Perfect Closet Romance? Options

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

For privacy reasons, I am going to be using letters for people. A = Me because I'm always so perfect (haha just kidding) B = my friend C = her friend who I met and is now is my friend
Got it?

So C just started working with A and B and A (which is me) has a crush on C. *BY THE WAY, A is GAY - B is a woman - C is the one I'm deciding on* B and C have been friends for a while and the other day they were drinking together and she was talking about work and since I'm a perky person, I introduced myself because he was a def. cutie. B was like, so C, what do you think of work? And mind you they are both hardcore drunk, C told B that he would "definatley go gay for A". So A (again that's me for the people who haven't caught on) is like, OHH I hope he is because I have a hugeeee crush on him and there are seriously not many people in my area that swing my way so it is like nearly impossible (we are all 17 seniors in HS, B+C go to school together and I go to a diffrent school). But yeah, we work together one day and I am totally attempting to flirt (very poorly) and I end up asking if he wants to go on break together. Most supposed straight guys would be like....uh....sure? but he was just like yeah okay so at that point I'm thinking he's either straight and reallly secure or maybe he slightly is. So we go on break together and we start asking each other a lot of questions, and we talked a lot more than while we were working so maybe he was waiting to get away from people we know. He's like I'm tired, and I am like why? So he's like oh I was at a party last night and I didn't get back until like 5:30 this morning. We get back to work and the rest of the day is normal. A calls B up (I really don't know why I'm referring to myself as A) and is like, OMGGG SO LIKE WE WENT ON BREAK TOGETHER and I tell her my love at first sight sob story. And she tells me he was at her house last night and she had her shirt off and they were making out but she didn't feel anything and he really wasn't "aroused". She also told me he didn't have a girlfriend for like the past four years and so a part of me is really hoping that he happens to be gay also because that would be perfect, but I know I am most likely dreaming. He seems very hetero and the only reason I'm kind of thinking about whether he is or not is because of what he said to B and the fact that I, for the first time, have a real crush and it's not just a "oh he's cute, I'd probably do him or date him" kind of thing. It's like a real crush, and with me that doesn't happy very often.
Opinions?

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

This is way confusing for me.. :-/

[Cujiine]

Gah... even with as confusing that was with all the A's B's and C's and everything, I somehow got it... ummm I'm not totally sure what to say but I'd say at least because really good friends with him before asking him out. Although that might make things weird because it'll be like, "My gay friend likes me..." I have a friend like that but you know... hetero people here... and hes liked me ever since 5th grade and so I keep trying to detatch myself from him because he got with this guy because he was trying to get me jealous or trying tomake me feel guilty for "turning him gay" but yeah... it's not that I have a problem with gays but you know... it's awkward to have a friend who you know is gay trying to hit on you...

[multifaceted]

Okay a lot of things got me confused and I'm going to try to help you as much as I can.

Did B know that you liked this C person?

And a crush is a crush. You can't really define a fake crush and a real crush. If you like him, you want to go out with him and maybe do it with him. That's it.

I can't tell if he's gay or not because of the incident with B. Maybe you should get B to ask C if he's bi or gay or straight. Once you know then I think you can play your cards by yourself.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Gah... even with as confusing that was with all the A's B's and C's and everything, I somehow got it... ummm I'm not totally sure what to say but I'd say at least because really good friends with him before asking him out. Although that might make things weird because it'll be like, "My gay friend likes me..." I have a friend like that but you know... hetero people here... and hes liked me ever since 5th grade and so I keep trying to detatch myself from him because he got with this guy because he was trying to get me jealous or trying tomake me feel guilty for "turning him gay" but yeah... it's not that I have a problem with gays but you know... it's awkward to have a friend who you know is gay trying to hit on you...

I know it's weird which is why I really don't want to ask him until I'm sure that he has some interest. The thing is though, I'm pretty sure he has some idea that I have a crush on him, but he still acts normal and is cool with everything.

Okay a lot of things got me confused and I'm going to try to help you as much as I can.

Did B know that you liked this C person?

And a crush is a crush. You can't really define a fake crush and a real crush. If you like him, you want to go out with him and maybe do it with him. That's it.

I can't tell if he's gay or not because of the incident with B. Maybe you should get B to ask C if he's bi or gay or straight. Once you know then I think you can play your cards by yourself.

B knows it. I've asked B and we've been discussing it because B and C are such good friends, but B tells me all this stuff about how B thinks C is, but C goes around and does something hetero like make out with a girl. I am thinking it might just be so he can hide and attempt to prove to himself that he's not gay.

[Comptine]

your story was turning into like a multiple choice test.

i suggest you don't push it or try to pry. forcing someone who hasn't come to terms with their sexuality to come out could have really bad effects. i know you really like him but best you give it time.

maybe become really good friends with him. if you prove yourself to be a trustworthy confidant, he may eventually come out to you. but don't expect anything. just be a good friend.

question: does C know that A is gay?

[*Monochrome.*]

I think you should still flirt around and investigate into him a little more before you do anything.
You wouldent want to get really hurt in the end.

[Kontroll]

Haha. Well, don't count on it if he was drunk. And if you do end up going out with him, make sure it's more than a crush at that point.

