What kind of relationship is it?, because... Options

[MrStrife]

So there's this girl who I always liked since we first met and before she pretended that she didn't care. Then she admitted she liked me too and we started dating for a while. It was all gravy until she moved across the world to live with her pops. She visits her moms over here every summer and last time it's like we picked up where we left off. btw, this is gonna be second summer. Seriously, I'm a little bit of the jealous type and I know we both going to date when we're not with each other, (we both leave hints) but it bothers me at the same time. We keep in touch but it sort of feels like friends with benefits sometimes and we argue a lot but I know we care about each other. What does count as and what is the best way to roll with this one?

p.s. oo my fault I thought this was relationship forum. Can someone move this please?

[gita]

i'm not sure. that is pretty complicated. long distance relationships are the worst, and they often don't end well. it's hard to hold up your end of the deal when you never see each other. if you guys want to make it official, and not just friend status, ask her out again, maybe? because otherwise, you'll both be going out with other people, and you won't have much with each other, besides friendship. that was sort of confusing. hope it helps.

[*annonymous.*]

It's like.... an open relationship where you have a relationship, but you can date other people too.

Someone move this to the relationship forum?

[iDecay]

Moved to Relationships.

[michellerrific]

I would say that is IS friends with benefits, in a mild sort of way (unless you guys are doing..things..) But you shouldn't really get too serious with this, because long distance relationships are hard to keep up with, especially only being able to see her in the summers.

[multifaceted]

Long distance relationships are always hard.

You probably want to ask her if she wants to date other people and if she doesn't you keep the relationship. If she does, then allow the relationship to be friends with benefits until you two are ready to commit to each other.

[magicfann]

You should probably f**k her, dumbass~

[tokyo-rose]

It sounds like an open and long-distance relationship to me.
You should probably just talk to her about dating other people since you said that you've both hinted at doing so. That way it won't feel so uncomfortable and you guys won't have to feel jealous or anything.

[MrStrife]

Oh no, thats part of the fun. By hint, I mean we talk about people who we know like us and we get jealous. Then we start bashing on them talking all sorts of shit about them like there name or what not. It's an endearing sign of affection coming from hatred actually. lol. But we never talk about dates or nothing like that. But the shitty part is more "I'm going to this friends party hun" "Ok have fun & be safe babe" vice versa.

[ninaD]

My opinion is, if you are a jealous person, and you really have strong feelings about this girl TELL HER how you feel! Share with HER your frustrations, and concerns! Just be honest with her, I think that is the best work it out together, and if you want to be exclusive with her, tell her that!

[Mikhayl Wilson]

I agree with ^^^ You should just express whatever is your heart....

[pkbabe]

Sounds like the kind of relationship I have right now (if you read my recent topic thingy here you'll kinda see)

Like a friends with benefits thingy with a hint of feelings on the side. I don't know...best way I can describe it LOL but yea...

I get you about the whole kinda jealous thing. We both like each other & I know that foo is gonna be seeing other girls (cuz hes a stud like that) but me, I'm not the type to be seeing guys & stuff(too used to being single). he even told me that we could be together if I accept that I'm not gonna be his only girl...since hes always wanted 2 gfs & of course I'm not down with that! Hes still single but if this is his weird way of asking me out then of course Imma reject him...he shouldn't play games like that

[lanbexx]

give
it
up.

romantic bullshit only works in movies. you 2 are trying to cling to a memory from the past of how compatible you are. you are essentially deluding yourselves into thinking you can make this work. long distance relationships NEVER work in real life, and if they do, they last a very short time until they realize they dont like each other as much as they thought they did.

[MrStrife]

^hahaz. What can I say? Either I'm a hopeless romantic or I'm a sucker for love.

[Stefanny]

Oh no, thats part of the fun. By hint, I mean we talk about people who we know like us and we get jealous. Then we start bashing on them talking all sorts of shit about them like there name or what not. It's an endearing sign of affection coming from hatred actually. lol. But we never talk about dates or nothing like that. But the shitty part is more "I'm going to this friends party hun" "Ok have fun & be safe babe" vice versa.

Whaaaaa-ttt? Keep her on a leash. Call her every day. Make sure she's not getting with anybody you don't want her to. Be like her ninja daddy.

No, I'm kidding.
It sounds like you're not really concerned about it. But you're just asking us what kind of relationship it is anyways. It's what I call a loose thread. You're just clinging on to whatever's left, and you know that it's all going to fall away pretty soon, but you're still not willing to let go yet. I'm not going to give you any advice, because I'm too inexperienced for that, lol.

But you know:

romantic bullshit only works in movies. you 2 are trying to cling to a memory from the past of how compatible you are. you are essentially deluding yourselves into thinking you can make this work. long distance relationships NEVER work in real life, and if they do, they last a very short time until they realize they dont like each other as much as they thought they did.

^ that pretty much sums it up.

[mai_z]

You're pretty much friends with benefits, and you, or both of you, have some emotional attachment.

Sorry though, as bad as this sounds, it's not gonna work out

[MrStrife]

My apologies but it's not over until it's over. I'll be damned if I'm not going fight with all I got to make this one work. Healthy or unhealthy, I can't let go of all the memories we made. When no one else gave a damn, she saved me from committing suicide. I want to be a better person and I believe I can she does too. She makes me feel good about myself, the real me that doesn't have to front. Hell, life is a fuccing biitch know that, but she was the one that kept me going. I know I feel strongly but fact is we both made a major impact on each other but we don't know exactly what we got.

My apologies. I didn't mean to make it sound like a rant.

[naeem]

I'm going through this right now, except that the girl can't date and stuff because her mom won't let her. Also, she has some kind of "boundary" thing where she doesn't wanna get into anything during high school.