3 girls and 1 guy, What should I do? |
 Jan 24 2007, 07:18 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!!  Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933  |
Hey Everyone. First off, I just want to say how much I appreciate it that you guys are taking the time to read this.
 Well, I have a problem... I like this guy, Brandon, and so does my friend, Courtney, but in the mean time... My other friend Jessica, likes him too...  and he's her ex, from like a year - two years ago... She's (Jessica) been telling everyone including me that she gives up on him because he's not responding to her calls. But everytime I see her she's always talking about how much she loves Brandon.  Thing is she doesn't know I like him. I don't wanna loose my two friends by trying to go out with Brandon but shouldn't they consider how I feel too?  Help me please!
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Jan 24 2007, 09:47 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
Do you really like this dude that much? Does he know that all three of you like him?
Listen, I just thought of this... If he knows that all three of you like him, he knows hes in a pretty good spot. He's probably feeling pretty confident. I mean, I would. Just don't ruin it for yourself by doing something immature. While your two friends are fighting like stupid cats, make sure you're taking the time to get to know him better. Also, if he's the type of guy that doesn't care if a girl asks him out, then take that step. At least it will give you an advantage above the other two. Hope that helps. Peace. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 24 2007, 07:58 PM
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That's like an unwritten rule in highschool.
RULE #125: Respect, DO NOT date your friends ex-boy/girl without asking him/her. Many friends are forever, and most high-school relationships are not. Talk to your friends about it before you get aggressive. |
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Jan 24 2007, 08:15 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
^ only in the Mean Girls movie.
If you really thing that you two have something, then catfight for him. If he's just a crush, then let it go. I think it is better to have friends. |
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Jan 24 2007, 08:20 PM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 24 2007, 4:58 PM)  That's like an unwritten rule in highschool. RULE #125: Respect, DO NOT date your friends ex-boy/girl without asking him/her. Many friends are forever, and most high-school relationships are not. Talk to your friends about it before you get aggressive. I agree with Uronacid. If it will hurt your friends, don't do it. |
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Jan 25 2007, 12:23 AM
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 we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
Orgy much?
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Jan 25 2007, 12:57 AM
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 oh baby! Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 404,785 |
If your friends mean more to you then he does, then I suggest that you shouldn't go furthur with him. But if you think that one guy will last longer than your friends. Then, go for it.
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Jan 25 2007, 07:10 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
Hey...
well, no, he doesn't know that we all like him... but I did write him a note, you know, to try to become his friend first,  and he wrote back saying that he would like to get to know me better  and he even asked me to the movies with Courtney...  BTW- thanks for reading! Oh yeah, and he invited me to sit with him and his friends at lunch... |
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| *mipadi* |
Jan 25 2007, 11:23 AM
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Ah, yes, the perennial situation of a bunch of girl friends like one boy. People might tell you that none of you should go for him, but why should you all be unhappy? Someone should get him. That's why I think it would be most effective for each of you to write an essay—250 words or less—detailing why you deserve him instead of the other girls, and then decide amongst yourselves who gets him, based on the essays.
Oh, and some people might tell you not to date your friend's ex-boyfriend, but that's ridiculous. Judging by the typeface and color of the font you chose, you're pretty young. One to two years is probably a distant memory by now. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 25 2007, 12:04 PM
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QUOTE(princess*missy @ Jan 25 2007, 7:10 AM) Hey... well, no, he doesn't know that we all like him... but I did write him a note, you know, to try to become his friend first, and he wrote back saying that he would like to get to know me better and he even asked me to the movies with Courtney... BTW- thanks for reading! Oh yeah, and he invited me to sit with him and his friends at lunch... hahahha, noice... you pimpette |
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Jan 25 2007, 11:06 PM
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we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
I bet he would love a 4-some, but maybe thats just me. But hey everyone wins in that situation.