[minioligo]

Haha, awww. This is cute :x

Well, since B didn't feel anything and C wasn't quite "aroused" and drunk when they were...I'm sure it meant nothing. D: Interesting. Anyway, I think you should just try to get to know him for a little longer and wait for more things to stir up. Don't completely go for him yet since you don't know for sure if he's gay or not...but it's nice to have a crush, eh? XD

[*Uronacid*]

This was confusing... I hope this is what you meant..

Alright, so... You are friends with this chick who's friend is a guy that you're hoping is gay because you have a crush on him. You all work together, goto the same highschool together, and are seventeen years of age. You have heard this guy say a few questionable things that lead you to assume that he is gay and went on a nice work-break together where you subtly flirted with him. You then called your friend (who is a girl) to gossip about the romantic break you had with your crush. She listened, but after you informed her she proceeded to inform you that he had made out with her while she was topless just the other day.

What do I think:

I think that you're jumping to conclusions. My friends act like they are homosexuals as a joke all the time. Not only that, we go on break together without saying, "Uh... ok..." When I asked Jeremy to go on break with me just the other day he replied, "Yeah sure dude, just call me when you go on break and I'll be right there!"

I think that you need to either ask him if he's gay, or wait until he gives you the "high" sign (wait until he tells you). One thing I do know is that many people aren't very accepting to gay people coming on to them. You may want to wait until you know before coming to conclusions and wasting your time fantasizing about this individual. You may just end up disappointing yourself. "Don't count your chickens before they hatch."

Off-topic:

P.S. My father says, "Ask him to hold out his wrist, and if he holds out his wrist and it's limp then he is a "limp-wrister". This is a sure sign that he is "your kind of guy"...." Haha, I love my Dad.. xD

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

your story was turning into like a multiple choice test.

i suggest you don't push it or try to pry. forcing someone who hasn't come to terms with their sexuality to come out could have really bad effects. i know you really like him but best you give it time.

maybe become really good friends with him. if you prove yourself to be a trustworthy confidant, he may eventually come out to you. but don't expect anything. just be a good friend.

question: does C know that A is gay?

yes C knows that A is gay

I think you should still flirt around and investigate into him a little more before you do anything.
You wouldent want to get really hurt in the end.

the thing with this is it's trouble to find time to just hang out with him alone and when i do it in public, he gets a little iffy about it
the one day we did go on break together though he was flirty back

This was confusing... I hope this is what you meant..

Alright, so... You are friends with this chick who's friend is a guy that you're hoping is gay because you have a crush on him. You all work together, goto the same highschool together, and are seventeen years of age. You have heard this guy say a few questionable things that lead you to assume that he is gay and went on a nice work-break together where you subtly flirted with him. You then called your friend (who is a girl) to gossip about the romantic break you had with your crush. She listened, but after you informed her she proceeded to inform you that he had made out with her while she was topless just the other day.

What do I think:

I think that you're jumping to conclusions. My friends act like they are homosexuals as a joke all the time. Not only that, we go on break together without saying, "Uh... ok..." When I asked Jeremy to go on break with me just the other day he replied, "Yeah sure dude, just call me when you go on break and I'll be right there!"

I think that you need to either ask him if he's gay, or wait until he gives you the "high" sign (wait until he tells you). One thing I do know is that many people aren't very accepting to gay people coming on to them. You may want to wait until you know before coming to conclusions and wasting your time fantasizing about this individual. You may just end up disappointing yourself. "Don't count your chickens before they hatch."

Off-topic:

P.S. My father says, "Ask him to hold out his wrist, and if he holds out his wrist and it's limp then he is a "limp-wrister". This is a sure sign that he is "your kind of guy"...." Haha, I love my Dad.. xD

the only thing was B and C go to the same school, but i go to a different one
and i know a lot of what you were saying is true and that i shouldn't get my hopes too high, but i really am trying not too but im not the type of person who like stays attached for this long which is why this is making it complicated for me and the fact that B says that she honestly does question him
the whole break thing to me is just that a lot of the guys that i have asked are always a little hesitant and that is why i kind of thought that with C, but i guess he really could just be ok with himself

OH update

my one friend who knows i like him ends up hanging out with him last night and tonight and was flirting with him like hardcore all of work today and i almost like dropped a bomb and she was telling me how it means nothing to her

[*Uronacid*]

yes C knows that A is gay
the thing with this is it's trouble to find time to just hang out with him alone and when i do it in public, he gets a little iffy about it
the one day we did go on break together though he was flirty back
the only thing was B and C go to the same school, but i go to a different one
and i know a lot of what you were saying is true and that i shouldn't get my hopes too high, but i really am trying not too but im not the type of person who like stays attached for this long which is why this is making it complicated for me and the fact that B says that she honestly does question him
the whole break thing to me is just that a lot of the guys that i have asked are always a little hesitant and that is why i kind of thought that with C, but i guess he really could just be ok with himself

OH update

my one friend who knows i like him ends up hanging out with him last night and tonight and was flirting with him like hardcore all of work today and i almost like dropped a bomb and she was telling me how it means nothing to her

So you're upset because you're friend is flirting with some guy you have feelings for? You're a homosexual, and I'm sure you consistently come into situations where people aren't as open-minded as you would hope them to be I think you need to be just as open-minded as you would like others to be. You have to understand that this is probably a situation that's going to be somewhat difficult for her to understand. Don't you think it's a bit ridiculous for you to become upset considering she has probably never been in a situation where another guy was jealous of her flirting with a guy. That's a pretty rare situation. So rare in fact that I am willing to bet not one girl on this site has been confronted with that situation before.