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 Jun 30 2007, 07:40 AM
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for five months now. He's a really awesome guy, and he cares for me a lot. However, in his past relationship, his ex-girlfriend had hurt him a lot when she dumped him for another guy. So, he's really sensitive and emotional. And in turn, he would tell me that if I ever broke up with him, he would 'hurt himself' or 'there's no point in living' without me, etc. Whenever we got in a huge argument before, he had cut himself before and even cried. I think he is crazy in love with me.
  Anyway, I don't know how to pull away from this. I feel awkward when I'm with him. I don't get that feeling when I'm with him. I feel so bad, because it's so unfair to him at times, seeing how much he cares for me, but in return, I don't give out much. He never gave me the feeling that I got when I was with my ex-boyfriend. We just don't fit together, and other people may seem to think that we're the perfect couple, but in reality, I don't feel for him the way he feels for me. So I don't know whether I should continue on with this relationship or not, and if I decide to just end it, I'm so afraid of the things he might do to himself. A few months before, I had already tried to break up with him, but I didn't know what to say, because I really didn't want to hurt him. Am I confusing anyone? Because this whole thing is confusing me myself. I think I am such an ass for saying all this... |
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Jun 30 2007, 07:51 AM
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 people are wrong. women ARE objects. Group: Member Posts: 189 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 540,281 |
Maybe you should leave him with a good bye present.
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Jun 30 2007, 08:04 AM
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Yeah you don't like him anymore. It's worse to lie to him and act like everything is normal.
His cutting...a desperate attempt to keep himself from being alone. It probably only has a little to do with how much he likes you, and more to how much he hates himself. Your boyfriend is emo and you need to tell his parents to watch for signs after you leave. Rules: . Break it off in a safe area. You can't break up with him in your space, or he in his. Try a park or something, a place where neither you or he feel cornered. . Clean break. It's understandable if he cries are is sad, but you can't give up and let in. Tell him calmly that the relationship is over. You don't want to date him anymore. Tell him your reason, "I just don't feel that way about you any longer." and leave. If you get emotional about it questions will pop up. What you truly feel isn't cold, it's healthier. . Don't completely alienate him, or make fun of him to your friends. Heartbreak sucks. We all know that. We all need time to move on, and guess what? Being a complete bitch only makes it worse, so let him grieve, but don't listen to him when he says he's going to cut himself. Right at the get go tell him you're telling his parents about this, or getting him help, because you care about him as a person and he's acting unhealthy (if he threatens to hurt himself). Also: Informational Video |
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Jul 3 2007, 04:08 PM
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Ok, I had this problem. Find a girl who likes him, and let them meet and make him see how much cooler she is than you. (Even though she may not be cooler than you, let him see that she is to him, and make her confess her feelings to him)
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Jul 5 2007, 12:30 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,815 |
ahha That's funny ^^ Thanks for all the advice though
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Jul 5 2007, 01:39 PM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
QUOTE(yobaka3 @ Jun 30 2007, 08:04 AM)  Your boyfriend is emo and you need to tell his parents to watch for signs after you leave. okay... "WATCH OUT, YOUR SON IS EMO!" that must sound so weird to a parent. just.. thinking. haha err, controlling relationship? his being all "i'm going to hurt myself if i'm not with you" is definitely not... good, and you need to get out right away. it's great and all that you care about him and you don't want him to get hurt, but he is not worth you being miserable. break up with him and find a counselor or some adults that can keep track of him. |
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Jul 5 2007, 02:11 PM
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QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 5 2007, 02:39 PM) okay... "WATCH OUT, YOUR SON IS EMO!" that must sound so weird to a parent. just.. thinking. haha Lol, I was thinking she could be a little more tactful than that. |
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Jul 5 2007, 02:28 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
Don't feel like an ass for saying it.
If you're not happy, then it's not fair to neither of you to keep going. He's obviously too sensitive to get the harsh truth, but he has to hear it anyway. Let him down easy and don't point out anything that he does wrong. If he starts to act in a way that is dangerous to himself, tell his parents. |
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Jul 5 2007, 02:44 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 541,783 |
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