Is this really happening? Options

[kimmytree]

I know there's gotta be tons of topics on this, but I'm trying to figure out if this guy really does like me, or if I'm just going crazy again.

To start things off, we've been good friends since 7th/8th grade (we're juniors now), and i've liked him off and on since then, and he's always known that. I've ended up telling him that a couple of times over the years, but he never seems to feel the same way about me. I told him again back in November, and he told me that he kinda liked me, but kinda liked another girl too... and didnt really want to be in a relationship with anyone. But then I found out that he had been dating the other girl days before telling me that, so I was mad at him for awhile... but he apologized, and everything was fine. But then he breaks up with her a few days before Christmas, because he realizes that he didnt feel the same way about her that she did about him, she kinda got stalkerish, AND it turns out that she had been lying about her age (she's really just turned 15 instead of 17).

So I guess about a week ago, he called my house about 5 times in one day while I was at my aunts house, just wanting to talk. So my parents give him my aunts number, and he calls several more times while I was gone. Then I try to call him back a few times, and it goes to his voicemail. Then he tries to call me back, and I'm not there to answer. This goes on for a day or so, us both trying to call each other. Then finally New Years eve, we talked for at least an hour about random stuff, like how our Christmas' were and stuff, and he mentions that he broke up w/ his girlfriend (his first one, who he only dated a month). He talked about how he shouldnt have ever dated her, about how he shouldnt have lied to me, blah blah blah. Then after that, he trys calling me a day later, but I was never able to get back in touch with him.

Then this last Wednesday, our first day back at school, he gave me a birthday card (just for laughs) that reminded him of me, which really surprised me. And now since then, he's been trying to hang around me alot more than he used to. He even makes sure he sits next to me at lunch, something that he used to not do as often. I'm just getting the vibe that he likes me, but I'm scared that I'm wrong. I dont want to open up and tell him how I feel like I have before, because I'm afraid the same thing will happen again. When he sorta lied to me about not wanting to be in a relationship, and then really already having a girlfiend, I was afraid that I was going to be his back up plan or something... and now that he's not with her anymore, I'm starting to thing that all over again.

I've never had a boyfriend, so I have no clue on what to do. Help?

[miiichellley]

Well, according to your story, it seems like he's totally admitting his faults and seems to be pretty sorry..although it could be the other way around, but i hope not. I say you still stick as good friends and see how it flows over the next couple weeks or so. that's the best i can say.

[kimmytree]

Thanks, I appreciate the advice.

Oh, I forgot to mention that we're going to the movies tomorrow... but I dont know if he means as a date? Or just as friends...

Ahhh I'm so pathetic. It be bad enough if I was younger, but I'm 17.

[*My Cinderella.*]

It sounds like this guy likes you and he wants to make it up to you since he lied and feels sorry. But I agree with the above poster, since he's just recently broke up with his girlfriend, you should wait a little while before you decide to tell him. (If you tell him at all.)

[kimmytree]

So should I just go with the flow then? And go to the movies with him tomorrow?

I think I'll wait awhile to tell him how I feel. Chances are though, he probably assumes I still like him.

[*krnxswat*]

You're his rebound. He knows he's got you on a leash, considering you've liked him on and off for quite awhile.

[*My Cinderella.*]

So should I just go with the flow then? And go to the movies with him tomorrow?

I think I'll wait awhile to tell him how I feel. Chances are though, he probably assumes I still like him.

Just you and him? Well, do you feel that anything is going to happen during that time?

[*krnxswat*]

Yah, he just might want some poon-tang.

Don't give it to him.

[_sarcastic_]

You're his rebound. He knows he's got you on a leash, considering you've liked him on and off for quite awhile.

i agree.

it's better if you guys just stay as good friends first

[kimmytree]

Just you and him? Well, do you feel that anything is going to happen during that time?

Errrm... probably not. He's not really like that... we're both shy when it comes to something like that. Plus, he's never really tried to do anything before.

Yah, he just might want some poon-tang.

Don't give it to him.

Are you kidding me?

