What do your parents not let you do. Options

[ReggieM]

Well i know most of you are asian or from asian decent so that means that your parents are kinda timid about letting you do some things that most other kids do(American). My parents are like that cept there not azn and there not used to "American Teen culture" or they simple dont care. why is this in the girls forum? IDK I will have more responses i suppose.

Well im not aloud to go out, they think im gunna do something bad lol or drugs and im a seinor now... it really sucks but when i do go out I GO OUT.

Please dont respond by saying that your parents dont let u do drugs or have sex or drink, really pointless to say that whos parents does....?

[-sincerely]

i'm pretty much allowed to do anything, as long as i'm with a friend. i'm trusted enough not to smoke, do drugs, etc. and i don't want to, either. it's just gross.

[ReggieM]

I would never smoke or do drugs or anything but i guess they dont wanna risk it. Like they dont really like me going to friends house at night just to hang out . I dont think they even like the whole "hanging out" idea. They tell me to study when they deny me access to go T_T

[ksoyeah]

I'm not allowed to do ANYTHING.
If they knew I was posting on here, I'd like...be disowned.

[Amay]

If they knew I was posting on here, I'd like...be disowned.

That.
But I'm allowed to go out and stuff.
Only because I don't often and because I like to stay at home.
Just I can't go out with boys.

[kimmytree]

My parents main thing is what I might do on the internet.
I'm not allowed to chat/talk to anyone.... AT ALL.
So I have to sneak on to this website.
I cant have a myspace, even though I still do.
I've never been allowed to go to a slumber party, or spend the night at someones house.
I'm very rarely allowed to go to friends houses.
I'm allowed to drive, just not without them being in the car.

And the list goes on and on.
But for some reason, I'm allowed to date. o_O
I'm 17 btw.

[annalucky]

- no slumber parties.
- don't talk to boys.
- don't drive friends around.
- rarely allowed to friends' houses.
- No dating.
- have to beg to go to dances.
- No playing cards: thinks I'm gonna gamble.
- Don't talk on the phone for long durations. long to them would be like more than 10 minutes.

haha, there's way more. I know they would disapprove of me being on here. But, I just don't tell them what I do or let them see me. My parents are super strict.

[ReggieM]

Morgan i will them that you're posting here...

[*Infinite.*]

Uhm actually at one point in time my parents actually wanted me to get out of the house and do something then stay home, but I didn't have anything to do so it never really happend.

Now a days though I guess I don't really go out and do anything still but its not really my parents. Somewhat it kind of is because I have to stay home and watch my younger brother a lot.. Their not scared i'm going to go out and do drugs or anything though.

[miiichellley]

Post pictures of myself online.
Even though i do. They caught me and forced me to take it down but my parents arn't very computer-genic so they wouldn't know. And they don't. Im keeping it that way.

[Simba]

Moved to Relationships.

[multifaceted]

actually they let me do a lot of things like go out at night and com back until 12 alone and other things but i don't take advantage of those rules. i don't go out every night... in fact i like home better. im a nerd i know

and yes i am only 15 and 100 percent asian.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I'm mostly vietnamese.

Hrmm parents are somewhat strict.
My dad's the more bizzare over protective asian parent.
My mom's more lean on things but she has a limit on how much she can take.
And since my dad trusts me I usually
get around some of his rules depending on his mood.

Rules include: No dating before I go to college..
Hrmmm not to mention no drugs, no boy's house,
it doesn't even need to be mentioned to be known
that they don't want me having sex,
they don't want me going outside by myself sometimes,
having guys over for sleep overs.. All sorts of things really.

But they're giving me more responcibilities as I grow up a bit,
so that's good. ex: like instead of learning how to drive by 18,
my dad decided to cut the age limit down so I could learn by
next summer before my senior year!

[lovescream]

they basically just wont let me have a bf until im 21, won't let me go to a friend's house that she's not familiar with their parents yet, won't let me have friends OVER that she's not familiar with their parents, no talking on the phone with boys (she listens into my conversations). and since i do sometimes, she wont let me have a phone yet. basically no FRIENDS that are boys.. if she sees me hanging out with a boy, i better hope he can run fast.

