he wants to break up with me, I just can't let go.. Options

[islandkiss]

I don't know where to put this.. I don't know what to think

my "bf" wants to break up with me. he told me he sort of wanted to b/c our relationship is seriously sad. but he's unsure.. I'm always telling him that I can't let go. I really love him. he's my first bf and we've been going out for a year already. I really, really can't let go. I just wish I was dead. what should I do? I just feel so torn and screwed up. I've been thinking a lot about cutting myself. argh.. help..

[conster]

#1 dont suicide, i dont care how much u love him but its not worth it ok??!?! heh.. i felt like that like a month ago.. and i kno how u feel, i probably didnt love my ex like u love ur bf rite now.. but u gotta get through it... in a relationship its not all about you and its not all about him rite?wen u guys argue, both of u have to do it together to get through it, u guys share the bond between u guys, so.. if he wants to break up, u have to respect his decision... its gonna be hard to live without him being with u, but u kno wut? u cant show him ur weakness, the more u show him ur weakness, he'll jus take advantage of it.. and plus u wouldnt wanna be wit someone who dont feel the same way like before..

[XxKrNqTcUiTyxX]

im so sry..
oki first things first DO NOT, i repeat DO NOT commit suicide!!!! number one, suicide is very selfish and number two you shouldnt kill yourself over a guy!!! it's just not worth it. this sayiong is old, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea. you're young, and i bet theres plenty of other guys who can treat you well pfft and this guy sound like a jerk, i mean ending a one year relationship because you two are having a few bumps along the road?? you can do much better hey if you need to talk to someone you can aim meeh, mai sn is XxKrNqTcUiTyxX feel better soon

[177emories]

so are you still together? but he's only THINKING about breaking up? or are you two already broken up and u can't forget him or something? okay its NOT worth it to DIE!!!! cause there are soooooooo many other guys out there! your only THINKING that because he's the first bf you ever had.. like come on seriously did you think you two would last until marriage? your still young, you need to date around and see how it like!! if he's sad you dont' want to hold on to hiom any longer.. do you wnat to stay together knowing that he's sad while with you all the time? NO! you wouldn't wnat him feeling that if u like him... if u like him u'd let him go... theres this saying and it goes like this.. "if you love someone, let them go, if they come back then your meant to be, if they don't, then it was never meant to be" okay go around date around and there ARE better guys out there you just ahevn't met them yet.. but if someone they he should happen to come back... then u were meant to be all along... Chill and don't die on me girl!! be strong i know how it feels cause i have a freind who still isn't over her ex after he's dating someone else already now... she stil thinks about him and everything even though she knows he's moved on... but she knows it not worth it to die!! so yeah you decide whats best for you

take cares girl.

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

whoa .. you have to calm down for a second .. don't start thinking about suicide because of this .. you're just too caught up in the relationship and because it was for a year you've become attached and dependent .. i understand that it's hard to let go especially if it's your first love .. but you also have to realize a few other things that come along witht he territory of being in love. sometimes love isn't enough to keep a couple together. your boyfriend feels that he's ready to move on for now and you should care enough to respect his wishes. it will hurt .. i won't lie to you about that .. and it's very hard to deal with especially in the beginning -- but you'll live. you have to be strong for yourself and keep it together .. at one point in your life you were single and didn't have him and you were doing just fine and you can do that again. don't let another's life determine if you can live .. do what you have to do and do what's best for YOU. have a little faith and hope to think that if you two were really meant to be that it'll work out maybe sometime in the future and the timing just isn't right now. you're still young and there's plenty to see out there before you know he's the perfect one for you. and also, as much as you love him .. why force him to stay if he doesn't want to stay by your side? you're supposed to fight the same fight .. as the quote says .. *if you love something, let it go .. if it comes back to you, it's yours .. & if it doesn't, it never was..* .. love involves sacrifice at times .. and this may be it for you .. show him you care enough to let him go and try to seek happiness elsewhere .. maybe he'll even see that you really treated him good and that he misses you and come back .. you never know .. but just don't let your emotions take over your mind .. i'm sorry that you're upset .. but trust me when i say things will turn out for the best .. feel better ..

[southern4life]

i know exactly what you mean.. i was totally in love with this one guy n he dumped me for no real reason at all.... i ended up in therapy =/ but that was a couple years ago n i've learned a lot since then -
#1: no guy is worth ur tears
#2: no guy is worth your life
if this guy wants to end a years relationship.. you cant hold him back, cuz then he wont be happy. as hard as it might be to let go, you have to do it. maybe this guy will come back into your life later on? ..and even if he doesnt, all it means is that he wasnt meant to. even when you cant see it, theres always a reason..
dont waste your time crying and questioning your life over one guy.. theres millions out there-true, most of em suck.. but theres one out there for YOU.. he's YOUR soulmate.. and he's the one your gonna spend your life with. so get up, quit worrying about this one guy.. and go find your perfect match. =] good luck

[mzxlaughable]

ok NO SUiCiDE or hurting yourself.
uhmm.. maybe you guys should do something together, like a movie ,gift, or something that he likes to change his mind about breaking up
if that doesn't work, just remember there is a lot of guys in the world, and your current one isn't your exact perfect one.

good luck in your relationship!

[LilBrunette0313]

I seriously believe that there is someone out there for everyone. If he doesn't want to be with you you will just have to be strong and not nessesarily stop loving him, but stop showing it. If he's the one for you he will come back, if he's not then you should find someone who loves you as much as you love them. Suicide is not the answer. Don't end your life over some guy, they come and go, but you only get one chance at living.

[mouse_3k]

please dont kill urself for a guy. I tried when this guy i thought i loved didnt like me NE more. now im with a guy who loves me back. Just tell urself a better guy will come in ur life. I hurt (use to) myself because of all these problems w/ my bf rite now and family and it just isnt worth it. I know exactly how u feel. Ill probably feel the same way if my bf ever dumped me or something but u are strong enough to go through it ok? there are better people u will find in the future. just let u and tht special someone find each other then u will be in heaven

[LiNHy POO]

plz dont kill yourself over a guy!!!!!!!!!!!! its very WORTHLESS!!!! maybe it is a time to move on with your lifes... you will have many more guys to come.. some maybe better than your bf right now!!!

[angel-roh]

awww kelly! feel better! dont put urself down. putting urself down is not a good thing to do, so cheer up, kelly! heh anyways... i hope he wont dump u or if he does, i hope he comes back to u so he can rescue u from ur pain heart^^

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