please answer my question.... ='(, what would this be considered.. stalking? |
 May 16 2007, 06:58 PM
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well i am a really big loser and i don't know anything. but like there is this guy and he wouldn't leave me alone for like ever, and he knows who i like and always makes me do things with him just to give me info about him. but like i really don't care but one day it got too far i guess
so m here is that what im saying, he kinda pressured me to go into the bathrooms and i didnt want to, but i did anyways i guess. then like i guess he kinda pressured me to go into the stall and tried to make me give him a hand job but i didnt want to and he kinda forced me to. like we were in there a long time, but i barely even did anything to him then he wont stop texting me asking if i'm home or like anything. and keeps on saying that I TOLD him to buy condoms WHICH I NEVER DID. and that we're gonna use them, and i dont want to like i'm scared of him, but i shouldn't because it makes him seem to like it even more, like especially how i keep saying no. it freakin turns him on even more which is so stupid and gross.. so is this rape or stalking or harrasement or what? i know, i'm stupid but please answer my question... |
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May 16 2007, 07:04 PM
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 hardxcore. Group: Member Posts: 1,223 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 479,494 |
woah. i'm so sorry, dear.
i'd say he couldn't really "force" you. you would've had to have some input into the situation. where was all this taken place at? |
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May 16 2007, 07:07 PM
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STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
what he is making you do is not right at all. if you say you don't want to do something with someone, then they should respect that & leave you alone. he is dangerous. don't talk to him. |
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May 16 2007, 07:07 PM
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yeah but idk what to do, he just scares me so much
and all this was taken place at school =S |
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May 16 2007, 07:08 PM
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 we go a-drowning Group: Member Posts: 964 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,725 |
OH my GOD! You should really tell someone what the hell is going on. this guy sounds sick and twisted. this counts as harrassment... did you physically force you into giving him the hand job? You have to keep away from him, and dont do ANYTHING he tells you to anymore.
talk to someone, a trusted adult, a councellor, anyone. you need to get some help and keep that freak away from you.... |
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May 16 2007, 07:10 PM
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i cant keep away from him!! like there is NO WAY to stop him, and idk i dont want my parents to know, cuz then he'll say bad things about me and like he is going to college next year, and i'm a freshman, and it's like never gonna even stop. no one will even listen to me if i tell them....... and yeah, he kinda like grabbed my hand and put it there, and i didn't want to, but i was in a corner and i couldn't get out...
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May 16 2007, 07:11 PM
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 Krista. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 |
Yes, definitely harassment. Probably stalking too.
You seriously need to tell someone about that. He tried to make you give him a hand job?  If you don't want him to go any further with what he's doing, tell your parents, or an adult at school if it's happening there so that you can get yourself out of that situation. edit// He's 3 years older?! You have to tell someone. It's a serious problem, so don't worry about what he'll say. He's going to leave for college, but you need to let an adult know about it. |
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May 16 2007, 07:16 PM
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but idk like you dont understand, its just so scary and embarrasing...
and he'll feel even more powerful that i told someone cuz he knows that i'm all scared and its just so gross... |
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May 16 2007, 07:19 PM
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hardxcore. Group: Member Posts: 1,223 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 479,494 |
you have to or else it'll just keep happening. i know it's scary, but tell your counciler(sp?) if your parents want believe you. she/he will. that guy will get in trouble. and he can't do anything to you. nothing. if he continues it, he has a chance of getting a life sentence.
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May 16 2007, 07:35 PM
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 that's what she said Group: Member Posts: 848 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 436,512 |
UMM, tell a trusted adult. & who cares if it's "embarrassing"?! So you prefer to get raped just so he won't think you're weaker? Really, you're only being weaker by not telling anyone.
 Besides, why should his opinion matter? Because he's older?
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May 16 2007, 07:40 PM
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xkcd always Group: Member Posts: 457 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,059 |
You should have broke his dick in half while giving that handjob. Next time carry around some pepper spray
 OR STEEL TOED BOOTS.
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May 16 2007, 08:21 PM
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 101708 <3 (: Group: Member Posts: 253 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,431 |
Hmm, I think that would be considered sexual harassment. You should tell an adult or teacher immediatly. Hope everything works out for you
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May 16 2007, 09:28 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
I think that's considered rape. In health class, I think it rape counts as any forced contact with someone's genital parts.
Get help and get away  Smash his face with the closest thing to you if you have to...
