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[xburtreynolds]

me and my girlfriend have been dating for a long time but lately shes been going on myspace a lot and im getting worried. i know i should trust her but its hard when i dont have a myspace and all that shit. i cant approach her thats out of the ?. what should i do

[tokyo-rose]

What exactly is the problem with her going on MySpace a lot? I assume you're worried that she's talking to guys you don't know on it?

If you're that curious, you could make a MySpace, add her, and see if she gets comments from any guys who look suspicious. For now you should trust that she's not involved with other guys.

[xburtreynolds]

yeah i know i have nothing to worry about its just lately we have been fighting and her profile is private i cant help but worry a little you know?

do you think i should confront her, i have seen a few things she wrote online that are blatant lies, but im not really sure how to bring it up without losing a limb or something

[dahding]

oh no. my girlfriend is going on myspace a lot. that must mean something bad.


if that's the worst of ur problems, quit yer bitchin, really. it's just such an immature adolescent problem to be griping about: about how your girlfriend is going on myspace a lot. really, is that such a big deal. that she goes on myspace a lot. it's called being a myspace whore. everyone on myspace is practically one. zomg.

now that i've gotten that off my chest, time to be serious.


1. she has the right to privacy, so give it to her. you can't expect to know every single little aspect of her life. something's are a little bit more private to her. if you want to see her myspace, make one urself, and add her as friend, and ask her to accept ur friend request. that's all.
2. it's myspace. a website. calm down. really.
3. without trust in a relationship, it isn't a relationship. so have a little faith, and trust her, unless if she's a promiscuous person, in which case, dump the girl.
4. how long have u two been going out? what exactly is "a long time"? if you two have been going out for a very long time, i highly doubt this should be an issue.
5. has her profile always been private, or just suddenly now? if it has been private forever, it's called, she doesn't want random ass creepy guys stalking her or whatever.
6. what "blatant lies" are u talking about? nothing too specific, but just a general sense of what she lied about, and to who.

[tokyo-rose]

Have you been fighting about other guys? If not, I doubt that you have to worry about her communicating with other guys on MySpace.

She probably wrote those things when she was angry. I'm not sure how you should approach it either. Maybe wait till you stop fighting and just have a talk about everything on each other's minds. Come clean and start fresh?

[xburtreynolds]

Alright, one, i understand your irate reply, because i too know that it must be annoying to here this so called "bitchyness". alright, now that thats settled, we have been going out for 1 year and nearly 5 months, and i just felt like hearing a general opinion about it. as far as the lies go they are just simple things that she writes on forums that i happen to read and ask her about and get complete lies that what they are were true. you dont need to know what they are as they are none of your concern, but i can understand how you knowing them would clarify this up a bit. anyways, thanks for the reply, although it could have been a bit nicer

then again, i understand her need for privacy and the random scumbag thing on myspace does make plenty of sense, but just with being with her in school she seems to enjoy getting hit on a bit too much

[dahding]

i could have been nicer.

could have.


key words. oh well.



anywho, just to clarify some things. how old are u two? and also, same as my previous question, has her account always been private? or has this been a recent change?

[xburtreynolds]

haha alright no worries.

she is sixteen and im seventeen in about a week. it may seem young to you, or it may be old, im not quite sure. and her accounts been private for only a few months.

[dahding]

nah, ur not young. i'm 17 too. if u were like, 12-13, i would have been like, "oh u little faggot, grow a pair of balls already."

but ur not, so it's allll good.

anywho. yeah, i really wouldn't sweat it or anything. if it really does bother you, i would go with the whole creating your account thing and adding her as a friend? that way, you can see if she's commenting other guys with inappropriate stuff/vice versa. and if she rejects your friend request, you can ask why.

if you do see inappropriate stuff, then i would confront her about it.

hope that helps.

cheers.

[xburtreynolds]

ha alright thanks this is my first time here i was expecting some rough replies at first. yeah ill try the myspace thing im just not too sure what ill find, then again she never gave me a major reason to distrust her. i guess im just getting nervous since its been a while already.

[xburtreynolds]

can this topic be closed please?

[cupcakex]

^ rotfl.

Anyways.. If you've been dating, ask her if you can have her password. If she says no, ask why. If she seems too protective, see what's up.

You're kind of overreacting, imo. Take a chill pill. Have you considered making a myspace, &adding her? Rotfl.