this guy.. Options

[jenjjen]

kay so, ive known this guy for a whole schoolyear. and i've kindof liked him since then. sorta. anyways, he's one of my good friends but i don't know. he's been with two of my friends (not that close) well one he was with and now currently. and everyone tells me to just talk to him or like start conversation, but i really can't. i'm not a shy person either. lol i like talk to all of his friends just fine, i talk to guys everyday and stuff, but i just cant talk to him that well. when i do talk to him, i chokeup and stuff. even if it's just as friends. i always talk to him on aim, and can tell him practically anything, but in person, it's different. and i'm not sure what this means but i always catch him looking at me, and staring at me and stuff. maybe its because i look weird or something but yeaah. he's asked me to dance a couple of times (on aim ofcourse) and i always just say no, because i can't. even though i really want to. what i just dont get is why i cant talk to him in person like i do to everyone else, especailly all of his friends.

well okay this is super long. and yeah, advice? i'm just confusedddd.
kaythanks.

[Cujiine]

Bite the bullet and talk to him. Or you could do what my friend did and write him a letter and tell him that you wanna talk but you're scared. She asked him to talk to her alone and not let her shy away and if she tried to to either push harder or try to get her to calm down.

[sweetest-emotion]

Bite the bullet and talk to him. Or you could do what my friend did and write him a letter and tell him that you wanna talk but you're scared. She asked him to talk to her alone and not let her shy away and if she tried to to either push harder or try to get her to calm down.

i agree! suck it up and talk to him! see this is why i hate just "talking" on aim...i love talking on the phone! it's so much more personal and it develops your conversational skills. sooo maybe try calling him? i had this kind of problem when i was like 16, 17. nooo way could i talk to guys! i was so nervous! maybe it's you who has a problem, like a self confidence problem. just start talking to him! bring up a common subject or talk about what's happening. if you guys are really into one another and both are easy going then the convo should flow smoothly. no worries! just talk to him! say hey in the halls, ask him how he's doing at lunch, anything's new? just chill and TALK!

[*kryogenix*]

Throw some Ds on that bitch.

[cori-catastrophe]

Throw some Ds on that bitch.

original.

[spongeboblover]

You cant keep saying no when he asks you to go places because then he going thing you dont like him and move on. the best thing to do is keep hanging out to you get the enough courage to talk to him but avoiding him isnt going to help the situation. i think you should go to the dance with him.

[xafghandragon45x]

well i'm a guy, but i've been in the same position.

the best thing to do is just try to talk to him. i was too nervous around a girl to talk in person (but we talked literally for hours on aim). it ended up taking me a year to get comfortable enough to talk to her in person and i regret it a lot. I wish i had just scraped up the courage in the first place and started talking to her then, because now i feel like i've lost what could have been an amazing year with her.

you need to try harder to talk to him or tell him how you feel because if you don't you're going to regret it. a lot.

[EmoEyelinerx]

If you keep saying no to him hes going to get over you soooo QUICK. Try talking to him on the phone that way you dont have to see him and insed of just talking to him on aim. When you seem him maybe just bring up a common subject like hey whats up and things like that, and then adventrually your convos. start to flowwww. Not to complicated. Bite the bullet.

[cupcakex]

When you're about to talk to him on aim, or on the phone, or in person, remind yourself of how happy you'll be later, if you talk to him.

Just be yourself, that's all you can do. Do your best to be comfortable.

[LennonLime]

I'm basically going to agree with (almost) everyone else, and say you need to suck it up and talk to him. To get anywhere with a guy...thats what you gotta do.