are most asian parents like this? Options

[JerzDevil]

they HAVE to make their kids learn an instrument .. it'll be most likely a guitar or the piano. they'll have you playing golf as a sport rather than football/basketball. they're too strict about your school performances.

[voguelove]

no.
i chose to play viola.
i chose to play piano.
i chose to dance en pointe.
i chose to run cross country.
i chose to act/sing/dance in the musical.
i chose to run track.






my dad doesnt force me to do anything.

[Comptine]

actually, it's either the violin or the piano.

not all parents are like that but in chinese culture, since like ancient times, a person is considered wealthy/successful if he/she is well learned in literature, acamdeics, and arts (music, poetry, calligraphy...etc).

[miiichellley]

my parents aren't like that. my dad actually doesn't want me taking up time to learn an instrument and he'd rather have me studying (but i don't.) i know plenty of parents who are like that though to my friends. it's kinda normal among the asian crowd. they think that this violin and piano stuff is good for your brain and everything.

[*x1227x*]

Actually, No that's not true. My parents dont force me to do anything.

[31miracles]

actually, it's either the violin or the piano.

not all parents are like that but in chinese culture, since like ancient times, a person is considered wealthy/successful if he/she is well learned in literature, acamdeics, and arts (music, poetry, calligraphy...etc).

agree


My parents would not allow me to quit the violin, so I had to take two AP courses, so I didn't have room for orchestra on my schedule.

When it comes to phyical sports, most Chinese parents believe that the Chinese body is not as physically built (bad genetics) as the whites or Africans, which is true. Many are afraid that their children will get hurt. Sports take up a lot of time, and Chinese parents would rather be having their children fully concentrating on school.

But I prove my parents wrong, I play varsity basketball for my school as a sophomore. They have to deal with it :).

[Intercourselyts]

Not really, although if I get a B my dad always looks at me and says You know you can do better than this. Then in middle school I had to play the clarinet, and my grandpa taught me how to play golf when I was around 7. So thats not exactly my parents. I had to play soccer when I was little as well, it was a choice at first though. I don't really think anyones parents forcefully make you do those types of things, although they'll encourage it and maybe put a guilt trip on you until you do so.

[vn_cuti3]

yah my mom USED to control my life like she would make me play the piano when i was like 5 and i would hate it and complain but now i wish i can continue playing piano more than anything but yah i blew my chance

[demolished]

Nope. My mom didnt made me do anything.

[sharerol]

no

[*My Cinderella.*]

Thats basically the sterotypical way to put it. I'm asian and my parents never forced me to do any of those things. They're pretty laid back about boys and such. They're cool.

[sprezzatura]

I am forced to play the piano.
But since I am not sporty at all, they don't force me to play sports.

But school performances, definitely, a B would kill me.

[*suddenly she*]

Credits to xanga.com/chrischoi.

parentchecklist

here's a list of things you need to accomplish to make your asian parent happy.

Get straight A's.....forever

Perfect score on the SATs..in fact, get extra credit on it

Be better than your mom's friend's kids....in everything

Get into an Ivy League school

When you feel like complaining always remember the story of how your parents walked in 10 feet of snow uphill, starving, with their little sister on their back just so that their family can eat a bowl of rice

Every weekend (especially when your friends throw a birthday party that you want to go to), help out at 'the store'. Could be any store...your aunt's store, your parent's store, your dry cleaning store...but it's 'the store' and it MUST involve senseless manual labor

Never shake your leg otherwise it will bring bad luck

Be a doctor, lawyer, or really rich business man

Marry a doctor, lawyer, or really rich business man and they have to look ridiculously good looking like a famous asian actress...irregardless that 90% of them had plastic surgery

Always lock the car door when strange people start approaching

Buy magnetic bracelets as gifts

Eat ginseng and tell them it's delicious and you thank them for such wonderful food

Be in the korean newspaper for something good

Be in the chinese newspaper for something good

Heck be in the mexican newspaper..doesn't matter, just be famous and good. as long as you're better than all your mom's other friend's kids.

