Getting over a 2 Year Relationship |
 May 14 2007, 05:48 PM
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 hai, Im Philjay  Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964  |
Okay so... I'm sure some of you read about that old post
"my recent break up" Well.. its been a month and a few days now.. And... I have yet to get over her. It hurts alot. Especially when you I see pictures of her and her new BF all over like her pages and crap. As much as I try to move on, listen to music, talk to friends, talk to new girls. I still... can't get over it. And... I douno what to do. I mean I even got perscribed back onto my anti-depressant pills.  
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May 14 2007, 05:54 PM
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 Pocketful of Sunshine Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,690 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,004 |
You're not going to get over her just like that. Long relationships usually take longer to recover.
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May 14 2007, 06:18 PM
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 Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
Two years is nothing when you've got so many years left ahead of you.
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| *pixiedust!* |
May 14 2007, 06:24 PM
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You mean antidepressant pills.
Stop visiting her pages. Just cut everything off. |
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May 14 2007, 06:31 PM
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 You say you eat fucking hearts for breakfast. Group: Member Posts: 662 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,026 |
QUOTE(pixiedust! @ May 14 2007, 4:24 PM)  You mean antidepressant pills. Stop visiting her pages. Just cut everything off. I agree. It will help so much to remove her from your life for the time being, so you can start relearning life without her. It's really hard, I definitely know that, but in the end, it's all posi, because you can get closer with other friends and concentrate on yourself. Not her. |
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May 14 2007, 06:39 PM
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 we go a-drowning Group: Member Posts: 964 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,725 |
its gonna take time to sort yourself out.... as for looking at pics of her.... why would you do that? block it all out. dont go looking for trouble.
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May 14 2007, 06:58 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
QUOTE(deplorable @ May 14 2007, 7:39 PM) its gonna take time to sort yourself out.... as for looking at pics of her.... why would you do that? block it all out. dont go looking for trouble. I didnt. She sent it to me. |
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May 14 2007, 07:11 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
What a bitch move. I say stab her in the face and then take a picture then send it to her computer..
.. No one would see it. Clean get away. I agree with the other people though. It will be hard but you need to block her out of your life. |
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May 14 2007, 07:16 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
I'm trying but I end up crawling back to her...
And then get like.. a emotional smack in the face. Attempt to forget her .. end up crawling back its like a cycle. |
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| *pixiedust!* |
May 14 2007, 07:54 PM
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QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ May 14 2007, 6:58 PM) I didnt. She sent it to me. Then don't open anything she sends you. Don't pick up her calls, don't listen to any messages she leaves if she tries to contact you at all, don't open her text messages.. etc. What's nasty about this is this is what my ex (who I am definitely not over...) is probably telling himself. Or at least, that's what he'd be telling himself if I was trying to contact him... but he'd open it anyway. 
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May 14 2007, 08:27 PM
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 Yup thats my girlfriend. Group: Banned Posts: 665 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 513,693 |
U got it bad. In order to get over it let Usher be your therapy. Listen to
Let it  , U don't have to Call. and throw in Chris Brown - Wall to Wall because once you go out and have fun the girls going to be coming from Wall to Wall after you. 
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May 14 2007, 08:35 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ May 14 2007, 7:16 PM) I'm trying but I end up crawling back to her... And then get like.. a emotional smack in the face. Attempt to forget her .. end up crawling back its like a cycle. It's alright dude, I know where you're coming from. I might be in your situation soon, but I hope not... It hurts, and it'll keep hurting. I think the only way is to start talking to new girls. If you're in high school, it'll be hard to keep away from her. But if you're in college, then just.. stay away.. EDIT : I just read you tried talking to new girls already. Just keep yourself busy. Don't have idle time... or else you'll jus tthink about it. and it'll just hurt you more.. and more.. and more.. |
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May 14 2007, 09:09 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 51 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 523,770 |
When the police pulled up, my daddy was doomed. He was arrested and taken to jail. He was charged with possession of a controlled substance. He was an a-hole and a loser.
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| *My Cinderella.* |
May 14 2007, 11:41 PM
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You need to think. Do you wanna be stuck in the same rut or do you wanna be able to pick yourself back up. I know it sounds hard but you gotta pick up the pieces where you fell apart. Block yourself off from her and go off with your friends. Remove and hide everything that reminds or leads you back to her until you know you can control how you feel.
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May 15 2007, 04:47 AM
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Aww! *hugs*. It's OK to feel like this still. I mean, it was a 2 year relationship, and it's only been just over a month since you broke up.
But like others have told you - try and block her out of your mind. She sounds rather cruel in my opinion; sending you pictures etc. so it's not worth staying sad. Move on and be happy! I wish you luck. 
