approaching a guy, who goes to my gym. Options

[bamababy89]

how do I approach this guy, whose name
I don't know, I've never spoken to, but
have been seeing in my gym for several
weeks in a row now? I catch him looking
at me alot, and once we actually locked
gazes.. Next time that happens should I
smile at him? If he smiles back, then
do I introduce myself? Or is that too soon?
If so how long do I wait? And then, what
the hell do I say??

If you have an answer to any 1 of these
Q's, please hit me with them. thanks!

[lkajsfklajskds]

next time it happens smile back
then let him make the next move.

[bamababy89]

thanks.

anyone over 17?... or maybe even a guy?
one or the other.

im not sure how i feel about taking advice
from a 14 year old girl.. sorry.

[transcendentalis...]

Don't be hating on the people younger than you here. Have you seen that meangirls thread in the lounge?

It's been a couple weeks since you noticed him; of course it's not too soon, and of course you smile at him. I don't know what sort of guts you have, but if he smiles back, gesture him over and introduce yourself.

You can always fake not knowing how to use one of the machines

I don't know what sort of guts you have; I approach strangers all the time. :)

[USCavalry]

when i go to the gym i look at the hot girls. i don't think guys look at the girls that they aren't attracted to, wouldn't make sense. so he probably thinks you're hot, smile next time. if you don't at least smile he'll probably assume you aren't interested- that's what i'd think.

[SilentD]

im almost nineteen.
let's see... im a flirt.
i'd smile and say hi.
i'd wink if i want to.

ask him what his name is.
wouldnt that be a good start?

[EmoEyelinerx]

thanks.

anyone over 17?... or maybe even a guy?
one or the other.

im not sure how i feel about taking advice
from a 14 year old girl.. sorry.[font="Impact"][/font]

Dont be hating on the younger kids. Im 14 and guess what im an offical member so I must be good at giving advice and stuff.


When you lock gazes smile back, if he smiled back it means he likes you (duhh) but if he doesent come over and talk to you, you go over and talk to him. He may be shy.

[bamababy89]

where did i say something hateful?
its just that im not in your age group,
and it helps to get advice from someone
who has actually not only been in my situation,
but can give an anecdote, and has possibly
ever interacted with a 21 year old guy.

you can understand, 14 just isn't the type
of sage and strong advice im looking for.

i trust the guy &the 19 year old girl.
if i wanted help from a 14 year old girl,
i'd go to my little sister.

and none of that was in a hateful tone.
don't start drama where there aint none.

peace! <3

[bamababy89]

You can always fake not knowing how to use one of the machines

lol, true, and it would work, but I dont want him
to start off thinking Im dumb, or desperate.

believe me, I'd thought about doing it.

[bamababy89]

im almost nineteen.
let's see... im a flirt.
i'd smile and say hi.
i'd wink if i want to.

ask him what his name is.
wouldnt that be a good start?

well Im your age, and I flirt tremendously
with guys I actually know.. but this is a
stranger and I've never had to start a fling
out of thin air. I never went to public school
where 95% of the school are strangers to you.
That could have been good practice lol.

I'll smile, maybe ask his name, but I don't
have enough self confidence to wink lol. :]
thanksX

[MeanBastard]

Goes to the gym? Wear short shorts, a push up bra. Start to stretch right next to what hes doing, erotic stretches too. Sure to get a glance. From him, and from everyone else in the gym.

[Phil2thejay]

Go ahead next time you lock eyes. Smile and wave. Then walk up to him. Introduce your self. start having a conversation. Ask him to spot you lifting weights. Ask him to hold down your feet while you do sit ups

[transcendentalis...]

lol, true, and it would work, but I dont want him
to start off thinking Im dumb, or desperate.

believe me, I'd thought about doing it.

you can do it without seeming dumb and desperate. if he starts to be patronizing, give him attitude, and if he thinks you're weird or something, just tell him he's cute :D

[SilentD]

Go ahead next time you lock eyes. Smile and wave. Then walk up to him. Introduce your self. start having a conversation. Ask him to spot you lifting weights. Ask him to hold down your feet while you do sit ups

oh i would so do that, but only if hes not busy. lol.

so you dont have to wink at him just yet..hehe. but once you guys start getting to know each other, it'll happen.

[ldyxluvable]

aww .. how cute :] well if you guys eyes lock each other again next time smile and if he smile back then he is also interest in you , take it slow i suggest , you should wave hi to him, say hi,smile talk or what not as days goes

[KayleighKins]

"Hi I'm _____ I was wondering if we could chill sometime? Here." *hands him the number/screenname* "I know this is really random of me, but..well, your cute." *big girlish smile*

And then if you talk more, ONLY ask him questions that he can't answer with a yes or no. Such as "How many times a week do you come in?" or something like that.

Go ahead next time you lock eyes. Smile and wave. Then walk up to him. Introduce your self. start having a conversation. Ask him to spot you lifting weights. Ask him to hold down your feet while you do sit ups

lol, exactly.

[davlatboy]

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[bamababy89]

haha. i just love hearing your flirt tactics.

thats kinda cute :]


but i would never ask him to hold my feet down.

awwh gee.

[luxuriate]

If you want to be straight forward be like

"Yo mah name is real big B-I-T-C-H and i'd like to f**k you in the ass "
Which is all true anyways because girls all do that!

[fagget]

how do I approach this guy, whose name
I don't know, I've never spoken to, but
have been seeing in my gym for several
weeks in a row now? I catch him looking
at me alot, and once we actually locked
gazes.. Next time that happens should I
smile at him? If he smiles back, then
do I introduce myself? Or is that too soon?
If so how long do I wait? And then, what
the hell do I say??

If you have an answer to any 1 of these
Q's, please hit me with them. thanks!

I agree with the th---- dude.

Im 14 and guess what im an offical member so I must be good at giving advice and stuff.

OH! Is that what "offical" member means?
How about official member? But I didn't know being an official member on a forum means you're good at giving advice. Damn, I needa official myself.

[*steve330*]

conveniently drop a pencil right in front of him and go pick it up.

That or tell him he has nice shoes and ask if he wants to have sex.

[bamababy89]

OH! Is that what "offical" member means?
How about official member? But I didn't know being an official member on a forum means you're good at giving advice. Damn, I needa official myself.

Haha, I like you.

conveniently drop a pencil right in front of him and go pick it up.

Take a pencil to the gym?
Shall i put it in my bra? haha.

That or tell him he has nice shoes and ask if he wants to have sex.

haha. "You have nice shoes. Let's have sex! Oh... and could you keep the shoes on?" :p

[KayleighKins]

Alright, have you even tried anything yet? lol

Because if not...just jog by and grope his butt.

[dilnozaboy]

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[cherry90]

ncie and simple easy way of gettin close


now i dunno wat things u do at the gym but go to the one next to his but make sure he can see you walking over!! but ignore his gaze just let him watch u!!

then wen u get over there look up and my guess is that he will b lookin at you as you do look very attractive and say hi!! and ur in!!

just my advice comin from a male perspective!! and i know u dnt seem 2 enjoy younger ppl sayin but hey we can still help out!! we look at life4 from a different perspective to older ppl!! so ppl leave the 14 yr old alone she just tryin 2 help k?

hope this helps that is if u havent already made the move

[*steve330*]

Take a pencil to the gym?
Shall i put it in my bra? haha.
haha. "You have nice shoes. Let's have sex! Oh... and could you keep the shoes on?" :p

You've got it, now go get em ;)