Help, please?, My mom's kinda homophobic but.... Options

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

I'm bisexual, but my mom is, like, a complete homophobe.I don't know what I should do. :/ I haven't told her yet, because I'm not sure about how she'll react...Like, I don't think she'll hate me or anything, but...I honestly have no idea what she would do if she found out.

Help me??

<3Roses

btw Sorry if there's already a topic like this that I missed.>_<

[RyanWasHere]

Stop being a fag, and move on.

[Cujiine]

^ ok that doesn't help at all...

Anyways. Just tell her. She won't like it and she'll try to get you to go straight again but if that's how you really feel, nothing will change and she'll just have to deal with the posibility of you bringing home a girl as your date.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

@RyanWasHere: Wow, thank you for that completely pointless waste of my time.

@Cujiine: I guess that's probably the best decision (sp)...
Thanks, I'll think about it a little more. :]

[RyanWasHere]

^ & thank you for adding to the fag population.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

@RyanWasHere: Thank you for adding to the Homophobic a-hole population.
I'm done.This argument is childish.

[xburnoutx00]

^ & thank you for adding to the fag population.

hahahahaha.
that wasn't very nice.

[pedophile]

Since you don't know how she'd react, I wouldn't recommend telling her. You never know what she could do.

[*MyMichelle*]

You don't need to necessarily tell your mom this instant. If she's homophobic due to her religion... it's probably harder to break that phobia. But, if she's only homophobic because she just is, then it'll probably be easier to talk to her about it. :)

Ignore "RyanWasHere." His attempts to become the next great forum troll are pathetic and lame.

[RyanWasHere]

My opinion on how to help are just as valid as anyone's and if I was a forum troll...idk but I wouldn't be like this and I'd have a hell of a lot more posts, other than that read the first reply to this thread, it solves this entire problem, done and done.

[cupcakex]

I think you should wait a little while. If you're that afraid you're going to hurt her, maybe you should keep it a secret for a bit. Unless it's eating you away. If it really starts to bother you, definitely figure out a way to tell her. But, my advice is to not tell her. Yet. =]



forum troll:;
Someone who gets pleasure by typing annoying/controversial/of fensive words at strangers on internet forums, for them to read.

person 1:can someone tell me how to do this?

troll: you're stupid, i hope you're not as ugly as you are stupid, then you will have problems

Ryanwashere= forum troll.

[alysaphobia]

My opinion on how to help are just as valid as anyone's and if I was a forum troll...idk but I wouldn't be like this and I'd have a hell of a lot more posts, other than that read the first reply to this thread, it solves this entire problem, done and done.

^Um no, they aren't as valid because they're offensive and not supportive in any way.

I agree with the above, I don't think you should tell her yet unless you really can't keep it in as a secret anymore. If you have a really open relationship with your mother and you're prepared to deal with your mother's reaction, I guess you should go ahead and tell her, but otherwise, I'd keep it in until I was certain I'd be okay with handling the reaction-- I just feel it's not worth stirring up a big awkward thing if not necassary.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

@lol lollipops: I'm not so sure about never telling her, because I don't really want to keep it a secret forver...((I'm sorry if I'm not making any sense right now.>__<))

@MyMichelle: Yeah, she's not religious she just, like...It's hard to explain.It's not that she completely hates everyone who's homosexual, but she uses terms like "fag" and instead of saying "stupid" she says "gay" and I've asked her not to do that and she kinda just laughs at me.The worst part of it is, is that when I was talking about one of my friends who's also bisexual, the first thing out of my mom's mouth was "That's disgusting".She seems to think that you either like one gender or the other, not both. =/

@cupcakex and alysaphobia: I think waiting might be the best way to go right now...'Cause, yeah, it's not really something that I feel like I need to tell her right now, I just don't want to have to hide it from her forever...

Thanks for everyone who's being supportive and trying to give ideas.It means a lot to me and I really appreciate it. :]
I think I'm just going to wait it out for a bit and try to think of the best time to tell her.

[RyanWasHere]

Obviously you think there is something wrong with being bisexual because if you thought it was ok you would have told her, stop being a hypocrite and tell her or stop making out with girls.