[*krnxswat*]

I'm serious.
All guys want poon-tangs.

Welcome to the real world, kid!

[LostRenaissance]

true but lol theres some of us who wants a real relationship even tho it seems we're extinct. anyways yea 1 he could be rebounding 2 he might be giving u a consideration since u guys did known each other for so long and since u told him a few times already... but yea i think u should wait a bit let him be the one to come to u dun give him any clear signs or anything let him be unsure, and act liek ur not intrested it'll make him work harder and tell him that u aint just there waiting for him.

[ksoyeah]

He does seem really sorry.
Maybe you should consider what he's thinking, and think about your own options. :]

[kimmytree]

He does seem really sorry.
Maybe you should consider what he's thinking, and think about your own options. :]

Awww, yeah, I hope so.

I've liked him for so long... so there's gotta be a good reason behind that. I'm not obsessed over him or anything, but he just seems so perfect to me. I've liked other guys off and on too, but I've been able to completely get over them. But like when i've found out that he doesnt like me in the past, I can NEVER forget about him.

He's seriously like a hott, buff version of Napoleon Dynamite. And yes, fro and all.

I'm serious.
All guys want poon-tangs.

Welcome to the real world, kid!

I'm sure that cant be true with every guy. He's like the last person I know that would try crap like that. He's like the least perverted guy I know.

[*krnxswat*]

I'm sure that cant be true with every guy. He's like the last person I know that would try crap like that. He's like the least perverted guy I know.

Just because he's shy doesn't mean he's not a pervert. All guys are perverts. That just shows he's not even remotely comfortable around you to show that kind of side of him. And yes, it is true with every guy.

[kimmytree]

true but lol theres some of us who wants a real relationship even tho it seems we're extinct. anyways yea 1 he could be rebounding 2 he might be giving u a consideration since u guys did known each other for so long and since u told him a few times already... but yea i think u should wait a bit let him be the one to come to u dun give him any clear signs or anything let him be unsure, and act liek ur not intrested it'll make him work harder and tell him that u aint just there waiting for him.

Aww thanks, that gives girls hope. Lol.

Yeah your probably right, at least about letting him tell me, instead of me rushing things by telling him first. I dont know about playing hard to get though.... I cant do that.

Just because he's shy doesn't mean he's not a pervert. All guys are perverts. That just shows he's not even remotely comfortable around you to show that kind of side of him. And yes, it is true with every guy.

He's actually pretty outgoing, but just shy when he likes a girl. Not that it matters or makes a difference, but he's been in a Christian school since kindergarden, and his parents are religious fanatics, so he's pretty sheltered. Guys in my class run him down and call him gay since he doesnt act all perverted like the rest of them do. He'll make comments about a girl being pretty, but he wont sit there infront of everyone making perverted comments. He knows how to treat a girl, at least a heck of alot more than any other guy I know.

[*krnxswat*]

Seriously, are you that retarded?
It doesn't matter what kind of environment he was raised in or what the f**k his parents were. It doesn't matter if he treats a girl or not. It doesn't matter how much he shows his perverted-ness or not.

Deep inside, all guys are perverts.

That's one thing you need to understand about guys, and seem to have the most difficulty doing. Fucktard.

[kimmytree]

Wtf? Well yeah, obviously. Everyone's perverted. But that doesnt mean that he's gonna want to do something right away like you said genius.

[*krnxswat*]

Wow, you must totally missed my point.

You are officially a fucktard.

[LostRenaissance]

no her point is deep inside all guys are perverts guys can;t control their hormones and stuff yea but that doesn't mean all his after is sex, i dunno probably a lil but yea i stick to my suggestions and stop cursing lol lets be nice shall we haha

[kimmytree]

^ Lol, thanks

Yeah, seriously. Stop being an ass.

[*krnxswat*]

^

I'm just giving you a reality check, dipshit.
Because, I'll be the first one to pinpoint my finger at you and laugh my ass off when I find out you dated this guy, who you thought wouldn't do anything, raped you and ended up getting pregnant.