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May 15 2007, 11:15 AM
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 The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
Like puppy chan said, try blocking her out. Hang out with friends and do things to keep your mind of her. You'll soon forget her.
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May 21 2007, 05:34 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
bleehhhhh
guys. I still crawl back to herrrr it suxxxxxx and hurtsss |
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May 21 2007, 05:45 PM
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 Krista. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 |
 Don't go all gaa-gaa and crawl back to her...that won't really help. At all. You don't really want her to see you acting like that. When you get out of a bad relationship, don't sink even lower. It doesn't help how you feel.From what I've read from your other thread that you posted, she doesn't really seem worth it...she seems really inconsiderate. I'm sorry if I sound blunt, but thinking too much about how much you like her and crawling back to her won't help. I know it hurts, but just don't spend all your time thinking about it. Hang out with your friends more. Take up a hobby. Do something that won't make you think about her. I read what you said about how you'll attempt to forget about her but keep crawling back. Realize that what she did to you was really inconsiderate. I think you deserve better than that. I hope things really work out for you. I know how a broken heart feels, and it's not fun. |
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May 21 2007, 05:47 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
QUOTE(marzipan @ May 21 2007, 06:45 PM)  I'm trying so hard to stay strong lol.... |
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May 21 2007, 06:02 PM
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Mine lasted about 3 years...almost 4 and its been a year now...and my feelings havent lessened..im still trying to figure things out. and time doesnt seem to be helping me heal. it does hurt a lot...i know. we still see each other and it feels like nothing changed and then reality hits and you realize they're really gone. getting over someone is never easy and thats a given. & in the first few months, it will be devastating but you will pull it through. they suggest i stop talking to him but i could never put myself through it. but now i think maybe if i stop it could help me. just that i dont have the persistency to live with it yet if i ever stopped and it does bother me that i dont. im still trying to figure things out myself...and maybe when i find the answers i'll let you know how to get over it lol..but in the meantime stay strong( i know your trying but i'll tell you again anyways ). =)
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May 21 2007, 06:05 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
QUOTE(Dreamerx @ May 21 2007, 07:02 PM) they suggest i stop talking to him but i could never put myself through it. but now i think maybe if i stop it could help me. just that i dont have the persistency to live with it yet if i ever stopped and it does bother me that i dont. im still trying to figure things out myself...and maybe when i find the answers i'll let you know how to get over it lol.. Woooo finnally... some one is relativly in my shoes <3 |
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May 21 2007, 08:20 PM
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Pocketful of Sunshine Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,690 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,004 |
*waves* Hi, PJ. I can relate. It's hard. It's really hard, I know. Every time I crawl back I end up hurting myself and crying.
Do you want to be happy? If you do, think about that before talking to her. I know you can' go out and play any sports right now, but as soon as your leg gets better, go out and do it. It will help. |
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May 21 2007, 09:23 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 405,860 |
WELL!...try getting over a FOUR YEAR RELATIONSHIP, it hurts more than two....try losing it to a girl that was like your best friend...
QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ May 14 2007, 06:48 PM) Okay so... I'm sure some of you read about that old post
"my recent break up" Well.. its been a month and a few days now.. And... I have yet to get over her. It hurts alot. Especially when you I see pictures of her and her new BF all over like her pages and crap. As much as I try to move on, listen to music, talk to friends, talk to new girls. I still... can't get over it. And... I douno what to do. I mean I even got perscribed back onto my anti-depressant pills. |
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| *kryogenix* |
May 21 2007, 09:36 PM
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Throw some D's on that bitch to get over it.
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May 21 2007, 09:45 PM
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 chinky Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,566 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,437 |
^ That's like the best advice ever.
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May 21 2007, 09:50 PM
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They need to sticky something at the top with that advice. It'd eliminate the need for this forum.
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May 21 2007, 09:57 PM
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crawling back to the bitch makes you weak.
you wanna seem like a pussy to her? no. it'll just make her walk over you. |
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May 23 2007, 03:14 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
QUOTE(beaucoup @ May 21 2007, 10:57 PM) crawling back to the bitch makes you weak. you wanna seem like a pussy to her? no. it'll just make her walk over you. i know that =.= i dont think i have the ability to... i dont even know.. =.= |
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May 23 2007, 03:27 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 979 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 205,020 |
look, i had somewhat of a similar experienced. dated a guy for more than 3 years, he basically left me for another girl, and flaunted his new relationship whenever we talked. his reasoning was that i should just "get over it" and "face the truth."