[*MyMichelle*]

^ What the f**k. Are you stupid?
It's her mother; maybe she's worried about how her mom is going to react.

How does that make her a hypocrite? hahahahhaa. That is the most f**ked-up interpretation I've seen in a while.

[RyanWasHere]

I'm sorry that your small Asian mind could not comprehend, it wasn't directed toward you so un-bunch your hello kitty panties.

[*MyMichelle*]

I'm sorry that you're dumb-as-shit and that your very, very, very sad attempts to become someone people actually laugh at and respect are not working.


She is in no way a hypocrite for not wanting to tell her mom she's bisexual.

I'm sorry that your "ganger-ass-ghetto" ignorance could not perceive this.

P.S. My HK panties aren't in a bunch KTHX

[*steve330*]

I'm sorry that your small Asian mind could not comprehend, it wasn't directed toward you so un-bunch your hello kitty panties.

Ryan you dumb piece of shit. I'm amazed you have the intellect to log on to the internet and remember a password to log in to a website with such a closed minded thought pattern. For one you're making yourself look like a complete dick, and you're callouts @ asians for being hello kitty panty bunchers makes you look like such a biggot. One could easily call you out for trying to act black when you're so obviously doing a piss poor job seeing as you're, well, white.

Fag.

As to the OP, give her time and maybe try to open her mind up to it while not giving away that you're bisexual.

[RyanWasHere]

Don't get to excited.

All worked up over a forum, Awwww lemme get you an e-tissue.

and

P.S - Ganger means someone who asserts control over others, or a foreman of a work gang, which makes no sense pertaining to this, good one.

And I also am wondering how I try to be black, just for kicks.

[*MyMichelle*]

*Gangster.

I don't need an e-tissue.

At least I can afford grills and pull off being black 100x better than you if I wanted to.

You look like a joke. And, guess what, you're still not funny, and you're still not a good forum troll. Kryo's posts are way better than yours, and Guess what? People actually give him a few "lols" instead of scoffing at your pathetic, worthless responses. You would be better off trying to give out regular adivce, but I guess your "small brain" that probably failed highschool doesn't even have enough experience to.

Oh, and, Jamie Kennedy is actually funny, too. I guess that's what the difference is! :O


P.S. Braces do not count as grills. Stop trying.

[RyanWasHere]

*Gangster.

I don't need an e-tissue.

At least I can afford grills and pull off being black 100x better than you if I wanted to.

You look like a joke. And, guess what, you're still not funny, and you're still not a good forum troll. Kryo's posts are way better than yours, and Guess what? People actually give him a few "lols" instead of scoffing at your pathetic, worthless responses. You would be better off trying to give out regular adivce, but I guess your "small brain" that probably failed highschool doesn't even have enough experience to.

You're not Jamie Kennedy, either.
P.S. Braces do not count as grills. Stop trying.

So a backwards hat and a big grin make you black? & im the close minded one right? Stop making yourself look like an idiot.

And what in the holy mother of f**k does Jamie Kennedy have to do with anything...

and XRosesXAreXBlackXX please change your name to XEmoXAsXFuck, after you do that, stop being such a pussy, pull off your butch looking jeans and work boots, grab yourself by your ovaries and get the f**k over it, tell her or don't, stop bitching.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

@RyanWasHere: I'd appreciate itif you would stop being a narrow minded a-hole, thanks.I started the topic because I had a problem and you're gonna frigging sit here and start arguments with me and the people who are trying to help?Get a life.
EDIT:Wow, could've fooled me, you sure seem like a troll.

@steve330: Thanks for the help. =]

@MyMichelle: Ignore him.He's not worth it. =/

[*MyMichelle*]

So a backwards hat and a big grin make you black? & im the close minded one right? Stop making yourself look like an idiot.

Actually, I feel smarter after looking at your picture. hahhahahaha


LEMME SEE YO "BRACEZ"

[RyanWasHere]

Actually, I feel smarter after looking at your picture. hahhahahaha
LEMME SEE YO "BRACEZ"

Your hilarious, that picture is about a year old and I no longer wear braces.

& that's funny because I felt more attractive when I got a chance to glance at yours

[seonho]

AHAHAAA WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU RYAN

AHHHH WHY IS EVERYONE TRYING TO BE LIKE ME

IM DA KING

[RyanWasHere]

I dunno really, I'm in a bad mood.