[LostRenaissance]

sigh^ have a point girls gotta becareful there are good guys out there and there's ones out there thats just after sex too but my point is THERE ARE GOOD GUYS OUT THERE U JUST GOTTA FIND THEM XD

[kimmytree]

I'm just giving you a reality check, dipshit.
Because, I'll be the first one to pinpoint my finger at you and laugh my ass off when I find out you dated this guy, who you thought wouldn't do anything, raped you and ended up getting pregnant.

Fine okay okay, your right. Whatever.

[*krnxswat*]

^

It's 'you're', by the way.

[kimmytree]

^

Who cares.

[LostRenaissance]

lol... we're def off topic hahA

[miiichellley]

Lol.
And i thought she had tons of trouble to deal with..

[kimmytree]

lol... we're def off topic hahA

Haha, yeah.

Well, 2 more hours till the movie.

[*krnxswat*]

^

Who cares.

Your English teacher does.

[LostRenaissance]

^ lol

Lol.
And i thought she had tons of trouble to deal with..

she does tho XD haha sigh so do i lol ahhhh w/e

[lili29]

im your age and i have had alot of experience on guys ive had alot of boyfriends ever since i'd say 7th grade now im with a guy that i hope to be with HOPEFULLY for the rest of my life cuz i love him so much and he's my boyfriend now for about 8 months anyways you get the point ive got lots of guy advice id say i think he likes you but then again he seems like the type that could be a player considering he already lied to you once but then again people need to be given more then 1 chance... so i think you should go to the movies if he puts his arm around you but that's it well at least that's a start and it might mean he just wants to be friends if you end up kissing (making out) then i think he likes you so it kinda depends on what happens at the movies cuz movies tend to get romantic haha so if he likes u then he will probably let u know there

[*krnxswat*]

im your age and i have had alot of experience on guys ive had alot of boyfriends ever since i'd say 7th grade now im with a guy that i hope to be with HOPEFULLY for the rest of my life cuz i love him so much and he's my boyfriend now for about 8 months anyways you get the point ive got lots of guy advice id say i think he likes you but then again he seems like the type that could be a player considering he already lied to you once but then again people need to be given more then 1 chance... so i think you should go to the movies if he puts his arm around you but that's it well at least that's a start and it might mean he just wants to be friends if you end up kissing (making out) then i think he likes you so it kinda depends on what happens at the movies cuz movies tend to get romantic haha so if he likes u then he will probably let u know there

Nah, you guys are going to break up.

[lili29]

Listen DIPSHIT as you called the girl you want to talk shit i can f**kin talk mad shit . Does it really matter no one asked your opinion if we are or not im the one to know it's not like you would know because it isn't your relationship. Only me and my boyfriend would know. Im f**king 18 iight a-hole im going to finish school and me and him are goin to go to the same college and afterwards get married. He f**king already proposed to me and all dumbass but of course you wouldn't know shit because all you do is take other people's business and talk f**king BULLSHIT go get a life and go play in f**king traffic or something ok how f**king old are you anyways because you sure are acting like a 12 year old motherf**ker. Stay on the damned topic i was giving this girl advice and i never asked your opinion in MY business

[LostRenaissance]

lol.... calm down everyone... let her be. dun get all stressed up cuz of her

[kimmytree]

Ahhh, I didnt think a silly relationship topic would cause so much drama...

[*krnxswat*]

Listen DIPSHIT as you called the girl you want to talk shit i can f**kin talk mad shit . Does it really matter no one asked your opinion if we are or not im the one to know it's not like you would know because it isn't your relationship. Only me and my boyfriend would know. Im f**king 18 iight a-hole im going to finish school and me and him are goin to go to the same college and afterwards get married. He f**king already proposed to me and all dumbass but of course you wouldn't know shit because all you do is take other people's business and talk f**king BULLSHIT go get a life and go play in f**king traffic or something ok how f**king old are you anyways because you sure are acting like a 12 year old motherf**ker. Stay on the damned topic i was giving this girl advice and i never asked your opinion in MY business

Trust me. You guys are going to break up.

You sure don't seem 18! More like a 12 year old.