My mom also thinks I don't know what SEX or DRUGS are. So we never really had "the talk" yet about sexytime or talking about using alcohol/drugs. wtf

and no talking to strangers online (like i do.. a lot..)

>< wow. Jeez. I'm like 100% asian though. hehhh

[*My Cinderella.*]

My parents are pretty flexible with the rules:

-no staying out later than 6:30 (other than on fridays and on the weekends.)

-no traveling too far away from home.

-no sleepover at someones house. (Unless I'm really close to them.)

-no wearing "flashy clothes"

And that's about it

[littleswallow]

- no boyfriends until I am out of college and have a stable job
- can't go out unless I'm with friends they know and trust
- no drugs, no alcohol, no smoking (I actually agree with them in this)
- I'm not allowed to go out without telling them
- can't go to a place too far from home

... and of course, last but not the least....

- I can't fail any of my subjects and should always be part of the Honor's List.

... If I did fail... I would be like... a disgrace or something.

[*suddenly she*]

I'm not allowed to date, go out, and go to Sunday school. Of course, I'm not allowed to get involved with drugs and alcohol or sex. The only music I'm allowed to listen to is classical and traditional stuff. I've never been allowed to a sleepover. I can't go to dances and school activities (like fundraisers) unless they know the adult supervisors are watching me.

I can't go on walks alone, and I'm not allowed to be home alone. I can't use the phone unless they know exactly who I'm talking to, what we're talking about, and unless I let them listen in. I'm permanently banned from any sort of instant messenger (haha), and I can't have personal websites. For anything that involves a password, they have to know the password. I can't post pictures online or send pictures.

I can't have my own email or account to anything. Nothing I own is actually mine, it's theirs. I sometimes can't close the door to "my room" (it's actually their room, and I'm not allowed to use the radio or cd player... or the snooze button, and etc. There's tons.

Basically, my parents are hilarious.

[oOjenniOo]

i've earned a lot of my parent's trust. i get good grades, i get things done and have never been in trouble with the law or school or anything.

my curfew is 11 and i can go out whenever as long as im back by 11. i dont even have to tell my parents where i am going or what i'm doing. they got me a car so i can drive around. im not allowed to sleepover very often, but i dont like to anyways. on party nights or like special occasions my curfew is like 2 or 3. but they stay up and make sure i am home by then.

im allowed to date. im allowed to have guys in my room as long as the door is open. im not allowed to be at someones house without parents but i do anyways?

that's ab it.
im korean btw.

I'm not allowed to date, go out, and go to Sunday school. Of course, I'm not allowed to get involved with drugs and alcohol or sex. The only music I'm allowed to listen to is classical and traditional stuff. I've never been allowed to a sleepover. I can't go to dances and school activities (like fundraisers) unless they know the adult supervisors are watching me.

I can't go on walks alone, and I'm not allowed to be home alone. I can't use the phone unless they know exactly who I'm talking to, what we're talking about, and unless I let them listen in. I'm permanently banned from any sort of instant messenger (haha), and I can't have personal websites. For anything that involves a password, they have to know the password. I can't post pictures online or send pictures.

I can't have my own email or account to anything. Nothing I own is actually mine, it's theirs. I sometimes can't close the door to "my room" (it's actually their room, and I'm not allowed to use the radio or cd player... or the snooze button, and etc. There's tons.

Basically, my parents are hilarious.

jesus christ girl. i would die.... i argue with my parents a lot to get my privleges though. i got out every night on the weekend too... and sometimes during the week day too.

[*Uronacid*]

Well, my parents care about what I do, but they don't stop me from doing anything... seriously... I'm 20 years, what are they going to do. I can fly out of state without their permission.

P.S. I already do that...

[Jinny]

ugh yeah =[ my parents dont let me do drugs and that stuff; no wearing those super short skirts with like, a cami. ill just put it this way = no wearing too "revealing" clothes.
i always have to get good grades..anyways, my parents let me be anywhere i want as long as i have my cell phone with me =]

[*x1227x*]

welll:

- dont let me go out alone
- have sex until i'm married
- can't date till i'm legal
- smoking/doing drugs
and that's about it.

