Does this guy like me?, Bear with me...it's actually semi-interseting! :) Options

[letdramadie]

I'll try to keep this as brief as possible, but bear with me!! Please read the post in it's entirety and write your honest opinions!!! :]

Mid-October:
Meet guy. Talk on phone for 2 hours. 2 nights later we hang out. Go back to his place. [You may now use your imagination as to what happened when we went back to his place, and I'm sure whatever you're able to conjure up DID, in fact, happen...] {That was me politely saying that I slept with the guy...JUST INCASE you didn't catch on}

Moving on...

Didn't hear from him for a week or so, then out of the blue, he texted me. Mmmk, cool.

We kept in touch on Myspace, but our conversations were always directed towards meeting up again and repeating what happened on the first night...

December 7:
Called me during the afternoon to "meet up" <--we'll just call our rendevouzs that from here on out...okay? I couldn't drive to see him, though, because my parents were coming into town and I had previous engagements

December 12:
He came over to my place because I had to help him with an assignment...fair enough, I REALLY DID help him with the assignment. Of course, we had a little fun afterwards, and he ended up spending the night at my place. I had a final the next morning, so he left with me when I had to leave for class. He kissed me goodbye, and that was that.

December 16:
He called me. He HAD been drinking, but he wasn't so wasted that he couldn't control himself. Wanted me to come over. I drove to see him and we ended up having some fun. I got up to leave, and he seemed almost BITTER at the idea of me getting up to leave, but I had just assumed that he called me for one thing, and one thing only. We ended up cuddling and falling asleep. I woke up 2 hours later and realized I had fallen asleep, so I got up and left.

WENT HOME AFTER FINALS FOR CHRISTMAS BREAK

He called me on 12/28 or 12/29 to see what I was doing, but I told him I was still at home. He said he was driving back to our college town after being back to his hometown for a few days and told me to give him a call when I got back in town.

I called him yesterday because I came back to our college town for a few days [mainly for New Years]. He sounded TOTALLY UP to hang out, but he was going to go to a movie first. He said he'd call me afterwards. Never got a call.

Sent him a message on Myspace saying that I'll be here until the 2nd and that I'd like to "meet up" before I have to leave for home again [if possible]. I know he read it because on Myspace, you're able to tell if someone has read a private message you send to them. So he read it, but hasn't replied.

It's obvious that I wasn't just a one-night stand since we've met up on 3 different occasions, but I'm starting to wonder if this guy thinks there's more to us than messing around...??? My philosophy on guys getting some JUST to get it is this:
-They would get it and immediately leave or find an excuse to make me leave. [Well in my current situation: the first time he told me I could stay, the second time he stayed at my place, and the third time I fell asleep at his place....]
-They wouldn't just call out of the blue to talk. [But in my situation, he called me on the road, and he didn't seem to have anything in particular to talk about. He knew I was at home, and was wondering when I'd be getting back to town, but nothing was really said about "meeting up".

I'm confused. I'd really appreciate the GUYS' HELP, since you might be able to tell where this fella's comin from....ya'll have the testerone runnin in your veins....give me some insight.

Am I crazy to think he's developing SOME SORT of feelings for me????

(I know it's like a diary entry, but I remember dates well...especially when it comes to stuff like this, and especially since it hasn't been but 2 weeks since we last "got together")

[bambamboozle]

He's using you.

It looks like its you who has the feelings and thats why you're giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Basically he's just going to call you to "hang out" 'cause even though he makes it sound innocent, he knows what its going to lead to.
And since he wants to "meet up again" its not like hes going to toss you out/leave afterwards.

If you don't want him as just a hook up buddy, you should end it.

[Die romantic]

Yea, I think he's using you..sorry :[

[asung88]

yup hes using you.

[malimars]

omg yeah he is using you and if you cant see that your just a booty call to him well thats not good , everytime you two met up you 2 fooled around why cant you two just hang out?. Sorry but you need to ditch him!

[showstopper!]

You guys have already met each other a few times. He is mos def using you. Sorry dear, but just tell him enough. He just wants to sleep with you.

[voguelove]

wtf..you slept with him after the first night?

it's just a booty call.

[-sincerely]

you slept with him after only talking to him on the phone for two hours?
he's using you, though. no doubt about it.

[letdramadie]

^^^Hey everyone, thanks for your brutally honest opinions!^^^

I never doubted that he was using me...I just needed to hear it from someone other than a friend, who obviously tend to sugar-coat things a bit in a situation such as this.

The guy and I got together again last night...and again this morning. I stayed there. Needless to say, we brought the NEW YEAR in with a bang...literally.

[*suddenly she*]

Do you just want to be used? Or are you the sort that just wants a fcukbuddy?

FRENCH CONNECTION UNITED KINGDOM

[itsnever4ever]

^^^Hey everyone, thanks for your brutally honest opinions!^^^

I never doubted that he was using me...I just needed to hear it from someone other than a friend, who obviously tend to sugar-coat things a bit in a situation such as this.

The guy and I got together again last night...and again this morning. I stayed there. Needless to say, we brought the NEW YEAR in with a bang...literally.

so do you really even care that he's using you or what?
cause it seems like you guys don't really even have a relationship like can't you ever just go get something to eat or go bowling or just hang out? is your relationship only sexual?