[miiichellley]

woah, no need to get so aggravated

[lili29]

ok yea .... he's going to break up with me after he already gave me my engagement ring and we already have some plans for the wedding made that's going to happen in about less than a year.....??? ok keep thinking that i'm just not the type to let any one get into my business... you only copied me about the 12 year old thing anyways im just going to drop the subject and be mature besides i really dont care what you think i dont even know you... you keep running your mouth ok... i am 18 you can believe it or not why would i lie?? if i was going to lie about getting married id say i was like 20 or something im not lying im being staright up anyways whatever.... [[ hope that you and the guy that you like turn out good!]] like me & my fiance

[kimmytree]

^ Aww, thanks! Good luck with your fiance! ;D

[LostRenaissance]

yea gratz : D!!!! stop yelling at each other guys lol lets all calm down shall we haha

[miiichellley]

Have a nice honeymoon

[kimmytree]

Well, just got back from the date or whatever that was.... pretty fun. Unfortunately, the most that happened was when we would accidentally bump arms on the arm rest.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Haha, aww how cute. After that whole "date", do you think you see him more as a friend or brother status?

[kimmytree]

Haha, aww how cute. After that whole "date", do you think you see him more as a friend or brother status?

Teeheee.

Neither, actually. Something more than that. The whole time, before the date and while on it, I couldnt stop smiling. I just felt so happy. I've never felt this way about anyone, even though i've never actually been this close either. I'm still a little confused if that was really a date, or just us hanging out. I'm pretty sure it was a date... I just dont know what to call it, or how to make anything of it in front of him.

[ReggieM]

whats krnxswat real name neways she burned you. A O. Good one princesca

[kimmytree]

^HAH. Yeah that, and what he thought would happen on the date didnt even come close to happening.

[multifaceted]

he might just need a pal to stay with while he is going thru the break up. it might mean something but wait a bit until its really obvious

[kimmytree]

^Well, I dont think that's the case.

It was driving me crazy trying to figure out what it was... so I finally asked him.

I'm happy to report that it was indeed a date.

[LostRenaissance]

lol wat did u think it was .... lol?

[kimmytree]

^ Ehh. Well, we've always been good friends, and just how he asked me.... idk. >.<

[LostRenaissance]

how did he ask u O.o? lets chill at the movies? lol

[kimmytree]

Well, he asked me on Wednesday.. the first day of school. We have ALL the same classes together. Anyways, 1st hour, we were sitting next to each other talking about movies and stuff, and he mentioned that he saw Dreamgirls, and loved it. And I was like ooooh, that looks like a really good movie... I wannna see it. So then we later changed the subject, and still talked. Then we talked again 2nd hour. Then third hour, he sits 2 seats ahead of me.. and he was turned around and we were talking.... then he said something like "That movie was so good".... then we talked for a few minutes... then he said something like "Hey, you wanna go see it sometime?" And I was like "SURE!" Then class started... and then a minute or two later, he turned back around and asked if I wanted to go on Friday.

[LostRenaissance]

lol....... i can def see why u didn't think it was a date... hahaha

[kimmytree]

^ Seriously? Or are you being sarcastic.

See, im easily confused...

[LostRenaissance]

sarcastic lol... cuz he didn't really go and show any emotions when he did it. jsut like normal friends going out.

[kimmytree]

OH CRAPPP.

I think I've scared him off now.

No wonder he acted kinda weird today around me.... ;[

*hits head on desk*

[chibichi15]

aww, thats happened to me before. it was TORTURE! but, aww, dont worry. if u dont think it'll work out, itz better off being friends. i know.

[dinoooRAWR]

You're his rebound. He knows he's got you on a leash, considering you've liked him on and off for quite awhile.

I completely agree! If you really want to try it, I suggest you wait a while and see what happens.

[LostRenaissance]

OH CRAPPP.

I think I've scared him off now.

No wonder he acted kinda weird today around me.... ;[

*hits head on desk*

o.o.... huh???? explain!!!!!!! person lol !!! explain!!