[Chicago]

i say you tell her.. she should like you for who you are,
not for you's in your bed with you. im sure she'll understand

[*MyMichelle*]

LMAO even SeonHo called you (RyanWasHere) out! hahahahahah

[RyanWasHere]

LMAO even SeonHo called you (RyanWasHere) out! hahahahahah

Once again please calm yourself down little hyper Asian.

[*davinci*]

Hahaha. Damn. Ryan, you need to chill.

To the original poster, just let your mother know. It may take a while to build up the courage but the longer you put it off, the more unsure you become about wanting to tell her. You won't know her true reaction until you tell her. She may even be supportive of you. Good luck.

[cupcakex]

MyMichelle, he doesn't even deserve the title of forum troll. Something much lower in the forum monarchy. Can't think of anything bad enough, currently.

Ryanwashere, you're doing whatever you can to get people to notice you, and you think you're funny. Well, it's obvious you're not funny, but unfortunately you're getting the attention you're so desperate for. Personally, I think you're just making youself look like a huge tool. And, I wish more people could ignore you. =\

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

**Trying to pretend that the current argument isn't actually going on.**

@Chicago: Hahaha! :D Thanks.

@davinci: My mom, supportive?Eh, I guess it could happen...Thankies. ^__^

[*Mercy*]

Hmmm my opinion is a little different from the others.I am bisexual,And my mum is a f**king homophobic/nazi catholic.I have yet to come out to her.

Homophobics are very very hard to try and get their opinions to change.Reason being that they literaly have a "Phobia" or strong hatred/dislike for homosexuals.Even if you did try and explain..they still will no longer see you as the same daughter they will see you as "one of them".Its a sad truth.

This is my main reason why i have yet to come out.But then again i have never had a good relationship with my mum.
So thats jsut my advice about it.If you have never really had a great relationship with your mum in the first place,or if shes really really overprotective.Its best not to come out jsut yet.

But you can always try if you feel ready too and dont care what the hell she thinks.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Obviously you think there is something wrong with being bisexual because if you thought it was ok you would have told her, stop being a hypocrite and tell her or stop making out with girls.

I agree with the first part, I mean you would have told her if you wernt worried about being bi.

If your completly sure your bi tell her. If she doesent want to accept it she doesent have to but thats the way you feel.

[tilanguyenar]

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[*kimjaydot*]

Your her daughter she should love you no matter what. And at least your bi.. I dunno

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

@Mercy: I definately know what you mean in that second paragraph.No matter how I explain it to her, I know she's going to look at me differently from the moment I tell her. :/

@XxSugarKisses-TeddyHugsxX: It's not that I'm ashamed of being bisexual.I'm completely happy with who I am.I'm just afraid of what she'll do, she is my mother after all.

@tilanguyenar: ??

@kimjaydot: Ha, thanks. :]

I think I'm going to tell her.Not now, but sometime soon.Once again, I really appreciate the help. =]

[*steve330*]

Once again please calm yourself down little hyper Asian.

Once again you make yourself look like a presumptuous ass wipe. Calling her a little hyper Asian is a condescending way of addressing her, and not even knowing her you make yourself look quite high on the ignorance scale.

While some people are classified as homophobic, a lot of them are just slapped that term because of the views they take towards gays/bisexuals based on society's norms. A lot of them can have their mind opened up to the idea or even acceptance of the people if just talked to.

[*JoanOfArc*]

I think you just need to sit her down and talk to her. She's your mother. She might not be happy with it, but she can't disown you. Besides, who knows. She might not take it the way you say she will.

[*steve330*]

Actually she can disown her. Adoption is always an option.

[AimeeLynn]

Once again please calm yourself down little hyper Asian.

ROFL.

Just don't tell her until you are really ready. Plus I guess she will be really confused because you are bi and not just lesbian. [if you know what I mean].Since I know my parents are homophobic too and would be so mad. She'll make you want to go straight. I'm straight so I never went through this. In my religion is against that but honesty I don't mind it.

When you are ready just sit down and talk to her about it. She would probably disown you. no offense but they can't change the way you are.