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May 17 2007, 05:43 PM
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Thats harassment definitely.
If hes forcing you to do stuff, thats like rape. |
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May 17 2007, 05:53 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
He really didnt force you to do anything. You DIDNT have to go into the bathroom stalls with him. And no, this isnt called rape or stalking, its sexual harassnment. You should really try talking to the school councelor about it, she/he could do something about it since its taking place at school. Is he older then 18? Because if he is then he might go to jail for having "sexual" contact with an underaged girl.
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May 18 2007, 05:14 AM
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look for the stars as the sun goes down Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 |
i can see why he's stalking you and forcing you to do things, you're a freakin idiot. like seriously. you need to tell someone about that. and don't you have any freinds to talk to yet?
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May 19 2007, 01:09 AM
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my "friends" never listen to me ok and notice how all i ask is what is this considered...
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May 19 2007, 01:17 AM
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QUOTE(Cheezencrackers @ May 16 2007, 8:16 PM)  but idk like you dont understand, its just so scary and embarrasing... and he'll feel even more powerful that i told someone cuz he knows that i'm all scared and its just so gross... Stop making up excuses and tell someone! Seriously. You need to tell SOMEONE. idk if it be considered rape. But it may lead to that, if you dont take action |
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May 19 2007, 05:20 AM
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yeah, i wouldnt say this is rape, unless he threatened to caus harm to you if you did not do it, which doesnt sound like he did? it sounds like you did it because you wanted infomation on this guy
Maybe harrasment? that i think is true. stalking? i would say most likley not. if he keeps messaging you and asking you where you are and such i wouldnt say that wouldnt be enough, or serious for the police to consider, i say you just tell somebody about this, anybody, and stop doing it, unless he threatens you in anyway, say no. And you say its embarassing? If you DONT tell anybody, and people find out you are saying yes to him, for such a small reason as you want to hear about this guy you like, that would be alot more embarassing , something much worse could happen if you dont stop it now. |
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| *stephinika* |
May 19 2007, 01:27 PM
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^^
I completely agree. It's not embarassing or anything like that, you need to do something about it before it gets worse. Just go tell an adult you trust of some sort of authority...you shouldn't let this go on any more than it already is. |
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May 20 2007, 05:33 PM
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 *dazzle Group: Member Posts: 357 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,071 |
QUOTE(Cheezencrackers @ May 19 2007, 1:09 AM) my "friends" never listen to me ok and notice how all i ask is what is this considered... jeez, then they're not really your friends at all. but if your friends dont listen then thats why there are adults. and you may have asked what that could be considered as but you should have expected more than an answer for your question. you really need to tell someone about this because it's just too sick. who cares if it's embarrassing or he'll talk about it? he needs to stay away from you. seriously, talk to some adult or preferably your parents. GET HELP! |
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May 20 2007, 10:38 PM
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QUOTE(Cheezencrackers @ May 16 2007, 5:16 PM) but idk like you dont understand, its just so scary and embarrasing... and he'll feel even more powerful that i told someone cuz he knows that i'm all scared and its just so gross... i know what you mean. honestly, i do. but one of my mistakes is never telling any adult. i really regret it, and now i think it's too late. so yeah. you should tell an adult before it's late and gets really serious or if he one day tries to rape you. like seriously. just hope he's going faraway for college. yeah, where is he gonna be for college anyway? |
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May 21 2007, 04:57 AM
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can i get a hand job? plz?
TATTED UP |
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May 21 2007, 05:15 AM
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 sweet abandon Group: Member Posts: 194 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,225 |
just consider the consuquences. do you really want him to rape you? because i swear to god he sounds like he will if you don't do anything to stop him right now. believe me.
if he's pressuring you to do something you're not comfortable with.. it is definitely harrassement. remember: it may be embarrassing to tell someone that you gave a handjob that you didn't want to give, but imagine how much more embarrassing it'll be to tell someone you got pregnant because you were pressured into having sex. get away from him now. tell someone before it gets worse. |
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May 22 2007, 01:29 PM
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 The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
Sorry to hear that. This isn't surprising for me. I think you should most definitely talk to an adult about this. The sooner, the better. He's taking advantage of you big time. Also you need to be strong and take a stand against him. Don't be afraid of clowns like that.
Also if you don't have anyone to talk to but you want someone to help get this out of your mind, then feel free to PM me anytime. |
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