i used to want to talk to my ex all the time. maybe it was for what they call "closure" (whatever that actually means) or habit, but i stopped. you think you don't have the ability the stay away from her, but you do. i stopped talking to my ex once i realized that IT MADE ME SAD. yeah, it took awhile for that epiphany but i eventually focused on ways to kill him. part kidding. ;) doesn't mean i'm over him yet (and it's been more than half a year) but i'm healthier. |
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May 23 2007, 04:55 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
yeah like....... im healthier and all.
i know she makes me sad and i'm like trying to keep my self busy but... its just this like one thing i just cant keep her out of my mind.. |
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May 23 2007, 07:48 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ May 23 2007, 04:55 PM) yeah like....... im healthier and all. i know she makes me sad and i'm like trying to keep my self busy but... its just this like one thing i just cant keep her out of my mind.. Drink a little. It makes it feel better. |
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May 23 2007, 08:19 PM
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:O
I know which secret is yours. |
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May 23 2007, 08:35 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
QUOTE(MyMichelle @ May 23 2007, 09:19 PM) :O I know which secret is yours. alot do. shush keep it to your self. |
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May 23 2007, 10:02 PM
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^ I didn't say it, and I don't plan to. :]
But, I mean... it basically says the same thing as this thread does. hahhaha I know it's hard to, but you will eventually. You just gotta remind yourself that it's a thing of the past, and you will never ever have it again. Optimistic, eh? |
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May 23 2007, 10:25 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
you should find a hobby! lol. play counterstrike with me ALL DAY and ALL NIGHT! lol just a keeding. i don't play all day and all night...anymore.. :] lol. seriously. find a hobby. think of it as she's not feeling any pain not being with you anymore, so why should you feel pain? :) doesn't that make sense?
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May 24 2007, 12:47 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
You will eventually get over her
 . Point out all the things you don't like about her.Idk it worked for me. You will find someone new that will love you. Plus you have so many talents. You get one in no time  When you love someone And they break your heart Don't give up on love Have faith, restart Just hold on. I love that song =] |
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May 24 2007, 06:41 PM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
lol mkay aimee~
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May 24 2007, 06:52 PM
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Cut all romantic'ish music out from your playlists. Delete all links that could lead to her. Block her aim. Ignore her texts/calls. Before doing all this tell her she's a self idolizing piece of shit and she needs to focus more on something else and leave you alone. Following that comment, tell her everything you dislike about her (is she fat, big nose, ugly feet, stinky?) then tell her about the hot chick you met at the bar and how you think y'all could be going somewhere with y'alls relationship. But yeah after all that presume to block everything about her and go play a video game or something. Go running, physical exercise is a great stress reliever.
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May 26 2007, 07:41 AM
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hai, Im Philjay Group: Member Posts: 922 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 520,964 |
I feel like the BIGGEST Idiot. Okay so.. last night... I received a private call. Note that its around 1 AM-ish. So I pick up the phone and it ends up being my ex, the one I'm complety miserbale over. Anyways so, stupid me actually stays on the phone to listen to what she says.
At this point is when she started to just trample all over me with words. Saying how her bf was over her house..... how they kissed infront of her parents... how her parents like him more than me, apparently they said that to her after her bf left. blah blah what ever. So as she continues talking about this stuff it starts.. you know getting to me... I then tell her how I feel about how I HATE how she talks about her bf to me and I don't appreciate it. What does she do? She's asleep so she does nothing. I hang up and staying up till 5 AM just like.. thinking about all the crap she said on the phone that night. I regret answering that phone call... I was perfectly fine status before she called. And now I'm back to step 1 all over again. |
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May 26 2007, 08:30 AM
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you guys have not seen nothing yet my girlfriends parents want a restraining order on me and its bullshit they should stay out of her life ... they want it cause they dont like me and they dont want her to end up with me
but anyways I HATE THE GIRL for what she is doing to me but i love her so much more everytime i see her i want to kiss her hug her make sexy time with her but i dont no i guess i should just move on to even though i really cant its going to be hard man just i would say give it time but i wont even give my ex girlfriend time go out and get LAID maybe you will feel better |
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May 26 2007, 11:05 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 527,711 |
QUOTE(br3aker4lyfe @ May 14 2007, 05:48 PM) Okay so... I'm sure some of you read about that old post "my recent break up" Well.. its been a month and a few days now.. And... I have yet to get over her. It hurts alot. Especially when you I see pictures of her and her new BF all over like her pages and crap. As much as I try to move on, listen to music, talk to friends, talk to new girls. I still... can't get over it. And... I douno what to do. I mean I even got perscribed back onto my anti-depressant pills. Go to a gay bar and hook up! A night of sweaty man-on-man lovemaking will cure any problem you have. |
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