To Stay or To Leave? Options

[zoelow]

There might be tons of topic related to this already, but yeah. =/

I'm really confused by this relationship that i'm having here. It nearly 1 1/2 year already. Often, he gets angry & hits me. Even though he said sorry everytime he does that, i'm certain he'll do it again the next time i make him mad since it have been going on for such a long time already {1/2 year after we got together} However, it just seem so hard to let go after we have been through so much. He's really hard to please, to a certain extend, fault-finder. I have no idea why he's unhappy with whatever i do, yet expect me to be pleased by whatever he did. Sometime when i try to defend myself with words when we quarrels, and kept quiet as already irritated cause he simply wont listen , he labelled that as 'attitude giving'. & when he does the same, he expect that i dont complain & comply to everything he say. I can't go out with girlfriends without informing him first, & he'll be upset that i didn't tell him if he found out. I had to go home immediately after school {unless i'm waiting for him} . He'll get angry if he know i went somewhere else before going home. & the worst thing is, he's doing exactly he dont allow me to do , like going out without informing & everything, & he thinks there's nothing wrong with that. I find that it's getting harder & harder to communicate nowadays, & everytime i tried to discuss a problem about us to him, all i got was ''dont think so much, okay?'' He rather talks to his friend about his problem, than me.

I really have no idea why i'm holding on, but i just dont seem to be able to let go. Help me people! ):

[HennaGaijin]

That sucks.

[zoelow]

Thanks so much for replying, i thought i was left alone to die off here. Lols! Sigh, it's indeed a very bad prob.

Actually, i dont mind that he hits me, cause i made him angry or that he's already angry & i'm adding on to it. I really dont mind.

Deem it as madness or whatever, but i used to i'm used to him already. Used to all these scoldings, hitting , quarrels, screaming, shouting, crying. It was only recently that it suddenly dwell on me that the past was gone, those happy moments, those laughters.

I really want them back, thought i know they wont come back. I kept holding on, cause i thought we might have the chance to work things out & return to how we used to be. ];

[Mystic Eyes]

I understand that you want to work things out but think about it from this angle. He is setting double standards. Example being he can do what he pleases, go out, etc but you have to inform him or where your going, who your with, etc. That's bullshit.

Also hitting a lady is a big NO NO. Why don't you test this out. Tell him not to hit you and to trust you since it seems like he as big issues in that department. Like trusting you to go with friends and stuff, if he doesn't come around then seriously leave that dork where he is. No one deserves to go through that.

[*Monochrome.*]

Number one reason i dont date with my race.

Nothing to do with this but this guy sounds like a machismo type of guy.
Hes the type that wants to control every aspect of your life and treat you like your are property but to expect that he can do whatever he wants.

NO NO NO
f**k that you have been with him for so long.Save your self for something better.Let him down hard.Let him comand around someone else.Hes not worth it.He dosnt love you.He loves what you can do for him but he gives you now space to breathe.And more importantly he gives you no respect.He dosnt give the equality a relationships needs to have and the fact that he hits you.Sugar,its only going to get worse.

You deserve respect.So its about damn time you dump his ass.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Please save yourself and leave him.

The moment a guy hits you, just leave him. It will only get worse or simply continue to happen. I can understand how much you care for him, but no one deserves that. I couldn't imagine how hurt you must be after he does that, so why stay and put yourself through it again and again?

Fighting is such a pain, and it can make a relationship seem hopeless. Every couple goes through it, but if there are even deeper issues behind little arguements and you can't solve them, then you need to move on. It sounds like he doesn't even want to help the relationship.

It's sweet to think I guy cares so much that he gets protective, but there is a line you can cross to where it's just annoying. I think you already know. That just adds to the list of reasons to dump him.

Only you can make this decision, but I would have to dump him. Even if you would be ripping your own heart out... there are probably so many guys out there that are better for you. I know it's easier said than done, but once it's done and time passes, you'll think it was the best decision you've ever made.

well said. i agree completely