what should i do here?, mixed feelings.. help |
 Jun 10 2004, 09:52 AM
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 SoMehOw iT sEeMs CoLdeR nOw..  Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,718  |
ok.. my boifriend.. Cody.. we've been goin out for 2 months.. so its nothin "serious" but its more than just a casual 2 week thing.. right. n we've dated before. i keep having all these mixed feelings about him.. one minute i'll be completely wrapped up in him.. n the next i'll be wanting to get outta the relationship so fast its crazy. not only that.. but this other guy, Tyler. he's more of a makeout buddy than anything else.. so i wanna be single so i can be with him again..
 but heres the hard part- Codys messed up. i always get involved with the crazy guys idk why.. Cody's bi.polar & tends to stay pretty depressed.. especially when he doesnt take his medicine. he has a really messed up family & all kinds of problems.. he feels comfortable with me cuz im the only stability in his life right now.. and i love to help people.. so i love when i can make him feel better ya kno.. i'm even in good with his mom. i talk to her all the time online ((she has msn)) she's more like a friend to me than a mom.. she's really kool.. easy to talk to. but she's always tellin me bout how bad codys life is n its kinda awkward.. n it makes me feel so bad cuz here cody is w. all these problems.. then here i am wanting to break up with him. the main reason i'm afraid to break up with him is cuz he always talks about how if it wasnt for me he'd run away or kill himself or somethin like that. he already "cuts".. he's tried to kill himself before.. n he was in the hostpital for a week or 2 in december cuz he ODed.. idk what i wanna do? |
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Jun 10 2004, 10:47 AM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
you definately have to talk to him.
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Jun 10 2004, 12:04 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i think u should break it off before he falls deeper for u... or tell him u dont wanna be his gf u wanna be his best friend? so u can help him without being with him? lol i dunno.. thats a tough situation
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Jun 11 2004, 09:14 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
you honestly have to do what's best for you .. don't stay with someone because of that .. if you're unhappy and you'd rather be elsewhere you have to be honest .. if you keep lying to yourself and him you'll make the situation worse and hurt the people you care about even more .. he'll learn to get over it if you break things off with him .. you can still be friends and be a means of stability for him .. but don't let his problems cramp your time to be happy .. honestly to stay involved with a family with those kind of problems in their background will only lead to further problems if you stay even longer and it becomes serious .. so be very careful .. if you want my honest opinion i think it's best you leave while the goings good before something bad happens ..
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Jun 11 2004, 09:49 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 421 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,135 |
QUOTE(conster @ Jun 10 2004, 1:04 PM) i think u should break it off before he falls deeper for u... or tell him u dont wanna be his gf u wanna be his best friend? so u can help him without being with him? lol i dunno.. thats a tough situation i agree. say you don't want to be his girlfriend but you want to be his friend and stay in his life. |
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Jun 11 2004, 03:30 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
you should think this over yourself.. its an important thing.. we only know parts of it right?..
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Jun 11 2004, 04:23 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
Stay with him. Give it time. You can't blame him cuz he is mentally unhealthy. Just try and do wutever you can to help him.
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Jun 11 2004, 06:36 PM
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SoMehOw iT sEeMs CoLdeR nOw.. Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,718 |
QUOTE(illuminessence @ Jun 11 2004, 3:23 PM) Stay with him. Give it time. You can't blame him cuz he is mentally unhealthy. Just try and do wutever you can to help him. you say that like he's retarded er somethin.. he has a depression disorder.. thats all. i think i'm stayin with him.. at least til i get too trapped |
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Jun 12 2004, 01:31 PM
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 =P Group: Member Posts: 207 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,290 |
just think about what you want. you guys can still stay close as friends. It wouldn't be fair for him either if you had feelings for Tyler.
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Jun 12 2004, 07:33 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
wow... he wanted to kill himself? wow thats one big messy drama there... hmm anyways my friend, lisa went through like that. well wat she did was she just helped him out, but she dumped him cus she doesnt want to have a relationship with someone who is about to die...but i dont think ur guy is gona die.... heh anyways wat im saying is that my friend, lisa....she was there for him and he understood her feelings. she was sad about it, but still had to let him go. u said u like tyler. if ur more comfortable with him, then i think it's best for you to go with a guy that will make u more comfortable. u cant like a guy when you get so uncomfortable. i know ur friend's with cody's mom. there wont be any differences if u dump cody... so yeah just tell cody how u feel about him and that u sometimes feel like u wana be with somebody else cus ur sick of the time when cody is trying to kill himself. since he got all these problems, u shud be there for him... cus i think thats a best solution.
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