[ReggieM]

RUTH! i wanna hear more so interesting. I wish I could stay out till 12 =/ my parents dont like me driving at night...they think something bad is going to happen

[Kontroll]

Well, my parents care about what I do, but they don't stop me from doing anything... seriously... I'm 20 years, what are they going to do. I can fly out of state without their permission.

P.S. I already do that...

Rebel.

Yeah, you just gotta tell your parents how it is. They can't control you 100 percent. If you're under 18 I feel they have every right to tell you what you can and can't do, but after that, you're legally an adult, so make your own choices.

[datass]

My parents don't let me use the computer after 9:30

[xhidethedetails]

welll:

- dont let me go out alone
- have sex until i'm married
- can't date till i'm legal
- smoking/doing drugs
and that's about it.

Same except the dating thing they said I wasnt allowed to have a boyfriend until I'm 17 but I didnt listen and got one anyway but they dont seem to care all that much.

[voguelove]

apparently, according to my dad..i can do drugs and drink. but, if i get hooked on it, he wont help me.

how does this make sense? i have no idea. haha. but, im a really good girl. i dont do anything "bad" and ive certainly never drank or smoked anything.

but, im not allowed to go out anywhere either. ANYWHERE. friends houses, birthday parties, movies..anything.
i sneak out, though because he works from 10AM-10PM. ive never gotten caught. haah.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Yeah my mom doesn't want me to post personal info on the net and/or pictures.

I do anyway.. I know there's nothing dangerous unless you give out your address to some phony.

Otherwise I'm allowed to do pretty much everything. They treat me like an adult.

[iDecay]

I'm not allowed to go out unless my friend Julie [Julietary] is there. Or some other one that my parents know. (Which by the way, are very few..)
I can't talk to guys unless it's homework...
No dating untill I'm out of high school.

I guess I follow all except for one?

[miceylulu]

My parents trust me. But that's because if I go somewhere and I don't ask, if I leave a note, it's mostly okay. But I usually ask and if I don't it's somewhere close like the general store.

[Jeng]

i cant swear. its weird. like people make me do it, bu ti cant, because i know im not allowed to even when my parents artent around, but ill feel weird that if i swore,so i never actually ever sworn/cussed in real life

[*suddenly she*]

jesus christ girl. i would die.... i argue with my parents a lot to get my privleges though. i got out every night on the weekend too... and sometimes during the week day too.

It's not really so bad. I was allowed to in early elementary school and they just stopped letting me go to parties around 3rd or 4th grade...

RUTH! i wanna hear more so interesting. I wish I could stay out till 12 =/ my parents dont like me driving at night...they think something bad is going to happen

Haha, it's kind of the opposite for me. My parents don't like driving and I've got a permit so I just drive them places and stare at walls/do homework until it's time to go. There's not much else I can think of, though.

[*incoherent*]

Uhm actually at one point in time my parents actually wanted me to get out of the house and do something then stay home, but I didn't have anything to do so it never really happend.

my parents are the same way, well my dad anyway. he'll say "don't you have something better to do than stay home?" then again, my parents aren't really "average" parents i guess because they don't care about drinking and my brother never really got in trouble when he tested positive for weed, but i dont do anything outside of drinking. they're really good about letting us do whatever we want and dont care about most things. it's not like we all stay out til 3 in the morning though and have 12 kids. we know right from wrong and they know that.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

im emancipated. so really im in control of what i can and cant do.
i may be imature but im not stupid. i know what i should and shouldent do.

but still my mum doesnt want me to drink even though im of age to do so she feels i should wait to 21 like she did.
forget that dude im of age so im gonna drink when id like to .

[breakingdawn]

Um...well, my parents are pretty cool. Basically, I'm not allowed to date until I'm in high school, which I'm cool with I really don't see the point of dating anyone in middle school...

And uh...Well, I can't stay out tootoo late, but I'm usually just with my two best friends and we just go to the movies or out to eat so there's nothing really to worry about.

And my parents trust me, too, so they know I wont do anything bad, so they're not like constantly enforcing rules or anything. It's nice.

[mmhmichelle]

I can't do anything.

