Girlfriend Problems Options

[henry795uk]

Well me and my g/f have been having some problems latley. I worry to much about what she is up to and therfore i ask questions about everything. I also get incredibly jelous with her talkin to other blokes. I am like this because she is always flirting and telling me about this other guy she says is Her "best mate" also she sometimes has off days with me and that is why i ask questions.

She has recently told me that i drive her insane with asking questions and always worrying and being paranoid. now i dnt know whether she is right? or that i am right and she should change so that i dnt worry. i need help with this and help with the whole asking questions problem.

oh and another thing my g/f smokes and i hate smoking, she has told me she will never quit. and i dnt know what to do about that either because i really wish she would quit.

really need help on this, please help! cheers x

[Cujiine]

Well I'm not really sure what to do about the question thing but if it bugs you that much with her smoking, Tell her its you or the cigarettes (or whatever.) If she really wants to be with you she'll give up smoking if she gives you up, it's not worth your time.

[love-issosweet]

About the question thing, I suggest that you should try to back off. If I was her in that situation, I would feel that you are really insecure and seriously lack trust in your girlfriend. I mean...she wouldn't be with you unless she liked you, right? &&I'm assuming that she's the flirty type and that's just her nature, but she chose you over all the other guys so I don't think you need to be worrying.

As for the smoking problem, just talk to her. You probably care about her health and smoking is just unattractive.

[SimplicityGirl]

If my boyfriend started badgering me with endless questions about where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with...I'd be utterly annoyed at him. It's nice that you care about your girlfriend...but the endless bombardment of questions has got to stop. She might feel controlled by you and/or suffocated from your questionings.

As for jealousy...cut it back. Honestly. Do you have normal friends that are girls? Do you hang around them? If you do, then why are you so worried about her hanging around guys? You don't hit on your friends that are girls, and neither will she do the same to her guy friends. Jealousy often leads to fights and the eventual breakup of the couple.

Just think to yourself that she's with YOU, and that when shes not with you, you don't have to check up with her. She needs her own space and time and so do you.

[alysaphobia]

well... you have to make a decision. can you trust your girlfriend? or are you just being irrational with your fears? you might want to have a talk with her about this to confirm that she isn't fooling around with anybody behind your back- and then stop with the questions. she might feel you're overly controlling and paranoid and it might end up destroying your relationship with her.

about the smoking... that's a tough one. you can try to reach a compromise... assuming you guys don't live together, you could ask her to try not to smoke when she's around you. or if she WANTS to quit but just doesn't know how, you can try to help her kick the habit all together.