what do you do when you are stuck in between the two? Options

[asianxphunk]

im not going to tell you guys the whole story. even though i should.. but.. hopefully you guys will understand enough with the information im giving you.

theres one guy.. lets say Guy #1.. well we've been on a break for about almost a month.. and ive been with him for about a year and four and a half months.. the reason for the break? well.. he wanted his alone time to do whatever he wanted.. i guess you can say his "man time". and i gave it to him. oh yeahh and i love him. but.. there are a couple problems with him.. he is hard headed and stubborn. he's always right. yup. and.. he does things that he doesnt notice. =/ but.. i know he loves me back.. just doesnt know how.. or at least be good. but its been more than a year.. and he has gotten better.. but.. its hasnt been much.. BUT he's my first lovee. and ive learned to love our differences.

and Guy#2 is this wonderful guy from Texas. But use to live where i live now. He's understandable, kind, sweet, extremely funny, and has been there for me every step of the way.. and he totally fell for me.. and.. im slowly falling for him.

and theres me.. a girl who is too paranoid and is the worse at making decisions.. scared.. weak.. but have all the motivation to live on.

the deal is.. #1 is confusing me.. and i cant seem to let go.. and i dont know if i should.. eveyrone is damn sure that i should. cause.. im just going to keep doing this. cause with #1 ive been through 7 break ups.. but im so confused. hes so confused. he doesnt know what to do. he says its over... then he loves me the next day.. and so on and so forth. #2 cares for me so much and says i shuldnt be going through this.. and hes winning me over. cause i do deserve to get better. then.. #1 punches #2 infront of me.. and i cant believe it.. #1 starts screaming.. "YOU TOOK HER AWAY FROM MEE!" cause for the past month... its been so hard being around him without being sad or mad. so ive been hanging with #2 cause he cheers me up. atfer that happened.. its been so hard. i dont know if i should let go.. or if i should.. i love him a lot.. but maybe this might be good for me and him.. but its gonna be so hard seeing him heartbroken or even more heartbroken.. or with another girl.. i d k what i should do.. #2 is the greatest to me.. but i love #1.. but then it might not work out anymore. but its not that i need to pick. i jst need closure.

[Mikhayl Wilson]

hmmm.... I know this may seem kinda mean, but you should do whatever is best for you. I mean if you go for guy #1 and you're unhappy, then you're not benefitting him or you..... And if you're happy with #2 then you should go for him. If number#1 makes you unhappy or sad when you are around him... then give him some space for awhile...... But if you're in love with #1 then don't bring #2 into the picture... because you wouldn't be able to give him your whole heart thus making him miss out a little.......

[*mishyerr*]

well, if you need closure, you should probably talk to them separately about your feelings, etc.

just because you love someone doesn't mean that you have to be with them. and also, just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that he has to hurt you or make you sad. ^_^

[asianxphunk]

ohh i see. thanksss.

[ninaD]

Okay so definitley been in your shoes, until just recently...so here's the thing, if you decide to go with guy #2 your going to have to completley eliminate #1 because if you don't the two are still going to get in the way, and your going to fall in love with #2 but still think about #1 which will effect the relationship, and lead to bad things. So you need to think it out, #1 obviously is your first so its soo flippin hard to let go of that, but just think is he really what you want in a man? Does he deserve you after what he's put you through? But you need to really decide otherwise you will lead #2 on, and in the end he will get hurt. So either you can just be friends with both, until you are over #1 for sure, or not whatever. Which is probably what I should have done, is just stay in exclusive so that you can be sure. And remember the sooner you end something the easier it is in the long run, i hope this helped it was rather jumbled.