back stabbing bitch!!, what should i do? Options

[jEllyBeaNs]

ok im not sure where to start...but my best friend,lets call her Sam, well sam i USE to call her my best friend all until she became a back stabbing bitch! Sam is the type of girl that thinks she can get any guy tht she wants pretty much and since our freshman year in high school she has gone out with or tried to talk to all my ex's that i had broken up with. so during my most recent relationship i told sam that im really in love with, (lets call him bob) bob and tht he's nothing like the other guys i've ben with and i told her that she would really like him. But through out that time when i told her about Bob she never tried to talk to him. so about 3weeks ago wen myself and bob decided to break up (because of things with my mom) all of a sudden bob tells me that sam has been talking to him on myspace and that he thinks she likes him. i was heated!! i told him that i wasnt happy and that i knew what she was tryin to do. i told him that she is going to try to get with you and that i dont want him talkin to her. bob then told me that he's not mean and that he's not gonna stop talkin to her cuz he jus met her...so i told him what all she has done to me with my past relationships and he promised me that he would stop talkin to her and that he would tell me what she says to him on myspace. but the thing is that i trust him but everytime i think about the situation i get really upset and angry and i dont kno if i should talk to her about it or jus let it go. its really really bothering me and i dont want to bring it up to bob again because i dont want us to argue about it again. i need some help

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I think you need to stop being jealous. Seriously, if you broke up with them they can do whatever they want (including talking to your friend). I could see if she wasn't respectful enough to not date them while you were going out with them (but you said she didn't even talk to him then) and to me it doesn't seem like she's shoving it in your face. It took you a while to find out, so she's not intentionally talking to your ex just to bring him around and rub it in your face. You guys are broken up... that means that you should act like you aren't together. Honestly, you don't have the right to tell your ex's not to talk to your friends.

[aznhunnie6o1]

I'd confront her and ask her what's the deal but don't make it seem like you're trying to attack her. Just tell her that it bothers you.

But I'd have to agree with Whimsical 0ne about the broken up thing. <.<

[cupcakex]

If you guys are broken up, you can't really do anything about it.
It's really messed up for her to be doing that, but all she's ever gotten are your sloppy seconds.
If you're giving up these guys, they're obviously not worth it.
You deserve better, and your friend's going after whatever she can get.
One thing you can try, is act like it doesn't even bother you.
Maybe she's just out to get you jealous.

[alysaphobia]

if you think your best friend is a backstabbing b*#&!...
don't talk to her anymore.
don't hang out with her anymore.
stop trying to fix your relationship.

on the other hand, if you'd like to make things work out with her, you probably should try not to get jealous... because you'll drive bob AND your best friend away by doing that. you don't own anybody if you break up with them... so you don't really have a say in whether or not your best friend can talk to your ex's, sorry.

[Blaqheartedstar]

once u break up with them... they are out of ur hands and it seems they go into hers...
she respected your wishes not to talk to them while they were with you, but it seems she now seems that wish is no longer needed to be fulfilled because u broke up with them...
its wrong of her... and she needs to stop relying on you to find men in this case your ex's for her to get a man...
talk to her... tell her you don't appreciate what shes doing...

plus... your problem with ur best friend isn't as bad as what happened to me... mines pretty much left me for another friend and spread my name around the school as a slut.... and since she was my only friend i was stuck defenceless... because she was the talkative one and made friends with just about everyone...