Open relationship? Options

[sweetONyou080]

What's your take on the meaning of an "open relationship"?? Do you believe in them? And, do you have any advice for people in them?

[SimplicityGirl]

To me an open relationship is a relationship where you and your partner can date other people and it wouldn't be cheating because both of you agreed to it.

I believe that they do happen, but I don't believe that it's a very healthy way to date. Namely because I just don't think it shows a high level of commitment on both people's parts if they're willing to let their partners date other people with their consent. Shows a lot of insecurity too...they might agree to it because they think this is the only way to stay with their partners.

Advice? Be honest and keep an open line of communication.

[NgocQuyen]

i don't really understand open relationships. i mean, why would you be in an open relationship with someone? it's just like sleeping around isn't it? ehh, i don't know. that's just how i see it. like, you're going to be in an open relationship with someone and then see someone else and if you really like that person then you would leave that person that you're in an open relationship with right? or if it's the oposite then you know that you're always going to have that person that you're in an open relationship with, so isn't that person like some kind of...spare or something? hmm. that's just me. i don't know a whole lot about this subject. lols :P

[sweetONyou080]

Basically, I just needed advice for myself with this topic. Me and my boyfriend recently broke up and are in the "friend zone" but I can call it an open relationship. We're kind of still dating but we don't have well communication right now. To tell you the truth, I wouldn't want to see him with any other girl but we're not ready to be a relationship with eachother so I guess it can wait. I know I REALLY like him, but still want to see other people. And I wouldn't call it "sleeping around" because we dated shortly and have yet to have sex. I just have really strong feelings for him

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I think it depends on the circumstances, like you said you guys recently brokeup but still maintain a relationship. I don't really think that should be called and open relationship.

I guess when it comes down to it you're either together or not. Sure, there's friends with benefits and all that stuff. But why an Open Relationship?

[LOWinSKANK]

completely.. stupid. basically, friends
with benefits. you can`t DATE someone
and be messing around with other
people, you just can`t. regardless of
what you say, you`ll probably get hurt
if you actually have feelings for this
person.

[sweetONyou080]

I see what you guys are saying but I'm not sleeping with this person. We've never had sex, so it's not "friends with benefits". I guess the benefits could be emotional but I haven't actually talked to the person for two days now. It's unusual because we never went a day without talking, but he did text me yesterday morning saying "I love u boo".

[alysaphobia]

uhh... so like whimsical 0ne said, are you guys going out or not? i wouldn't really call it an open relationship.... you said you guys recently broke up and are still kind of dating??

i think you should clarify where you guys are, at this point. did you guys break up, or not?

and my take on open relationships.... i don't think they are a very healthy way to date.

[xlitoxb]

He said 'I love you," during an open relationship? Isn't that a sign that it's not really open? Then again, if it is open, and he says it to you, he could also say it to someone else? It's really tricky that sort of stuff.. =\

[sweetONyou080]

I mean.. we haven't really sat down and talked about it and decided "oh we're just gonna be in an open relationship". We've basically been avoiding eachother.. I've wanted to call be but I don't know if I can. We're on spring break and I'd rather wait till he's home again. The thing is.. I don't know where we are! I really like this guy, and it's my fault we decided to be "just friends". We're not really "just friends".. it's more than that.. way more. I just can't think straight. I think I'm just gonna tell him we need to talk and hopefully we'll meet up somewhere and settle this. I'm just a little confused...

[pinayprincess]

whats the point of having a relationship if its going to be 'open'.... psh its not even considered as a relationship... just a "friends w/ benefits" buddy