[moninja]

no dating, no hanging out with boys, no staying out late, no staying out for 1hour+ unless it's for school and someone my parents know is there, no sleeping over, there's much more..too many to list. x_x

[Intercourselyts]

My dad is pretty lenient towards most things, I'm in a LDR and he lets him come down to our house and stay and I get to go up to his moms house and stay up there. When it comes to school and stuff he expects me to get A's though, and kind of looks down on me when I get something less

[AimeeLynn]

Well im not aloud to go out, they think im gunna do something bad lol or drugs and im a seinor now... it really sucks but when i do go out I GO OUT.

Ditto.. I can't go with a date or even go to to movies with my friends because they think I'm going to meet some guy. =P I'm a junior and my sister is a senior, too and we are treated as if we are going to do drugs. Throw me freakin bone here! lol Maybe it's asian parents that restrict us from our freedom because of their traditions or their life styles from back home. Hello?! America is a different atmosphere than the Philippines. (yea I'm filipino).
Oh yea I (basically) I can't do anything. Maybe that's why my parents and me don't get along because of their lack of trust with my sister and me.

Yeah my mom doesn't want me to post personal info on the net and/or pictures.

I do anyway.. I know there's nothing dangerous unless you give out your address to some phony.

I can't do that either but I did it anyways. All because of CNN, they found out about myspace. Ugh, eventually found mine though my "history", stupid me forgot to delete the history. All because a girl trusted a guy online and decided to give all her info to him.... stupid CNN

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

-have a myspace, although i do.
-take the bus. they think i`ll get raped or something.
-walk alone at night.
-go out with friends at night.

i swear, it gets old.

[ReggieM]

yea same thing with my parents(only my mom) she hears about stupid stuff on tv and then warns me im like wtf im a guy too.
so when i go out shes like dont let anyone puts something in your drink.....well i dont hang out with gay guys so it would be a good thing lol neways its absurd
she also doesnt like me putting personal info and when im on aim she thinks im chatting with strangers wth im a seinor in hs! what im going to be talking to a guy on the internet and thier gunna kidnap me?

[brokenxwingsx]

I don't really have any rules. I've always been a good kid so they trust me. I don't do anything bad or stupid and I don't do drugs. So yeah.

[Advent_Child]

my stepdad would seriously not let me do anything . so i know how you feel. but now that he is gone i get to do everything. whcih is quite awesome . you i guess just have to wait it out.

[radhikaeatsraman]

Well, it isn't really clear what I'm allowed and not allowed to do, since I don't really have a life.

[Smoogrish]

I really don't know about their whole "dating" thing.. I doubt they'd let me date until like.. college, because they'd be like "WHY ARE YOU OUT WITH HIM?! GET BACK TO STUDYING!" and junk like that. Umm, I don't go out a lot, at all.. maybe like one party every month or so at the max. I'm never allowed to just go out and take a walk, or hang out with my friends unless it's over a long weekend ("interference with the learning process"), and I'm never ever ever allowed to take the metro or any sort of bus by myself.

All in all, I guess my parents aren't really overprotective. I'm okay with it, compared to what some of my friends have to endure.

[MarcoDeSanctis]

They let me do anything as long as it's not illegal. They even let me drink with moderation, and they trust me that if I get drunk, I'll come home safe, and I'll only do it in special occasions. Also, they don't let me stay out till 1:30 AM...yea...

[Jane Doe.]

My parents are either very trusting or just stupid.

I've been able to:
Sleep over a friend or two's house
Go out and stay out 'til 1 or 2 or even 3AM--even if I was gone all day
Go out of town 50-100 miles away

And all the while having the opportunity to drink, smoke, do drugs, and have sex with friends and/or 'strangers'.
I've only done 2 or 3 out of those, so. I think they leave it up to me to decide what I can and cannot do, as long as they don't know about it. Oh, and all of this was by age 13. I'm 17 now.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

BE home before 11:00 on weekends.
No sleepovers.
No boyfriend in house alone.

[blah1234567]

they never let me close the door when a guy is over.
they dont let me have sleep overs and im almost 15.
the parents must be home if im going over to anyones house.
i need to always tell my mom where im at before i start going off to places.

[priyas]

Not to be alone on the streets. i need to be w/ a friend. :]