[xmoon_lightx]

i think he likes yu and felt really sorry about wah he did b-4. :)
Hope everything works out for yu!

[kimmytree]

o.o.... huh???? explain!!!!!!! person lol !!! explain!!

Okay, first off, there's only 20 kids in our grade (small private school) and we have every class together.

Well, I come into class this morning.... and he doesnt really talk to me. He doesnt ignor me or anything, he was just hanging out with his friends and didnt bring me into the conversation, even though I was standing near him. Then all throughout the day, he acts like nothing ever happened with us. Its like he's gone back to how things were before the Christmas break... we were always friends, just not THAT close. He's acting totally different that how he did last week and on our date.

And then for lunch... like half of my class (non jocks) sits at the same table everyday together. Me and him usually end up sitting next to each other, but today he askes a few of his friends to eat outside with him.... RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, and didnt ask if I wanted to go along. He briefly smiled at me though.... but whatever. And the thing is, I'm friends with the people who went outside with him.

Then after lunch, he never comes to study hall. We usually sit together too. I think he skipped by going to Journalism. But then in Chemistry, he goes back acting just like he did last week.... the way that I expected him to act earlier. And then he goes back to hardly talking to me in art class... and there's only 7 of us in there.

So I'm guessing he didnt really mean for our date to be a date... and he's freaked out because he knows that I thought/wanted it to be one. So I'm guessing its the text message that I sent him Saturday that's freaking him out. All I did was ask if it was a date or just hanging out, and he responds that he guesses it was, and wantedto know what I thought. So I replied that I was hoping that it really was a date. Then I get no response.

Or could he just be being shy or something? He's really not the shy type.

[LostRenaissance]

nah i rather think he's probably thinking about wat happened guys needs their space too lol or he's just trying to mess with u and see if u follow him basicly playing hard to get tomorrow if he's still like that a bit do the same to him dun go and talk to him if he wants u then make him do the work, my firend done it to me lol.... even tho we're jsut friends so year.. lol she did it again today so w/e .. jsut give it a day or two dun worry too much about it.. and DUN TEXT him and ask him anymore about it... i guess thats all i can say rite now

[*Uronacid*]

^

It's 'you're', by the way.

People who make fun of grammar... *sigh* only do it because they have nothing else to say... :P



Anyways, it sounds like this guy just doesn't like girls who like him back... I wouldn't admit your feelings to him. He'll only like you more if you don't. I only say that because, 1: he said that the girl he was dating liked him more that he liked her, and 2: he didn't date you after you told him that you liked him (instead he pushed away). I think you should play hard to get. Let him admit his feelings....

Another thing you should think about: do you want to date a guy like that?

[kimmytree]

^ You know, your right. If he's going to act like that now, imagine how jerky he might would get if we did start dating.

Well, I *attempted* to play hard to get but ehhh, didnt really work. He came up to me and talked more than I did with him, though. But today was still pretty much a repeat of yesterday.

If he doesnt get his act together by the end of this week... then the heck with him. I'll move on.

[LostRenaissance]

^.. hmm easy to say hard to do... if he still doesn't do anything start flirting with his friends around him and see if that'll get him jealous and do something or not flirt or jsut do someone that'll make him jealous and if he's not gonna do anything about it dun think too much try to move on...

[kimmytree]

^ Most of his friends are girls. There's only 12 guys in my grade (small school)... so thats gonna be hard to do. :[

But yeah, your right, it is hard to forget about someone. I've liked this guy so many times... then found out that he didnt like me back.... and gotten so upset over it. And I always try to forget about him, but I never can.

Well, I guess we'll see how tomorrow goes.

Oh btw - thanks for all the advice. I really appreciate it.

[LostRenaissance]

its fine dun worry about it o yea.. ur in a small private school... well i guess its best if u back off a lil and give hi ma lil room did he recently break up with his gf?... maybe thats why he needs a lil room maybe.. dun give up so easliy i did say.. give it a lil more time.. and dun get so upset over it.. lol alteast u can get with him i can't with mine so yea lol come on cheer up dun think too much about it