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| *suddenly she* |
Jan 26 2007, 01:37 AM
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QUOTE(mipadi @ Jan 25 2007, 12:23 PM) Ah, yes, the perennial situation of a bunch of girl friends like one boy. People might tell you that none of you should go for him, but why should you all be unhappy? Someone should get him. That's why I think it would be most effective for each of you to write an essay—250 words or less—detailing why you deserve him instead of the other girls, and then decide amongst yourselves who gets him, based on the essays. Oh, and some people might tell you not to date your friend's ex-boyfriend, but that's ridiculous. Judging by the typeface and color of the font you chose, you're pretty young. One to two years is probably a distant memory by now. ...  I say you all go for him at once.  But instead of writing essays to share amongst your friends, give them to him on Valentine's Day! Possible effects: 1) He gets an ego, and none of you like him. 2) He gets an ego and finds a different girl. 3) He picks one of you. 4) He's disgusted by all of you. |
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Jan 26 2007, 07:26 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
QUOTE(suddenly she @ Jan 25 2007, 10:37 PM) ... I say you all go for him at once. But instead of writing essays to share amongst your friends, give them to him on Valentine's Day! Possible effects: 1) He gets an ego, and none of you like him. 2) He gets an ego and finds a different girl. 3) He picks one of you. 4) He's disgusted by all of you. haha! funny!  especially the 1, 2, 3, and 4QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 25 2007, 9:04 AM) hahahha, noice... you pimpette You know it! lol!
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Jan 26 2007, 08:27 AM
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emixaM Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 497,271 |
I am going to be very frank with you.
I am not going beat around the bush or stuff like that. Lol what rules are that? Love does not go by rules. Love is bondless. If you do get into a relationship with him, I see no reason why you should feel sorry for your friends. Because it's his choice whom he wants to love/like. You can't force him to like his ex. They broke up, life moves on. Yes I might sound cruel, but that's life. It never turns out the way you want it to. In fact if I was your friend, the one that broke up 2 years ago with him, I would feel happy for him that he has met someone wonderful. If she starts to backstab you and stuff, I can tell you that she is not a friend at all. **You can't demand someone to love you. You got to earn and respect someone's love. - that's a piece of advice to your friend. There is a BIG difference between a crush and love. If I was you, I would take things slowly, step by step. And remember, if he want's to know you better, it does not mean that he likes you. Become his friend at first, than his good friend, than his best friend and if all things are working out very well, than why not try a relationship? Never rush things too quickly. Follow the flow of water, never swim against it. Th most important thing in a relationship is to be yourself. Never try to be someone great or lie. I Well I got so much more to say, but I guess it's going to start to sound draggy. Hopefully my advice helps you out. Peace out. Max |
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Jan 29 2007, 07:09 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
Thanks Max
... Your advice has been greatly appreciated!
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 29 2007, 11:57 AM
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QUOTE(maximelids @ Jan 26 2007, 8:27 AM) I am going to be very frank with you. I am not going beat around the bush or stuff like that. Lol what rules are that? Love does not go by rules. Love is bondless. If you do get into a relationship with him, I see no reason why you should feel sorry for your friends. Because it's his choice whom he wants to love/like. You can't force him to like his ex. They broke up, life moves on. Yes I might sound cruel, but that's life. It never turns out the way you want it to. In fact if I was your friend, the one that broke up 2 years ago with him, I would feel happy for him that he has met someone wonderful. If she starts to backstab you and stuff, I can tell you that she is not a friend at all. **You can't demand someone to love you. You got to earn and respect someone's love. - that's a piece of advice to your friend. There is a BIG difference between a crush and love. If I was you, I would take things slowly, step by step. And remember, if he want's to know you better, it does not mean that he likes you. Become his friend at first, than his good friend, than his best friend and if all things are working out very well, than why not try a relationship? Never rush things too quickly. Follow the flow of water, never swim against it. Th most important thing in a relationship is to be yourself. Never try to be someone great or lie. I Well I got so much more to say, but I guess it's going to start to sound draggy. Hopefully my advice helps you out. Peace out. Max I don't know what to say about this... you're only looking out for her best interest, but I feel like something wrong about this. I'm not sure if you know a lot about the subject of love, or if this is just a hollow shell. I'm not criticizing. In fact, if you do know a lot about the subject of love when my girlfriend and I post our article about love and relationships I think that you'll find it to be very interesting. I encourage you to give me some of your own Ideas when my girlfriend posts it. |
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Jan 29 2007, 12:50 PM
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emixaM Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 497,271 |
You are most welcome, Princess-Missy
 QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 30 2007, 12:57 AM) I don't know what to say about this... you're only looking out for her best interest, but I feel like something wrong about this. I'm not sure if you know a lot about the subject of love, or if this is just a hollow shell. I'm not criticizing. In fact, if you do know a lot about the subject of love when my girlfriend and I post our article about love and relationships I think that you'll find it to be very interesting. I encourage you to give me some of your own Ideas when my girlfriend posts it. I aplogise, but I do not understand the second half of your message, ''In fact, if you do know a lot about the subject of love when my girlfriend and I post our article about love and relationships I think that you'll find it to be very interesting. I encourage you to give me some of your own Ideas when my girlfriend posts it.'' Care to further break it down for me? Thanks Well I had my share of relationships. Most of my relationships have been very complicated, so I guess I had some similar problems as others. I try to help them and give them 'down to Earth' advice. Max |
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Jan 29 2007, 01:09 PM
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QUOTE(maximelids @ Jan 29 2007, 12:50 PM) You are most welcome, Princess-Missy I aplogise, but I do not understand the second half of your message, ''In fact, if you do know a lot about the subject of love when my girlfriend and I post our article about love and relationships I think that you'll find it to be very interesting. I encourage you to give me some of your own Ideas when my girlfriend posts it.'' Care to further break it down for me? Thanks Well I had my share of relationships. Most of my relationships have been very complicated, so I guess I had some similar problems as others. I try to help them and give them 'down to Earth' advice. Max Me (Uronacid) and my girlfriend (Intercourse) are putting something together for the site... an article on the long distance relationships/the most common relationship problems that we see on the site. I hope to hear from you when we post it. |
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Jan 29 2007, 05:02 PM
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emixaM Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 497,271 |
Lol that's easier to understand.
