i dont want to break up with my bf any how ???, im buring like a candle : ( plz help me ? |
 Apr 27 2007, 02:26 PM
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hi guys ........
well i donno where to start because things are too complicated.this is my first time in thise site..im too tired of thinking and finally i got idea so start surfing on net abt relationship.i love my bf very much and he love me as well.we were very happy.we been together like 1 year 3 months now. we used to fight sometimes but next day we both will be ok and start new day again but last octuber i moved to his house because i got problem with my old house so i need to move as soon as possile. problem is my contract is finished.The thing is he took me to his house without his parents permission because i got problem and he said he will explained to his family.he already told me abt his family that his dad is always in work and he drinks a lot..his mom is mentally sick....and he got older bro which is gay(he is not too sure) but he think so.but i don't mind it because i love him if he's fine then i got no problem.well 14th april '07 we had a big fight in the middle of night actually i know i was causing problem and he already warned me but i couldn't help myself because i was too angry i had fight with my fren outside ...well that is after work and i was very tired...he said please leave me alone otherwise i might do something...i keep bugging him and he hit me but it was too serious...i forgive him cuz it was my mistake...well i feel bad not because he hit me because we had that time too just because of my one silly mistakes ..well next day he didnt talk to me its been like 12 days already he didnt talk to me ...after that fight i cried almost everyday ...well last sunday i woke up in the middle of night and i asked him forgive me please he says no and he told me we already broke up which i cant belive ...i said give me last chance but he still not talking to me ..but im really helpless..i want him to come back and give me one more chance..i just dont want our love to die...i want him back anyhow ..cuz i love him so much ....please anyone suggest me how to get him back but he dont talk if i talk to him he says no ..go away ..please leave me and stuffs.....so i just keep quiet but cant control too long..this 10th of may im going to move my house too ....i really love him ....i cannot imagine without him ..i can do anything for him to get back ...i just want someone to guide me to get him back ...well i send him emails saying sorry to but it didnt work ...anyone plaaa for god shake show me way ...how to get him ...backk ....my lost love...he said we broke up but i cannot accept it ......im going to leave from his house this 10th of may .... i just want him back and i know what to do rest but he don't talk to me at all ..i dont know what to do ...guys i know you will suggest me leave him cuz he hit you n stuff but guys listen to me im very serious i just want him back i will sucide if i can't get him back ....i really love him ....i can do anything for him but i cannot leave him ...  i love him so much ....please suggest me how to make him talk to me ....well i wrote email and it didnt work ...donno what to do ......please if you guys can help me than it would be very very great ,....im waiting for your reply .....thanks a lot .......
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Apr 27 2007, 02:49 PM
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If he physically hurt you, WHY THE HELL would you want him back? So he can do it all over again? I guarentee you that he will. People like that don't change... they may get a little better for a short period of time, but once they get angry enough, they will do the same thing again. That is complete disrespect for you. He is not stable, and I'm not sure you are, either if you threaten to kill yourself.
This is like something you see on Oprah, where the women stay with abusive men because they don't think they can do any better. YOU CAN. No woman should ever have to go through being abused - physically, mentally, verbally. There is no excuse for that. Have a little bit of pride in yourself. |
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Apr 27 2007, 02:59 PM
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please koala i understand what you're saying to me ..but that nite he was taking drugs ...so i understand and it wasn't serious too and i was so angry cuz i had fight with frens outside and when i came home after work hs's not looking at my face so i was too angry before he hit me he told me to shut up too many times. ..well i got it what you're trying to say but the thing is i was bothering him saying hit me ....hit me like that ....but please i want him back ..sorry if i sound too crazy but right now im so much hurt and in pain ...i need suggestion please......thanks for ur help ...don't get mad or don't get bored to read what im saying ...but truely i want him back anyhow ......
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Apr 27 2007, 03:14 PM
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im sorry,
i really sympathize for you... but even if he took drugs and wasnt in a sane state of mind, i dont think you should be with anyone who is liable to hurt you. take it from me, ive seen relationships like this before... and it never ends pretty. you deserve better. and im sorry to say this, but you dont sound responsible and mature enough to be in a relationship anyway... please come to your senses and get some dignity. hope it works out... dep ps-- if you wont listen to advice why did u post? 
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Apr 27 2007, 05:33 PM
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Honey, I'm not mad at you or bored with what you have to say. I'm concerned about you, because I've seen this happen to a few people I know personally, and it all started out with a slap or something, and they guy freaks out and says, "I'm so sorry baby, I'll never do it again I swear." And of course he does. People like that don't change. It's from the way he was brought up. Look at the statistics - an alcoholic father who's never around, an unstable mother. He was not brought up to know between right and wrong. He was not brought up to know to treat women with full respect. He was not brought up to treat other people with common courtesy. That is the way he is, and will always be.
Before you jump and say you want him back, wait a minute and think about this. Are you willing to spend your life wondering every night if you did something wrong that day to make him mad enough to abuse you? Are you willing to actually take the abuse? Are you willing to honestly put yourself down that much? Do you understand that hitting you is just the beginning and will probably get worse and worse? |
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Apr 30 2007, 05:29 AM
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why no one is sending me message
??? why no one wants to help me ??? and no one is giving me answer which i want...i dont have time ...and im dying...im so much in pain ...burning like a candle ....goddddd
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Apr 30 2007, 05:31 AM
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they are trying to help you.
