Begging for advise, BF issues Options

[AddenLee]

So to put his simply, my boyfriend has been nonstop lecturing me about my choose in pass time. what use to be cutting is now bruising and burning rather than cutting. My boyfriend is telling me that its going to only get worse and that i need to stop, but it isn't that simple. I'm addicted to the pain and he knows it and he says he knows it. He says he knows its hard for me but then yells at me whenever he sees a mark on me (even when its not from myself). I've been trying to stop but him yelling at me doesn't really help and I've told him that before and he reacts by telling me it's the only way to get through to me. him yelling isn't helping and it's making me just angry at him and wanting to break up with him when ever he does. But when he's not lecturing me and he's being normal, it's fine. I love him when he's being normal but those moments are starting to out weigh the times hes normal.
I know he's just trying to help, but if he can't understand when he's making it worse, how am I suppose to be able to spend any more time with him.

advice please.

[*steve330*]

stop cutting. I know it may be hard but once you manage to stop cutting for a certain length of time you come to the realization that you can do it and it becomes easier and easier to space the durations out til eventually you just get to a point where you don't have to cut yourself anymore. It also seems your boyfriend doesn't have the most convincing of people skills, which can't really be helped in a short period of time.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Doesn't it slip through your mind that he might actually care about you and want you to be happy? Obviously you aren't happy if you keep doing these things. No boyfriend/girlfriend wants to see their lover depressed. That must mean they aren't doing their job at keeping the person happy. Just think of what you're doing to him. And stop cutting.. it's the most pathetic, selfish and stupid act one can do.

[*kryogenix*]

Throw some Ds on that bitch.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Hes probably just worried about you, and wants you to be happy. I know that cutting isnt the easiest habbit to break but you need to do it for yourself. You dont want all thease scars all over do you? Sit him down for a talk and tell him how you feel and for him to stop yelling at you. Maybe then he will understand and stop yelling and lecturing you. If he comtinues with yelling and lecturing you about it and doesent try to understand I think you should dump him and find someone else whos willing to accept your flaws and try to help you without going balistic about it.

[MeanBastard]

Enjoy your sodomy and painful sex!

[cupcakex]

First of all, you're not addicted to pain, you're addicted to attention. I cut for a few years, and attempted suicide like, five times. And, when I look back now, I know that I was only doing it for attention. I'd cut, then show my sisters, friends, or parents, and they wouldn't go nuts on me, or cry, or throw a fit. Which would just make me want more attention. Of course, I'd tell myself how shitty my life was, and that "NO ONE" cared about me.

Mutilating your body is just a show. It's you, letting others know how upset you are. You're doing it, to get a rise out of the ones who care about you, because they're not letting you know how much they care about you. The best thing your boyfriend should do, is let you cut, or burn, or bruise. Making a big deal is just giving you what you want. Like spoiling a toddler.

My advice for you, is to grow up. With all due respect.

[KayleighKins]

because they're not letting you know how much they care about you. The best thing your boyfriend should do, is let you cut, or burn, or bruise.

Or maybe try to be more romantic with each other. Stop thinking about yourself so much and start thinking about him. That's what being in a relationship is. Growing up and seeing over your own nose.

Hopefully you'll get tired of making yourself depressed.

[sadolakced acid]

if you love him you'll stop.

and he'll owe you for the rest of your life.