Well my long distant relationship is still quite fresh, few months old. Yeah but sure thanks :) |
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Jan 29 2007, 05:35 PM
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It's highly doubtful that your friends truly love him
And if he likes you, then he wants only you and not your friends. They lose. If they want to be as good of friends to you as you are to them, then they should just let you be with him so you can be happy :D |
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Jan 30 2007, 01:16 AM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 29 2007, 2:09 PM) Me (Uronacid) and my girlfriend (Intercourse) are putting something together for the site... an article on the long distance relationships/the most common relationship problems that we see on the site. I hope to hear from you when we post it. I'm looking forward to this LDR article... I'll probably be needing it soon.
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Jan 30 2007, 02:24 AM
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Ace Spades Group: Member Posts: 27 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 496,526 |
My advice: You'r feelings for him dont seem to be super strong, so let the other fish fight over that worm.
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Feb 5 2007, 07:14 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
Hey... sorry to keep bringing this one up but I got a major update. I got my hair dyed black and I went to his table and he was like "did you do something to your hair?" and I was all like "yeah, I got it dyed back my natural color" and he's said "I like it, it looks good"
omg! I nearly screamed/fainted! lol... What do you guys think? Think he likes me as a crush? or just a friend? oh yeah, Courtney got her hair layered and I don't think he said anything to her about her hair.. and it was down.. my hair was up in a ponytail... |
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| *yrrnotelekktric* |
Feb 5 2007, 07:43 PM
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....and how old are you guys?
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Feb 5 2007, 08:11 PM
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QUOTE(princess*missy @ Feb 5 2007, 8:14 AM) Hey... sorry to keep bringing this one up but I got a major update. I got my hair dyed black and I went to his table and he was like "did you do something to your hair?" and I was all like "yeah, I got it dyed back my natural color" and he's said "I like it, it looks good" omg! I nearly screamed/fainted! lol... What do you guys think? Think he likes me as a crush? or just a friend? oh yeah, Courtney got her hair layered and I don't think he said anything to her about her hair.. and it was down.. my hair was up in a ponytail... o_o Is he a celebrity or something? Whoever HE likes should date him. Not who "deserves" him more, etc,etc. |
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Feb 6 2007, 07:14 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Feb 5 2007, 4:43 PM) ....and how old are you guys? lol... 15/16QUOTE(mishyerr @ Feb 5 2007, 5:11 PM) o_o Is he a celebrity or something? Whoever HE likes should date him. Not who "deserves" him more, etc,etc. lol... no!!! but he's a really cute and sweet friend of mine.. who I really adore!
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Feb 7 2007, 02:07 PM
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you can`t always stand aside so other people get wat you want
keep that in mind if your for real and him and all, if its a little crush i pick friends :] |
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Feb 15 2007, 07:54 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
Heey... well, um i talked to jess about it (his ex) and she said she would be happy for me to go out with him, I also talked to Court, and she doesn't like him anymore... I sat with him yesterday and he started yelling about 3 different times "I need you're number"
lol! and he was talking to me... lol.
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| *Uronacid* |
Feb 16 2007, 01:19 PM
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I take back everything I said...
I think you guys should have a bisexual foursome... :] |
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Feb 21 2007, 07:16 AM
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!!Lions GO Rawr!! Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 461,933 |
I got one word for that.... WOW!
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