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 Apr 3 2007, 08:11 PM
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 My peanut.  Group: Member Posts: 948 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 187,456  |
Well basically, both of my best friends have best friends... and Im 16 and never had a real relationship and I want one reallllllly bad. :(( I dont know what to do. I never kissed anyone.. either. I really want a boyfriend and I dont know what to do in order to get one. It seems like all these girls dont have to do anything in order to get a boyfriend. I dont know what to do.. I must be broken.
 any advice??
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Apr 3 2007, 08:15 PM
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gotta CHEEEEELLLLZizzlez
Well, don't you have a crush or someone? |
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Apr 3 2007, 08:17 PM
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You can just wait. Some people don't date until they're in their... thirties!
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Apr 3 2007, 08:20 PM
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Genin Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 471,009 |
QUOTE(RupertGrintluvr15 @ Apr 3 2007, 6:11 PM)  Well basically, both of my best friends have best friends... By that, do you mean they have boyfriends? There's nothing wrong with you. We all get to that stage where we're single and want a boyfriend, but I suggest you wait for a guy to come along rather than try to force yourself to have one. Good relationships take time, and rushing into one just cuz you want a boyfriend is a negative. If you really want to meet guys, start talking to them. Go to the mall. Chit-chat with them at school. Maybe they don't talk to you because they think you're the really shy type and are scared of approaching you? I dunno. |
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Apr 3 2007, 08:28 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 430,782 |
i know how you feel, and my best friend is going thru the stage.
your not broken, & it seems like impossible but you should wait. maybe you could talk to more guys and try to like show them what a great person you are 
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Apr 3 2007, 09:39 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
you lasso one, then bribe him.
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Apr 4 2007, 01:40 AM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 5 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 514,456 |
you just gotta be patient
i know it really sux to see all these "happy couples" and you wnt it real bad but you cant rushh when the time comes it will come 
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Apr 4 2007, 04:23 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
Just wait for it. ^_^
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Apr 5 2007, 12:44 AM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
I went through the same phase as you did. When I was 16, I wanted a boyfriend REALLY badly. It was to the point of pure envy and jealousy whenever I see a new couple spring up, or seeing existing couples walk the hallways hand in hand, looking ever so happy together. I wanted one. And I got one with near shameless flirting with this guy...we got together, and didn't last. We weren't happy. The relationship happened because I had pushed it to happen...hell the guy didn't even like me back as I found out when he broke up with me.
I don't know if this is true, but one of my guy friends told me that guys can feel it when a girl is desperate for boyfriend. He says their general approach is more aggressive and wants to take things to the next level really fast. If you want a boyfriend, you need to wait for it. I know it's cliche and its probably not what you wanted to hear, but its the only way. Meanwhile, make friends with guys and get to know them better. Who knows? Maybe one of them will have a thing for you =) And...these things happen when you least expect it, so don't look for it =) I know that cuz my boyfriend right now is probably one of the last people I'd think I could date, and yet, by some a series of crazy events last year, we're together now. I'll leave you with these lyrics: "You can't hurry love, No you just have to wait, You gotta trust, give it time, No matter how long it takes" |
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Apr 5 2007, 06:15 AM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
do you tend to be more shy while your best friends are more outgoing? tag along with them when they hang out with people so you can expand your circle of friends. join new clubs at school. ask people to all go see a movie and just hang out together. :)
or do you feel like you're just... blegh? i've gone through phases where i felt like nobody would ever date me, too, but trust me... don't stress about it too much. if you try too hard or stress about it too much, i think guys will know... i know it's hard, but wait it out. a lot of teenage relationships can be rocky and bring about tons of drama, so it's not like you're missing out terribly. boyfriends aren't essential to make you happy- on the other hand, they can complicate your life even more. try to take your mind off of things, you'll be surprised by the type of people who approach you in your life wanting a relationship! |
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Apr 5 2007, 11:57 AM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
you're SO not broken...i'm in my first relationship right now and i'm 16 turning 17 in june. you WILL be okay. having a boyfriend isn't the most important thing in the world you know? just because you want a boyfriend doesn't mean you need a boyfriend. you should wait until you really like someone and try to persue him because you don't want to just have a boyfriend just to have one you know? lol. that's just me. =]
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Apr 9 2007, 10:00 PM
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Jessica Group: Member Posts: 480 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,118 |
I'm sure lots of people in this world don't have boyfriends. You can find other things to do to occupy your time. You should join a club or something, who knows, maybe you'll meet a guy there. If you don't, you'll still have fun.
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Apr 10 2007, 02:51 AM
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 omfg, rtfql. Group: Member Posts: 649 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 511,564 |
You really should just wait.
It's annoying waiting, but you'll appreciate the guy more. |
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Apr 10 2007, 01:24 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(.misoshiru @ Apr 3 2007, 10:39 PM) you lasso one, then bribe him. lol  I think you should just try to do something else instead of only thinking about a boyfriend. Like go to the mall with friends, join clubs, try to talk to boys like their your friend and you never know you may find someone that is just like you and you might end up finding a great guy. Even if you dont you could make a whole lot more friends. |
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Apr 10 2007, 05:02 PM
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 Sing to Me Group: Member Posts: 1,825 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,808 |
don't get a boyfriend just for the sake of getting one. it's still a relationship that you have to work for. unless you are actually interested in the person, there's no point in starting a relationship. just wait instead of wanting something because everyone else has it. good things come to those who wait. |
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May 5 2007, 08:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,815 |
don't look for love.
let love find you. |
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May 6 2007, 07:52 AM
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 The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
Everyone else has summed it up. Don't force or try to get a boy friend. Just let it happen naturally. You'll enjoy it better and actually be happy. Besides it's true that some people don't have boy friends or girl friends until their in their late 20's, etc.
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May 6 2007, 10:00 AM
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Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(Fragil_BlackRose @ Apr 3 2007, 9:20 PM) By that, do you mean they have boyfriends? There's nothing wrong with you. We all get to that stage where we're single and want a boyfriend, but I suggest you wait for a guy to come along rather than try to force yourself to have one. Good relationships take time, and rushing into one just cuz you want a boyfriend is a negative. If you really want to meet guys, start talking to them. Go to the mall. Chit-chat with them at school. Maybe they don't talk to you because they think you're the really shy type and are scared of approaching you? I dunno. true |
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May 6 2007, 04:39 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,658 |
all my friends had girl friends when i was 16-18. so i forced relationships... bad idea
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May 6 2007, 08:03 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
Oh God. Why is everyone worried about getting a boyfriend just because all their friends have one? I say...just wait it out and focus your energy on other things. And you'll eventually meet someone who will be your boyfriend...
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