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[Death2Smilee]

This guy had a g/f. then he broke up with her and started getting all cozy with me. I didn't liek hima s much as he obviously liked me, but w/e. The other day, he asked me out, and, not wanting to hurt his feelings, I said yes. Now, he calls me 8 times a day for no reason. I've stopped answering my cell because of it. I don't know how well this is going to work out, especially since I don't even want to tell anyone. What should I do? break up with him? or should I get over myself?

[MarcoDeSanctis]

He might want you as a "rebound"

[*suddenly she*]

You're dumb! But nice.
Break up with him; you don't even have feelings for him.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

the best thing you can do is break up with him and be nice about it.

[miiichellley]

Like MARCOOOOOOOOOLLLL!!!! said, he probably wants to use you as a backup just so he doesn't look like such an a$$ in front of his friends or something, that he doesn't have a girlfriend or anything. If you really don't want to date him, you shouldn't have said yes in the first place. You need to boost your confidence a little enough to deny someone this way. I know it's a tough job, or so i've read. If you have the nerve, i would speak up to him and say calmly but clearly that you don't want to be with him anymore.

[Death2Smilee]

You're dumb! But nice.

I'm not dumb!
But I don't know if I don't have feelings for him or not.

[MarcoDeSanctis]

Well, do you like the guy? do you have anything in common?

[*suddenly she*]

I'm not dumb!
But I don't know if I don't have feelings for him or not.

I beg to differ, you said "yes" in order to not hurt his feelings. In my opinion, that's dumb, but nice.

If you don't know, take the relationship a step back and go out a couple times to get to know each other decently and maybe you'll find out whether you have feelings for him or not later... while asking him to not pester you with incessant phone calls daily.

Keep in mind that he could just be using you as a rebound girl.

[MarcoDeSanctis]

That's exactly what I thought when I first read this...

[voguelove]

just tell him.

explain how you never liked him and only said yes because you felt bad.

[Kontroll]

Listen, you have to break up with him now. I know you think you're hurting his feelings but it's better done now then later before there's more of an attachment. You don't like him. So, you shouldn't go out with him. haha.

This one is for APPLEjuicex...I don't suggest telling him that you went out with him because you felt bad. Seriously. How is that going to sound to him? Pity. Everyone loves pity. Just say that you thought you liked him, but you don't. I don't know. Anything besides you felt sorry for him.

Haha. But you have to break up with him. You're hurting both of you. It's not good. He'll get over it. He's a man. Doesn't sound like a good one at that, but he still is.

[Death2Smilee]

ok soo i told him to lay off the celly, and my friends say to wait.
i still dunno.

[mmhmichelle]

You shouldn't just say yes so you won't hurt his feelings. That's basically lying to him just to please.

So..


dump the kid.. :]

[*Uronacid*]

Break up with him:

1. You're the rebound girl.
2. You said yes because you felt bad... not because you liked him.
3. You think he's annoying.


I don't know, sounds like a cruddy relationship if you ask me. You shouldn't be in a relationship for someone else, you should be in a relationship because you want to be in a relationship.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

break up with him, but don`t make it a big deal. just say that it's not working out for you.

[ldyxluvable]

He might want you as a "rebound"

think so too just break up with him

[StubbornFemme]

If I were you, I wouldn't have said, "yes" if you didn't like him in the first place. You're only hurting him more by saying it and now you didn't even like being the relationship w/ him. Just break up with him and just tell him you want to be just friends. But you know to tell you the truth, I don't wanna be mean but I think you were just his rebound girl. But I don't know, I mean I couldn't..no one could let go of a realtionship that fast.

[MarcoDeSanctis]

I know exactly what he's using you as! It's not exactly rebound girl, but close.

He's using you to forget about his ex, cuz he can't stop thinking about her, so he figured (like most of us) that by getting someone else, they would forget about their other girlfriend.

[blah1234567]

i think you should confront him and tell him that the realtionship isnt really gonna do anywhere. just tell him that you dont like him that much and its not gonna work out and that it feels funny.