(look above) |
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Apr 30 2007, 10:01 AM
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QUOTE(crazybutterfly @ Apr 30 2007, 6:29 AM)  why no one is sending me message ??? why no one wants to help me ??? and no one is giving me answer which i want...i dont have time ...and im dying...im so much in pain ...burning like a candle ....goddddd Give him oral. |
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Apr 30 2007, 03:29 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(xoxo_koala_kisses_ @ Apr 27 2007, 6:33 PM) Honey, I'm not mad at you or bored with what you have to say. I'm concerned about you, because I've seen this happen to a few people I know personally, and it all started out with a slap or something, and they guy freaks out and says, "I'm so sorry baby, I'll never do it again I swear." And of course he does. People like that don't change. It's from the way he was brought up. Look at the statistics - an alcoholic father who's never around, an unstable mother. He was not brought up to know between right and wrong. He was not brought up to know to treat women with full respect. He was not brought up to treat other people with common courtesy. That is the way he is, and will always be. Before you jump and say you want him back, wait a minute and think about this. Are you willing to spend your life wondering every night if you did something wrong that day to make him mad enough to abuse you? Are you willing to actually take the abuse? Are you willing to honestly put yourself down that much? Do you understand that hitting you is just the beginning and will probably get worse and worse? I agree^ QUOTE(crazybutterfly @ Apr 30 2007, 6:29 AM) why no one is sending me message ??? why no one wants to help me ??? and no one is giving me answer which i want...i dont have time ...and im dying...im so much in pain ...burning like a candle ....goddddd You also dont seem that mature to handle a boyfrined for long periods of time. I mean hello! people are posting but i guess its just not the answers you want to hear. How old are you anyway? because your always spelling things wrong and the sings you say (look above) you sound sooooo inmature. |
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Apr 30 2007, 08:43 PM
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What answer do you want?
He's just going to come back to you? No, listen to what the people above had to say, to help you. THEY WANT TO HELP. But if you rant about how that's not solving the problem, then I don't know what else you can do. You can't force your ex-bf to come back. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be. How old are you, btw? |
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Apr 30 2007, 08:49 PM
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Apr 30 2007, 09:30 PM
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Look... I really think it's better you stay away from him. Nobody should go through being hit and constantly abused in a relationship. NOBODY. You may not think it, but you deserve so much better, girl. If you had known he would hit you and treat you like that before you decided to go out with him, would you have still decided to date him? |
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Apr 30 2007, 09:46 PM
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Get to school and get some edjamacation. Learn how to type and about paragraphs and all that. It's good for the soul.
He is ABUSING you. He's taking DRUGS. He's DRINKING. Keep the hell away from him, seriously. He doesn't give a damn about you. If you want him back, you are screwed in the head. |
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Apr 30 2007, 11:08 PM
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Open your eyes, dear. Don't you see, he has NO reason at all to disrespect you like that. It shouldn't matter whether he was sober or not at the time, he had no right to hit you. I'm going to have to agree with Melissa (koala_kisses) if he's done it once, there's no doubt he'll do it again. You deserve a lot better than that.
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May 4 2007, 02:53 PM
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guys ...last nite when i was sleeping ...around 3 o'clock ..he woke me up and he asked me abt my new house & i told him im moving this May ...he said that ok im giving u LAST CHANCE ...so don't do that again OK...(im like wtf ? : ( ..huh ) i was jus listening cuz i don't know what to say. i told him it's not only me it's about u too ..he says yes i know ..dats all ..nothin much .... ! i love him but not like i used to ....! we just eat together we don't talk much ...i don't feel like talking to him after everything happened ...but im trying to act normal ......jus updating u guys ....
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May 4 2007, 03:09 PM
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QUOTE(crazybutterfly @ Apr 30 2007, 6:29 AM) why no one is sending me message ??? why no one wants to help me ??? and no one is giving me answer which i want...i dont have time ...and im dying...im so much in pain ...burning like a candle ....goddddd Everyone is giving you answers which are the ones you don't want because that means you are going to loose the one person you love more than anything but if someone hurts you whether or not they are in the right state of mind. I know its not what you want to do but its what oyu need to do... QUOTE(crazybutterfly @ May 4 2007, 3:53 PM) guys ...last nite when i was sleeping ...around 3 o'clock ..he woke me up and he asked me abt my new house & i told him im moving this May ...he said that ok im giving u LAST CHANCE ...so don't do that again OK...(im like wtf ? : ( ..huh ) i was jus listening cuz i don't know what to say. i told him it's not only me it's about u too ..he says yes i know ..dats all ..nothin much .... ! i love him but not like i used to ....! we just eat together we don't talk much ...i don't feel like talking to him after everything happened ...but im trying to act normal ......jus updating u guys .... Its kinda like you love him but your not IN love with him anymore? |
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May 5 2007, 04:24 PM
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 The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
Well at least you two are back together but it seems like he's still hurting you in an emotional way. Fee free to PM me anytime if you need anyone to chat to about this, ok.
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