Always obey

Never talk back..in fact, never talk. just bow and nod.

Once you graduate from med school, go to med school again

Never watch TV. EVER.

Brainwash yourself thinking that you're only happy if they're happy

Drive a benz or bmw

if you're gifting a purse to your mom, regardless of where you are financially, always make sure the purse says one of these words: Gucci, LV, Prada, Chanel

You're always wrong, they are always right

Take a million APs...if there aren't a million APs, make some

Make sure your significant other is healthy and in good condition. Damage goods should be thrown out. If you're not sure, look up Horse Breeding books, same conditions apply

Be perfect...in everything.

Play a musical instrument and be in competitions...and you're only allowed to be in first place.

Tell everyone you know that your mother's cooking is the best

Fix their computer

Always finish your food

If you said you would do something, always do it. it doesn't matter if they never follow through with their promises, it's ok for them to break them. but you can't. this is fair.

Wear the BYC underwear your mom got you when she took a trip to her motherland and do your best to ignore the defunct english written on it "tomorrow is specialness of togehter"

When your dad wears a wifebeater and khaki shorts feel proud that he's your dad and he has such great style

After you're better than your mom's friends kids, be better than everyone else

Please note: All of the above must be clicked otherwise you're a failure in life and a disappointment to all.

(not to be taken seriously) :P

You can now stop thinking about how much your asian parents stink, because guess what? You've got it easy if you've even got a roof over your head and clothes on your back. It's a privilege to know how to play any sort of instrument and a blessing to have a place to play any sort of sport... and at least they care about school.

[Intercourselyts]

^I have to agree. Well with what she said, not the list.

[Stefanny]

Lol at the list.

Yeah, Asian parents are usually stricter than most others. My parents expect perfect grades, good piano music, and abstinence [inside joke with the chat people].

But really, some Asian parents aren't even like this. It really depends on how your parents were brought up, they learn things from your grandparents. Maybe you should blame them

jk.

[HakunaMatata]

It's not an Asian thing, it's a people thing. There are parents of all races that make their kids participate in certain things, it's never specific to any one race. My parents never made me; in fact, they were hesitant to even let me play the flute, and I'm Asian.

[moninja]

not really. it was my choice to play an instument and my parents are fine with it, as long as i'm passing the class. my parents don't care if i play basketball or volleyball or anything like that, they just want me off the computer.

[GlecieC]

No they don't force me to do activities that I don't want to do. I pretty much do what I want, as long as it doesn't affect my studies.

[jue]

I don't think so. My parents didn't force to me to learn any type of instrument and i didn't bother to learn any myself either. When I had interest in learning the guitar/drums last year, and asked my parents if they'd pay for the tuition and such, they said no.

[iDecay]

Well, my dad made me take tennis and I ended up liking it..

[pinacoolada]

my mom just bugs me about grades.
But I chose to take piano.

[EddieV]

Well my parents never MADE me learn anything. I chose to learn the guitar and violin on my own free will.

[Gigi]

My mom didn't force me to play piano; I chose to continue on with it. And I ended up liking it, a lot.

Nonetheless, she was the one who mentioned it, and I think a lot of other non-Asian parents wouldn't have. Mentioned it, I mean.

And another thing about Asian parents (especially with their daughters), they really don't care about sports. I mean, she made an effort to sign me up for extracirricular activities like skating, swimming, etc...but she never expected anything from me. Just learning new things, I guess.

As for grades, my mom does expect something of me, but I'm usually the one that actually cares about them. I expect straight A's from myself, and although that may have been influenced by my parents, I'm self-motivated.

[Jeng]

No, my parents never got me into sports or instruments, it was my desciion to play sports, and none of my aunts or uncles got them playing sports or instruments either.

[datass]

Lol. I USED to play golf and piano too

[mylittleMiracle]

no.
i chose to play viola.
i chose to play piano.
i chose to dance en pointe.
i chose to run cross country.
i chose to act/sing/dance in the musical.
i chose to run track.
my dad doesnt force me to do anything.

oh you play viola
anyway,I was forced to play viola...