Getting over your Ex Options

[crazy-like-a-foo...]

How do you get over your Ex? I met my boyfriend last may, and we just got on straight away, i enjoyed his company, he enjoyed mine and we looked forward to our weekends together, he was slightly naive and slightly younger but i didnt mind that, i quite liked it. We are both gay, he didnt know the gay scene and i did so i shown him and we went out every week for about three months. He was a good looking lad but it wasnt about looks, i just loved him. Every time he left to go home the next day when he had stayed over and we had been out i would long for the next week to see him again. After 3 months we split up, i dont think he was ready for a proper relationship, it hurt so much nobody can understand unless you have been there, i just cried and got drunk for 3 days and ignored uni and work and everyone. we didnt speak for a few months, then he turned up suddenly and we had sex which was a mistake, and i still had feelings for him, but then he found a new boyfriend which only lasted 3 weeks, then they split up.

This last 3 weeks he has been coming round again, he has changed so much for the better and i still love him more than he could know, i wanna look after him, be with him, give him a bit of confidence which he lacks. I dont know if he feels the same but i still love him more than ever, and the first thing i do when he goes home at weekends is cry, i just wanna be with him so much. He has been talked into having sex by 2 people since we split and he hates himself for it, he is so naive, i hate the thought or people useing him.

I dont wanna tell him i still love him incase it scares him off and our special friendship is ruined, i do want him in my life either as boyfriend or friend, but i just cry when he goes and miss him so much, i dont know what to do. Dont know if to tell him and take the risk, or just carry on as i am or not see him. I care so much about this lad its unbelievable.

[*My Cinderella.*]

At the moment, you two seem like you're confused. In my opinion, it looks like he's partially interested in just having sex. As for telling him how you feel, that's up to you. If you believe that you guys should give your relationship another chance, then go for it. Don't keep your feelings bottled up.

[Cujiine]

^^ Agreed. Um I'd suggest just trying to be his friend for a while. He seems to be looking for fun rather than commitment.

[priyas]

At the moment, you two seem like you're confused. In my opinion, it looks like he's partially interested in just having sex. As for telling him how you feel, that's up to you. If you believe that you guys should give your relationship another chance, then go for it. Don't keep your feelings bottled up.

i agree with cinderella.

[Señorita Semi-Au...]

I also agree with Jane. However, I think you should take a break and give yourself some space. Realize how big the world is and get to know yourself.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Get rid of everything of his that makes you think of him.

.. :-/

[multifaceted]

You stay his friend and keep it like that.

If you still think these thoughts about it, then you really need to get everything that you associate with him out of your place, no matter how hard it is to get rid of it and start anew.

[*Uronacid*]

Alright, it sounds like you haven't had closure in your relationship. I mean, you definitely weren't the one who broke it off. You obviously still have feelings for this guy.

Why did you guys break up, and how did it happen?

[cornytu]

At the moment, you two seem like you're confused. In my opinion, it looks like he's partially interested in just having sex. As for telling him how you feel, that's up to you. If you believe that you guys should give your relationship another chance, then go for it. Don't keep your feelings bottled up.

Well, she said it all from my mind.

[Kontroll]

Why think about something that's already past you?

[*Monochrome.*]

I really thing the secret to getting over your ex is closure.You really do need to talk to your ex and talk about well...to start with the fact that you arent over him yet...