Stuck like glue.. Options

[x-klutzibabi-x]

Well, my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little more than a year. I know he loves me a lot, like....he has our entire future planned out. I don't take it seriously though. Anyways, it just feels like my love is slowly fading away for him. I'm not as attracted to him, and getting a little bored with him.

Sometimes he does annoy me when I tell him that I need to do my homework during lunch, but we end up spend lunch together since he'll complain that we don't spend enough time together. A few times I told him that I need space, but he overreacts and think that I'm breaking up with him. He's like...too attached to me. Whenever I tell him that he needs to back off a little, he gets upset and becomes a little more attached.

I want to break it off with him, but I'll know he'll get hurt and I still have feelings for him.

[*Uronacid*]

Sounds like he was really attached to begin with, and when you tried to get your space he took it like you were breaking up. This can cause him to want to cling on to you even more. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him.

Hey, it's normal to need space. I needed space today. That space is what keeps you unique. It's what keeps you being you, and him being him. If you spend to much time together it's almost like you become one mind. You become bored because you loose that uniqueness. You loose the excitement. Your love maybe fading away because you don't have that space.

Are you spending to much time together? If you are, take a break from each other for a day or two. Go hang out with some friends. Don't think about what he wants, because sometimes "what he wants" is NOT what's best for your relationship.

[angelrevelation]

Maybe try a few group get togethers instead of just spending alone time. You'll be able to still be around each other without being ONLY with each other. It might ease him off a bit.

[Kontroll]

Just tell him he's a bitch and dump his ass.

Feelings come and go, and it won't last long.

[alysaphobia]

your space is valuable. everybody needs their own time, doing what they want, and it can get really irritating if somebody wants to control how you spend that time.

i think you need to be really honest and have a talk with him about how you dislike when he tries to cling to you. don't let him dictate how you spend your space; make sure you have your say over your own personal agenda. if he continues to cling unnecassarily to you... i think you should break off the relationship. that's what i'd do.

[haha_you_have_a_...]

Just tell him he's a bitch and dump his ass.

Feelings come and go, and it won't last long.

That might not be such a good idea..

[iDecay]

^ Sarcasm, dear.

Just tell him straight up that you need space. If he doesen't understand, then why be with him anyways?

[x-klutzibabi-x]

Whenever I do talk to him sbout it, he freaks-outs and gets offended.

I've talked to him about needing space a few times before, but it doesn't work.

[*Uronacid*]

Whenever I do talk to him sbout it, he freaks-outs and gets offended.

I've talked to him about needing space a few times before, but it doesn't work.

It seems as if he's like a little kid trying to jump into the swimming pool for the first time. He's scared. It might become unpleasant. So he just sits there on the side of the pool. You need to push him in. You just have to do it whether he likes it or not. Let him get scared, if he breaks up with you then it's his problem.

Like I said, "That space is what keeps you unique. It's what keeps you being you, and him being him. If you spend to much time together it's almost like you become one mind. You become bored because you loose that uniqueness. You loose the excitement. Your love maybe fading away because you don't have that space." That space is why you started dating in the first place!! HE NEEDS TO GET OVER IT!!!

He's not offended. He's just scared you're going to break up with him, and he's trying to stop you from doing that. MAKE SURE HE KNOWS YOU AREN'T BREAKING UP WITH HIM. Heck, you can even use what I said to help him understand.

Here's a good article on space in a relationship:
http://womentodaymagazine.com/relationships/space.html

[pkbabe]

Heres a quote I got from Jet Li's movie Fearless (don't laugh). Took me a freakin while to find this so read. Oh its the English subtitles so the exact translations won't be accurate. I wish I knew someone who knows Chinese. But anyways here:

Seedlings have life too. They can't stay too close or it will hinder growth. Just like us humans. In life, we must have mutual respect. That way we can live peacefully & happily

Its the scene after Jet Li 1st planted those weed thingys but the blind girl redid it for him cuz he messed up & thats when she says the quote above.

Long story short its saying that people need space in order to grow & mature.

[II_noFOREVER]

you just need to sit down and talk to him about it because seriously, what are you going to do? spend your entire life being unhappy and avoiding the situation because you dont want to hurt him? having your own personal space is important. its better to let him know now that you just cant be that attatched at the hip than hurt him later when his feelings for you intensifies right? talk it out.

[Kontroll]

That might not be such a good idea..

Okay, I wasn't being sarcastic. Maybe not calling him a bitch is a good idea, but I'm just making a point. You can't have a relationship where you're stuck because you're afraid of your own feelings. Just do what you want. That's how it works. It's not like you're married.

He's too much of a girl and you shouldn't have that. You need a nice a-hole who will treat you like you should be treated.