we broke up. but i mean they are guys.. yea u'll feel a little torn up but when you guys move on to highschool its a whole new pool that you can swim in. with fresh chlorine.. (corny, im a swimmer) so yea i mean let the feelings pass little by little if they have to. i can assure you that no matter what any girl looks like they find atleast one guy freshman year. :)