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[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

I don't think she would go as far as disowning me, we've got a decent relationship...idk I guess I'll find out what happens when I tell her.

[xburnoutx00]

lolzzz @ this thread.

[AimeeLynn]

I don't think she would go as far as disowning me, we've got a decent relationship...idk I guess I'll find out what happens when I tell her.

Yeah, if you have a good relationship with her I'm sure she will have your back. Unlike my mom, She would never understand if I was.

[RyanWasHere]

Once again you make yourself look like a presumptuous ass wipe. Calling her a little hyper Asian is a condescending way of addressing her, and not even knowing her you make yourself look quite high on the ignorance scale.

While some people are classified as homophobic, a lot of them are just slapped that term because of the views they take towards gays/bisexuals based on society's norms. A lot of them can have their mind opened up to the idea or even acceptance of the people if just talked to.

Please take this time to stop overanalysing everything I post, yes it does make you seem like a douche who has never and will never get pussy, I fully agree that I am an a-hole, but that in no way stops me from getting laid, unlike your know it all "let me tell you a thing or two" attitude, so get over yourself, please.

[Dreamers]

Wow.. That Ryan guy is... well.... full of himself....

To original poster: I agree with everyone else, just give it time. It'll be hard, you'll get nervous, but in the end, telling her is better than keeping secrets. ^_^
G'luck. ^_^

[pedophile]

@lol lollipops: I'm not so sure about never telling her, because I don't really want to keep it a secret forver...((I'm sorry if I'm not making any sense right now.>__<))

I didn't mean never tell her, I just meant that maybe it'd be better that you'd tell her some other time or something.

She might not be happy with it, but she can't disown you.

Yes she can.

Please take this time to stop overanalysing everything I post, yes it does make you seem like a douche who has never and will never get pussy, I fully agree that I am an a-hole, but that in no way stops me from getting laid, unlike your know it all "let me tell you a thing or two" attitude, so get over yourself, please.

WOW, a guy like you can get laid?! So I'm not hopeless after all!!!!!
BTW, YOU NEED TO GET OVER YOURSELF, NOT VICE VERSA, KTHXBAI

[RyanWasHere]

Wow.. That Ryan guy is... well.... full of himself....

Confidence.

WOW, a guy like you can get laid?! So I'm not hopeless after all!!!!!
BTW, YOU NEED TO GET OVER YOURSELF, NOT VICE VERSA, KTHXBAI

If you got half the pussy I pull you would understand.
& yes I absolutely love myself, and my life.

[pedophile]

Confidence.
If you got half the pussy I pull you would understand.

Sorry, I don't dig vaginas

[RyanWasHere]

Sorry, I don't dig vaginas

Your missing out.

[*MyMichelle*]

Please take this time to stop overanalysing everything I post, yes it does make you seem like a douche who has never and will never get pussy, I fully agree that I am an a-hole, but that in no way stops me from getting laid, unlike your know it all "let me tell you a thing or two" attitude, so get over yourself, please.

Look at this dumbass.

Nuff said. hahahhahahahahaha

(To the OP, I'm sorry! haha. This will be my last bit in the argument ;] Best of luck to you, though. I'm sure things will turn out fine in the end. xo)

[RyanWasHere]

Your weak ass attempts at some how trying to embarrass me are sad at best...considering I was the one who willingly posted that in the first place you f**king moron..lmao

[*steve330*]

Please take this time to stop overanalysing everything I post, yes it does make you seem like a douche who has never and will never get pussy, I fully agree that I am an a-hole, but that in no way stops me from getting laid, unlike your know it all "let me tell you a thing or two" attitude, so get over yourself, please.

Mmmm.

[xburnoutx00]

Well, nobody is perfect.

[RyanWasHere]

I'm over this thread.

DONE ARGUING.

[cupcakex]

^ I'm sure you'll check back.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

Well, now that the arguing is [hopefully] done for now...

I just wanted to say that I did read the newest bits of help that were posted but right now I don't have anything to say that I haven't already said.

Once again, I do appreciate the help. :]

[*steve330*]

Are you going to tell her? Or are you going to wait for a later time to break it to her and try to soften her up to the idea in the mean time?

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

The second one, most likely.