I've got a situation for you..... Options

[PandaSan]

All of my nearly 18 years of life, I have only had one person say yes when I asked her out. Only it fell through so miserably that I don't even consider it to have counted at all. She was addicted to an online game, not WoW oddly enough, and tha game had taken over her entire life. I could've lived with it, I as ready to go and get the game so I could play it with her when we weren't out. But then she has her friend give me a note that says along the lines of "Sorry, I changed my mind" and has not spoken to me since then.

It's been over a year now, and I've found the person I was really looking for the whole time. We are friends and everything. We work at the same job together, all of our friends know each other, we trust each other a lot and everything. But from past ordeals, I have a really hard time saying things in person that I do in texts and myspace...........

Any suggestions on how to fix that?

[iDecay]

Practice on your friends.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

well just get over it. things happend you know but not everyone is going to be the same as your ex-girlfriend and to be honest its not very good to ask people out on myspace or text messages because it only seems that you dont care about them that much. Just get a grip and relax if things dont turn out at least you gave it a try.

if you feel so insecure just talk with a friend maybe the girl you want to go out with. GOOD LUCK!

[krnxswat]

Just be yourself, bro. When girls say that you can be flirty with texts and MySpace, it tells alot about you. If you really feel she's the one, why don't you go for it? You have nothing to lose. You've been rejected most of your 18 years of your life (sorry for being so blunt). I say go for it. Get some guts. It'll be hard in the beginning but once you gain some confidence, and get comfortable with her, everything'll be okay.

Best of luck!

[AllyWally00]

I kinda understand how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and me broke up about 7-8 months ago we where together for 2 years. And I was comp. inlove with him. And I've dated 3 guys after him. And well since then I haven't really been able to comp. express myself. The things I want to say to peoples faces I am only able to say threw myspace, texts, or aim. It's just really hard for me to express myself anyway anymore, even to my own parents and friends. But honestly, if I where you; I would bring up the topic of dating up to her one night and see how she feels about you or how her thoughts are towards yours. Don't be afraid to ever tell a person how you honestly feel about them because later down the road you could end up regreting something or i don't know. Sometimes I feel as if I do it threw myspace or text I feel as if I am being fake to myself.

[*Uronacid*]

Suck it up, the only thing you can do is practice, and you have to start somewhere.

[multifaceted]

Be yourself. A girl won't like you if you try to be something you are not. Ask her out in the same way of asking, "So what did you do today?"

Don't ask a friend to ask another friend to ask her siblings (if she has any) to go ask her. That way is not going to get you very far.

[PandaSan]

Hey,

Thanks you all for the advice^_^
I talked to her on Myspace, because ironically it's easier for her on there as well, and right now it's a wait and see what happens kind of thing. She needs to sort a lot of stuff out right now...

Man I love this place ^_^