Are we a thing? Or if not, will we? Options

[pkbabe]

Well there is this guy...& I kinda met him from myspace & stuff. & then I've recently sneaked out of my mom's house 2 times already (I'm still here at my mom's) to hook up with him. I know its totally insane meeting someone from online but I don't know. I had a feeling that I had to for some reason.

Hes really a great guy but I'm not sure what we are or what he expects from me. I don't wanna ask him cuz I don't wanna scare him off & also cuz we haven't known each other that well. Cuz when he would pick me up & were in his car, we act like normal friends. But when we get to his place its different. Its like were together. We even cuddled & crap (that sounds so lame but in a romatic way. I don't really like to talk about romantic stuff). He has even given me a nickname/pet name which is affiliated to burgers so I later made 1 for him...which is also burger affiliated! (He did it 1st). Finally he mentions how he wants to make me into a "princess" like in the Princess Diaries(its him not me...funny huh?)

But when we leave his place & were in his car again, were friends. Finally when he stops & I'm about to get out of the car, we say bye to each other, then a second of awkwardness & then he moves closer & then I move closer ( I only did it cuz he did LOL) & we kiss. The 2nd/last time I saw him he actually hugged me & then the usual "goodbye ritual" we have LOL

I have also mentioned that I've been planning live with my mom when spring semester of college is over & I mentioned that my mom may either just stay in her town (its about 20 minutes away from him & where I live [I live with my dad] is a lil over an hr away) or maybe live in a town closer to him but she 1st had to find a new job. Right after I mentioned that, he told me to try to convince my mom to move to the closer town so he could see my like everyday.

So yeah...I think hes a REALLY cool guy but I'm not sure if we will work out. I'm not even sure if I have any feelings for him or him having feelings for me. The age difference is another dillema (besides the distance & how we met I guess)

Hes 26 but looks 21 while I've been only 19 for a lil less than 3 months. Ok sure...bet some of you are saying "What the big deal? Age ain't nothing but a # right?" Well maybe...but I don't think its goes with my situation.

Hes a grown man while I'm still a teen trying to find myself. He has a pretty good idea of who he is & what he wants. I don't. & also alot of the time I feel like an idiot / immature brat when I'm with him (or that he sees me that way) but he always tells me that I'm not acting like that & that I don't have to apoligize so much(yes its a bad habit I have[apoligizing]) But I can't shake off that feeling...

Basically what I'm saying is that I don't want him to waste his time with me when I've told him that I have no interest in having a bf ( I'm just not ready to start another relationship thats why) but @ the same time I don't wanna lose him as a friend. @ his age I think he should be "wife hunting" & not wasting his time on dating/friends with benefits(I have no idea what we are!) with lil girls like me.

So PLS...your input & I apoligize for the long topic(& don't forget to answer my topic question LOL)


EDIT: I have updated. Read the 2nd reply & just use the details here as reference ok

[multifaceted]

i think you shouldn't rush it... if he wants to rush it then stop. you stated that you don't know him that well. He might be a sex predator or something. You never know.

I am only assumming with the thing i say next. From what you describe, he sounds like a sexual predator. If i were you I'll leave before he hurts me. A lot of people meet online and especially myspace and that's where many sexual predators roam, hitting on teen girls like yourself and trying to be mr. right when in fact he is a pervert with a bad past.

I'll take some caution.

With your question on the are we a thing yet or soon will be, he might want you to think that you guys are really into each other (that's why he prolly acts like mr. right) so then later he can lure you away and do something bad to you. I don't believe the relationship is going anywhere. if it is, it's prolly a path to either death or misery or something.

I'm not trying to sound mean or scary but you really have to watch yourself. On the news all the time, there are girls who meet grown men online and then think that they become an "item" and then later the girl is found dead.

[pkbabe]

Man its been a long while. Updates:

• Hes not a sexual predator
• Hes now ignoring me

& its making me sad that hes ignoring me. I guess it was because of our argument like 3 days ago (it was about him being insensitive to my feelings/him being a jerk) & then he didn't know I was seriously mad til he finally said to me on AIM

Him: Goodnight
Me: Do whatever you want...
Him: what?

& I just ignored him til he signed off(which was 1/2 hr later). Well ever since I haven't been online cuz I was busy with getting into college & stuff & today when I finally got online, I noticed he was on(which is weird cuz he usually works from 9am-6pm...it was 11:30am)& I tried talking to him all day but he didn't even say 1 word to me ALL DAY!! & hes still online NOW! As I write this but I'm not writing to him don't worry

So yea... I think its over between me & him. & I really liked him too...even though hes been kinda jerky lately but hes incredibly nice in person! Its just this week hes been jerky for some reason. I guess its cuz hes turning 27 on the 8th & that is making him mad cuz hes closer to 30 but who knows( I sure don't know whats up)

[multifaceted]

Guys have those times of the month too, only they don't bleed. They get pissed.

You might want to wait a week or so and try to patch things up if you want to make it work.

[gita]

it sounds like you guys kind of rushed into things, and often when people do that, their relationship ends of kind of being based on sex instead of actual love, and they sort of drift apart because they don't even know each other that well. however, i hope things work out between you two in some way - whether you're together or not.

[pkbabe]

I feel stupid...I just logged on AIM & saw he left me 2 offline mgs

Him: [Offline IM sent 17m ago] hmm.. i wasnt home.. haha
Him: [Offline IM sent 17m ago] you dork.. see you talk too much.. haha if i dont respond.. that means im not here.. geez..

So nvm! We good but now I feel like an idiot LOL I'm such a drama queen...& its SOO hard to try & change that! That what happens when you hang around with a bunch of drama queens for too long...you become one! Thanks for all your inputs you guys

[ xMyStIcShAd0wSx ] The male period thing, pretty funny & does kinda make sense why hes been so jerky

[ gita ] Thanks. I hope things work out too...whatever happens between us