Sisters' Boyfriend/Fiance, Ugh! Options

[princess*missy]

Hey Everybody..

My sisters' boyfriend/fiance is really starting to bug me. He already knows I don't exactly "approve" of him marrying my sister. He's a sweet guy and he comes from a great family, he's just very overprotective, and wants my sister around him 24/7 and doesn't want her hanging out with anyone else... no other guy friends, no girl friends, he even kinda gets mad when she hangs with me... He also wants to know where she is at every single second of the day. It really bugs me... Well anyways, that's just what type of guy he is... Here's my reason for posting.

Everytime my sister, her b/f, and me hang out together, he's always asking questions about MY personal life. Like how many guys I've had sex with, or if I'm a virgin, and when i'm at school, he spies on me and tells my sister what I'm doing. Like one day, I gave this guy a hug (he was black and I'm white) and she told me that her b/f told her that I needed to stay away from him.. My sisters' b/f is racist.I'm not racist, nor is my sister. It's driving me insane, I can't date anyone without matthew getting in the middle of it somehow. My sister has literally had to get onto him for getting into my business and that still doesn't seem to help.. What should I do?

[alysaphobia]

hmm...
it's cool he's taking an interest in your life, at least. but i think when he asks you really personal questions you should drop him a hint, like "umm... that's kind of private"... and then laugh it off or something, just avoid answering him. with the racist thing... it's definitely annoying but i'd just try my best to ignore it, especially if it's only happened once or twice. he's your sister's bf/fiance, she loves him for who he is and you won't have to deal with him as often after he marries your sister. i'd avoid trying to cause waves.

if he really crosses the line with racist comments, you should speak up though. tell him that whatever he said offended you.

[*Uronacid*]

Hey Everybody..

My sisters' boyfriend/fiance is really starting to bug me. He already knows I don't exactly "approve" of him marrying my sister. He's a sweet guy and he comes from a great family, he's just very overprotective, and wants my sister around him 24/7 and doesn't want her hanging out with anyone else... no other guy friends, no girl friends, he even kinda gets mad when she hangs with me... He also wants to know where she is at every single second of the day. It really bugs me... Well anyways, that's just what type of guy he is... Here's my reason for posting.

Everytime my sister, her b/f, and me hang out together, he's always asking questions about MY personal life. Like how many guys I've had sex with, or if I'm a virgin, and when i'm at school, he spies on me and tells my sister what I'm doing. Like one day, I gave this guy a hug (he was black and I'm white) and she told me that her b/f told her that I needed to stay away from him.. My sisters' b/f is racist.I'm not racist, nor is my sister. It's driving me insane, I can't date anyone without matthew getting in the middle of it somehow. My sister has literally had to get onto him for getting into my business and that still doesn't seem to help.. What should I do?

I don't know what to tell you. Your sisters relationship is her buisness. She has to realize that it's annoying on her own, and it has to become annoying enough to her for her to want to oppose it. You can share your thoughts with her, but that's about it. Everything else is beyond your control.

As far as your relationship with your sisters boyfriend goes. You need to clearly tell him that you don't want him invading your personal life and that you feel as if he is invading your personal life when he does certain things. Be firm, but don't be offensive.

Do you feel like he might be trying to control you?

[*suddenly she*]

I say you go to a counselor (it doesn't have to be like a special counselor person, even just a smart adult you trust) and talk about it. That sounds really bad and I've never had to deal with that before, so I dunno.

[princess*missy]

Thanks everyone for replying. I'm definitely gonna talk to her about it...

And this one goes to URONACID...
no, I don't think he's trying to control me, I just think he gets mad because my sister doesn't wanna spend all her time with him, she wants to spend it with me and our mom.

Love, Meg

[*Uronacid*]

Thanks everyone for replying. I'm definitely gonna talk to her about it...

And this one goes to URONACID...
no, I don't think he's trying to control me, I just think he gets mad because my sister doesn't wanna spend all her time with him, she wants to spend it with me and our mom.

Love, Meg

I was talking about when he talks to you about your life. Do you think he might be trying to work his life around yours so he can spend as much time with her as possible?

If she continues to spend time with you guys without worrying about his "anger" (because it's wrong for him to be jealous) then he should eventually get over it. I remember I was worried about Holly going to highschool. I don't know, I guess I thought she was going to spend all her time with other people and maybe forget about me. When I realized I was wrong, I just got over it.

[LimaBean]

Her fiance sounds like a douche, I think you should bring it up when your whole family is there and i think thatll embarrass him enough to change =D or tell her to dump his sorry ass =D

[princess*missy]

Her fiance sounds like a douche, I think you should bring it up when your whole family is there and i think thatll embarrass him enough to change =D or tell her to dump his sorry ass =D

haha! that's funny! I'm gonna do that! thanks!

[cupcakex]

That's pretty creepy.

Have you said anything to your sister about it?

The best thing for you to do is speak up, maybe he doesn't even realize he's bothering you.