Speak Your Mind Options

[shortnsweet88]

Me and my friend were discussing tonight that we have spent most of our lives silencing ourselves simply because we fear being critisized. Do you like it better when people just keep things to themselves or when they just tell you straight up how they feel?

I definately prefer it if somebody just tells me what they are thinking...

[HakunaMatata]

It really depends on how it's said, because if you're going to point out all of my faults in one sitting in harsh, rude way, then I'd much rather you keep your words to yourself. But if it something that I can learn from; I do care what they're thinking. As long as it's in an appropriate manner, then sure, I can be all ears.

Then there is the way of defining the word "appropriate", which really can range anywhere from watered-down to being blunt.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I'm a very sensitive person, so of course I'm not used to confrontation. But I guess I'd rather have that then being lied to or told nothing at all.

[shortnsweet88]

I think why I like people just saying what they feel is because it hurts so much more later when you find out that they were hiding what they thought from you. Maybe its just me...I just prefer to know.

[NgocQuyen]

i love how my boyfriend just tells me how he feels and when he doesn't keep things from me. lol. i think it's better that way? it also makes me feel assured that he can trust in me so much that he can speak his mind with me =]

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I'm naturally a blunt person. I don't sugar coat things and I don't beat around the bush. With that being said, I'm not a rude person. I think there's a fine line between being blunt and being rude. If someone asks for my honest opinion I'm going to give it to them and after I tell them it's no longer in my hands. I like it when people are blunt with me too. If I don't like you, you'll know because I'll let you know I'd just hope that you'd do the same for me. I know a lot of people who don't say whats on their mind. It's odd because I'm a blunt person, but I keep my emotions to myself. I will let something eat away at me rather than tell someone, but when it comes to my opinions and such I'm open about them.

[Simba]

"Express Yourself" -- Charles Wright // 3:54

Expressing yourself is a beautiful thing, but you've also got to keep in mind that there are others ways to do it other than just talking. And criticism isn't all that bad; take it, build upon it, and improve.

[shortnsweet88]

Oh, well I definately believe there are lines to be drawn and limitations...I just think the idea of being able to say what you are thinking is a great thing.

[*StanleyThePanda*]

I'm pretty sensitive, and even though confrontation makes me uncomfortable, I'd rather them just tell me straight up.

[pinacoolada]

Oh wow. This really applies to me right now. XD
It depends. I think I'm being stupid by hiding my insecurities, but I'm sick of burdening people. So I'm dealing with it alone.

[Jeng]

Depends, I'd rather them speaking it out, but it really depends what they want to say I guess.

[Gypsy Eyes]

^exactly. Well said by the way.

If it's being helpful then it's better to be straight up but if it's mean keep it to yourself.

[bigitchbay]

I'd rather to have things open than have things bottled up.

[*stephinika*]

I agree with Suzzette...I'd rather people be upfront to me but not in a rude way. And I try my best to do the same.

[lostgrl16]

i dont like when it when people keep things from me, i rather be told about it rather than walk around wondering what the hell they're thinking. there's a fine line when telling someone what you're thinking. if i dont like a person, ill try being nice but that can only last so long but i wont straight out tell them, "i hate you go away". i dont mind to tell people what i think, but i want to make it known that whatever i say, i dont mean to be rude in any way.