should i tell my boyfriend, about this dream? |
 Mar 1 2007, 04:35 PM
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 ginger queen  Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 502,458  |
Last night I had a dream that I cheated on my current boyfriend with my ex. When I told the ex that I couldn't hook up with him anymore he got angry and violent and started screaming at me. [Like the psyco guy from Degrassi if anyone watches it]
It's wierd cause: one. my ex is the NICEST person in the world. && two. i would never cheat on my boyfriend. The reason I don't know if i should tell him or not is because we had a big fight a week ago because he said he didn't fully trust me 100% to go and drink with guys when i'm not with him. [he's away at college] He ultimatly saw it my way and knows I will never cheat on him. I want to tell him, but don't want to lose the trust I just fought for. Help? 
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Mar 1 2007, 04:54 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Don't tell him about the dream, at least not for now. It's not as if the dream is predicting the future. If anything, it's probably mirroring your worries about the fight that you guys had last week since he said that he didn't trust you and whatnot. Don't worry too much about it.
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Mar 1 2007, 04:54 PM
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 Nepenthe Group: Member Posts: 47 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 347,414 |
Wow, this is a sticky situation. Really, I think it depends on you and your boyfriend. Sure, you may lose that trust temporarily, but will he see that you're trying to be open with him? He could take it a bad way, or he could take it in the "she'd tell me anything, even if she knew it would get her in trouble...what honesty!" kind of way. =/ If it were me and my boyfriend, I'd tell him. We're both avid dreamers, and all my dreams have nothing to do with my real life.
Also, you might have dreamed it because you DON'T want it to happen. But, I'm not an expert in dreams. Good luck, though, with whatever you decide. |
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Mar 1 2007, 05:26 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
I don't think you should tell your boyfriend, at least for now. But if it keeps on bothering your concious, maybe you should. However, he could overreact and think it's what your subconcious wants
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Mar 1 2007, 06:03 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 158 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,941 |
its a dream, not reality, don't tell him, this is coming from a guy :)
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| *Uronacid* |
Mar 1 2007, 07:14 PM
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Look, it's not real. Only you know your boyfriend. If you think he can handle it and have to tell him then just do it, but if you know he's going to loose it... you might as well just keep your mouth shut.
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Mar 1 2007, 08:54 PM
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just dont tell him? whats the big deal with not telling him a dream you had..
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Mar 1 2007, 08:58 PM
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ginger queen Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 502,458 |
QUOTE(x_y0urElectrikk @ Mar 1 2007, 8:54 PM)  just dont tell him? whats the big deal with not telling him a dream you had.. we tell eachother everything no matter what, we have a very open relationship. ------------------------ I know this isnt a big deal so i think im just going to keep it to myself for now and mayyyybe tell him down the line like "ohh haha want to hear a dream i had a few weeks ago..." |
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Mar 1 2007, 09:13 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Eh. I tell my boyfriend dreams I have...but it's really up to you
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Mar 1 2007, 09:42 PM
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 Linds, I love you.. Yeah, well.. I love me too. Jp. Group: Member Posts: 47 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 506,705 |
If he doesnt believe you, then he doesnt deserve you.
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Mar 1 2007, 09:57 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 558 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,872 |
QUOTE(ging_er_in @ Mar 1 2007, 8:58 PM) we tell eachother everything no matter what, we have a very open relationship. ------------------------ I know this isnt a big deal so i think im just going to keep it to myself for now and mayyyybe tell him down the line like "ohh haha want to hear a dream i had a few weeks ago..." oh I see.. well Okay. lol |
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| *x0htheMYSTERY* |
Mar 2 2007, 12:12 AM
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i think you shuld tell him. if he breaks up for yu for that.. thats gay. besides, its only a dream.
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| *salcha4u* |
Mar 2 2007, 12:43 AM
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Mar 2 2007, 01:29 AM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
Don't tell him. it may just cause drama.
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Mar 2 2007, 01:53 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
There really isn't a big problem here.
It was just a dream. Nothing more, i wouldn't read into it, especially if you know you'd never cheat on your boyfriend and such. There is no need to tell him something that didn't happen, you know? It just will be picking up a fight that really stemmed from nothing. I suggest you forget about the dream, and move on. |
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Mar 2 2007, 02:47 PM
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 suckaaaa free Group: Member Posts: 158 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 504,684 |
most people dream of what they are afraid of happening.
don't let it scare you, or it'll end up running your life. if you're 100% with boyfriend then you have nothing to worry about. |
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Mar 3 2007, 01:19 AM
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What the f**k .. it's something hella unimportant. I know you tell him eevrything and whatnot but its a dream that will probably cause an argument. I doubt he's not going to care that his gf is having dreams about her hooking up with her ex.
If I was him .. it would somewhat bother me. Not to the point to hella argue but I'd be like " Wtf && why are you telling me this?" |
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Mar 3 2007, 10:15 AM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
if you guys just argued recently over you possibly going out and cheating on him while he's away, i don't think it's necassary to go ahead and tell him about a dream (that's not as if it's real) that may spark up some more argument. if you desperately need to tell him ... at least wait a few weeks.
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Mar 5 2007, 02:24 AM
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i dont think its a good idea to really mention it to your bf. its a dream and it doesnt really mean anything soooo why start a fight when theres nothing to fight about? what he doesnt know wont hurt him. and its not like anything happened, it was a dream, so theres nothing for you to feel guilty about.
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Mar 5 2007, 03:33 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
You slut, you. Haha.
You should tell him like a month down the road to show him that your dream was in fact just a dream. |
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