Boyfriend Advice! |
 Jan 10 2007, 11:18 PM
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Hey,
I am 16 and just got my first boyfriend. We have been going out for alittle over 3 months. I love him so much. He doesn't really talk much beause he is shy and I am also. We don't really hang out because he hasnt gotten his car yet. I kind of feel sad because we don't hang out alot but I get over it. We haven't been out on a real date yet. We have never kissed and I was wondering because he is so shy how can I bring it up? I wanna kiss him but I don't know. I don't like to make the first move but I might have to. My friends talk to him about kissing me and he said that it is because he is affraid. What can I do to make him not affraid? Thanks for the help! |
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Jan 10 2007, 11:27 PM
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 Peggy. Group: Member Posts: 2,508 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,025 |
Maybe you really should make the first move. Just give him like a little peck to start out with, and then he might get loosen up and start kissing you.
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Jan 10 2007, 11:45 PM
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 "the tofu-cow :)" Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 463,352 |
hmmm. trick him
 point behind him and say " hey look its a pink bird =D" or smthing else he turns- turns back- surprise him with a kiss . u never know x) |
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Jan 10 2007, 11:58 PM
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 我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
... do you hold hands??? if you dont, thats just sad.
but last thing you want to do is "surprise" him with a kiss. MAKE time for a real date. and if he doesnt try to kiss you, he has no balls. |
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Jan 11 2007, 12:59 AM
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 my michelle. Group: Member Posts: 792 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,094 |
You really should try to find time with this guy even though you don't have cars. Just because he is shy, it doesn't mean you can't bring out the best in him. Hang out first, have somewhat of a first date, then make the move first, if he doesn't already.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 11 2007, 01:09 AM
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Don't rush it. Find out if he wants to kiss you first (it's always good to respect someones boundaries). If he does, wait till you guys are completely alone or the time is right, and you have lots of time together. Then just look at him and say something like, "I can't wait any longer"... then tackle that handsome young man!
I think I was the same way, but DO NOT RUSH! Whenever I rush into things they just aren't as good. If you rush you ill regret it, and if you don't... you will thank me for saying this. |
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Jan 11 2007, 01:38 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
Okay. I'm gonna tell you what to do. First of all. Don't be shy. If you're shy he'll be shy. It's like the opposite of a magnet. Make eye contact often, if you don't already. That helps. It makes him know you want him to kiss you. Or you could just tell him that you want him to kiss you. haha. Seriously. I've gotten out of some pretty awkward situations like that.
Well, you don't need to go on dates. You're obviously going steady. You've been steady for three months. You don't need dates. They're nice every once in a while for some people, but I don't really go on dates. So, whatever. If you want to, then plan one. Dates are really to get to know some body and I'm sure you really already know him. I think that I already told you how to make him not afraid. Give him confidence. Eye contact. Verbal communication. Get rid of that shyness. I have that and it's really un attractive to a point. But just work on those things. It'll help. If it doesn't I'm sorry. |
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Jan 11 2007, 04:09 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,264 |
First off, I'm incredibly confused as to how you can claim to "love him so much," if you don't even 1.) Talk to him 2.) Hang out with him 3.) Have never kissed him 4.) You both are shy. After personal experience, I think you should get the nerve up to communicate with him. As in friendships, it's also significant for romantic relationships. I suggest that you start with an alternative medium, such as Instant Messaging/phone, or something where you can't necessarily see the person, and drop some hints. Once he feels comfortable talking about it with you, it's likely that he will be comfortable getting the nerve to kiss you in person. Try it.
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Jan 11 2007, 04:28 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
QUOTE(In Love! @ Jan 11 2007, 12:18 PM)  He doesn't really talk much beause he is shy and I am also. You guys don't talk much?? Why don't you try IM-ing him? 
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Jan 11 2007, 05:36 PM
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 I reject this reality and substitute it with my own! Group: Member Posts: 276 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 486,863 |
The butthead I'm with had some trouble with that
subject as well near the beginning of our relationship. But even so, I didn't exactly do too much myself about it. Eventually my guy wanted to get over that and fixed the fear himself. Back to the subject--> It's best to let things flow/ happen by itself but, if you seriously want it happening. I suggest you get over your shyness and really talk to your guy about kissing. Tell him what you want/your thoughts about it, and ask him whether he wants to take your relationship up a knot and find a solution that fits for both of you. |
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Jan 12 2007, 07:19 PM
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 Photoshop Mii Life(;* Group: Member Posts: 236 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,110 |
hrmm...go to a peace ful and nice area on a date;
&& tell him you luv him and put ur head on his shoulder... |
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Jan 12 2007, 09:39 PM
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我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
^ LOL what unrealistic romantic bullshit
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Jan 12 2007, 10:45 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
just ask him to hang out one weekend...go get ice cream..see a movie..you shouldn't be shy anymore, I mean it's been 3 months. Just act casual..
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Jan 12 2007, 11:32 PM
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 101708 <3 (: Group: Member Posts: 253 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,431 |
i heard guys like it when you make the first move *hint hint* xD
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Jan 13 2007, 01:09 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 569 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 490,667 |
Maybe you two are still not comfortable enough with each other. I mean the time thing, some people don't even have their first kiss until 6 or even more months into their relationship. If he is only afraid to do it, then I suggest you just go ahead and do it yourself if you really want to kiss him.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 13 2007, 01:42 AM
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QUOTE(Intercourse @ Jan 13 2007, 1:09 AM) Maybe you two are still not comfortable enough with each other. I mean the time thing, some people don't even have their first kiss until 6 or even more months into their relationship. If he is only afraid to do it, then I suggest you just go ahead and do it yourself if you really want to kiss him. yeah, like me... the first girl friend I had... I wasn't comfortable at all.. we didn't kiss for 6 months, and then she just tackled me. Like I said, just wait til the right moment to tackle that strapping young lad. I don't think I would have made a move though... ever... |
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| *a painefull euphoria* |
Jan 13 2007, 10:28 AM
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QUOTE(lanbexx @ Jan 12 2007, 8:39 PM) ^ LOL what unrealistic romantic bullshit Ahah true that. |
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Jan 13 2007, 12:33 PM
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Genin Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 471,009 |
Push him up against a wall, rip off his shirt, and kiss him.
Jk. Don't rip off the shirt. ~.^ If you guys aren't comfortable around eachother yet, then it may its not be the right time. Give a little time to see if he opens up to you more. If it gets to the point where every time you look at him, you have to resist kissing him, then kiss him. Like a peck, I guess. Cuz I would. But that's just be. Lol. |
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Jan 15 2007, 01:15 AM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 5 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 495,128 |
Well I suggest you don't rush him. You never know you have to give people time to make things right. He might be thinking of a way to do it for you. Thats sort of what happpened to me. But give him some time. My boyfriend was extremely shy too. At first and now he screams out "I love you" whever he sees me. BUt if he doesnt in a couple of week syou should make the first move. Guys really like that as much as girl like guys making the first move. Perhaps a kiss on the cheek to start of hten maybe a peck on the lips it may loosen him up a bit.
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Jan 15 2007, 12:46 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 558 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,872 |
QUOTE(thousandsummers @ Jan 10 2007, 11:45 PM) hmmm. trick him point behind him and say " hey look its a pink bird =D" or smthing else he turns- turns back- surprise him with a kiss . u never know x) aww thats cute! haha I'm gunna use that one on my bf. |
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