[*a painefull euphoria*]

sorry hun its just a booty call.

[letdramadie]

so do you really even care that he's using you or what?
cause it seems like you guys don't really even have a relationship like can't you ever just go get something to eat or go bowling or just hang out? is your relationship only sexual?

As of late, yes, our relationship is strictly sexual. I guess the correct term for what he is would be a 'f**k buddy', like a few people have already mentioned above. It's not that I DON'T care that I'm being used, but aren't I just using him too?

I'm not saying I don't like the guy...he's a lot of fun, and we obviously have a lot of [sexual] fun when we're together, but we also joke around aside from having sex. I don't know...he's only the second guy I've slept with. It was completely UNLIKE me to just give in to having sex with him on the first night. I've said "NO" to plenty of guys in the past, so I don't know what made me incapable of telling this one "NO".



Again, thank you for all your opinions and advice. It means the world.

[xmoon_lightx]

maybe hes just think over about what he did.

[*Uronacid*]

He may be developing feelings for you, but personally it sounds like he's just using you. It seems like every time you hang out you guys have sex.

Who did he goto the movies with?

Maybe he found a new F*** BUDDY!

[ReggieM]

i want to see how he looks like.

[LostRenaissance]

ditch'em cuz he's playing around with u

[ReggieM]

all u have to do is rinse and repeat

[*x1227x*]

he's using you for a booty call.

[multifaceted]

he just thinks you as a toy honey. sry.

[letdramadie]

He may be developing feelings for you, but personally it sounds like he's just using you. It seems like every time you hang out you guys have sex.

Who did he goto the movies with?

Maybe he found a new F*** BUDDY!

Hey everyone, it's me again! I haven't checked this since the last time I posted [January 2] so needless to say, I had a few more replies to read.

In response to the quote posted from Uronacid, he went to the movies with his MALE friend, and his friend's mom, so I don't THINK he went with a new f**k Buddy! Haha However, he HAS been open with me about how he has slept with other girls since the first time him and I had sex. What can I do, though? I can't stop him...we're not dating!

Him and I hung out again today...it was the first time since New Years Day. I had gone back home, and he went out of town as well. I left him a message asking if he wanted to hang out and maybe have a littlte fun [therefore, I initiated it!] He called me, drove over to my place, and we had a little fun before I had to go to work.

That's the only updates I have for now. I plan on going to get tested for HIV/STDs in a few months. I figure if he's sleeping with other girls [I have to give him SOME credit for being honest with me about it!] then I'd rather be safe than sorry. If I go get checked too soon, I might run the risk of any STDs not showing up because it's too soon to detect!

Thanks for all the comments! Ya'll are great!

[Kontroll]

No, he hates you. He's just afraid to tell you. Ha.

[RAWRxhardcore]

it sounds to me like hes using you...

it seems to me that after you guys hooked up he thought that he 'had' you uk? and so thats why he kindah ignored you at first that next week. now it just seems like he calls you to have sex. and hun no one deserves to be used like that NOBODY.

hope it all works out for you

[letdramadie]

UPDATE TIME

I got a phone call from the guy last night--I was leaving a friend's house around 1:00AM and that's right about when he started calling. We hadn't done anything since the last time I posted [Monday, January 8]. He said he'd really like to see me and wanted me to come over to his place because they were having people over, drinking, etc...

I drive to his place, and we wait about an hour before we go into his room to have some fun. After that happens, we get dressed and go back out and mingle with everyone for another 30-45 minutes. Then we go back to his room for Round 2. After the second round, he's lying there and starts talking about how I'm too sweet of a girl to be messing around with a guy like him. Then he proceeded to tell me that we should stop having sex and establish a friendship and a mutual respect for each other, to which I asked, "Do you not respect me now?" to which he responded, "No, I DO respect you, it's just a completely different kind of respect..." [Whatever THAT'S supposed to mean!] Haha

To make a long story short, my best friend seems to think that was his way of hinting that he's developing feelings for me. There was more to his and I's conversation, but I'm too tired to write it all out!

We had sex again this morning because I crashed at his place. I ended up going to Walgreen's and getting Plan B [the OTC morning-after pill] because we slipped up last night. Keep your fingers crossed that I'm not pregnant!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

You're over analyzing everything. He's realized that whenever he calls you, you let him f**k. Whenever you call him, you let him f**k. Either way, he's just using you to f**k.


OR I could be wrong.

[michellerrific]

Sounds like he just wants to have you around to play with. You guys had sex like, ten times and THEN you guys finally talk about an actual friendship with respect? Unless you guys are turning into FWBs.

[*Uronacid*]

UPDATE TIME

I got a phone call from the guy last night--I was leaving a friend's house around 1:00AM and that's right about when he started calling. We hadn't done anything since the last time I posted [Monday, January 8]. He said he'd really like to see me and wanted me to come over to his place because they were having people over, drinking, etc...

I drive to his place, and we wait about an hour before we go into his room to have some fun. After that happens, we get dressed and go back out and mingle with everyone for another 30-45 minutes. Then we go back to his room for Round 2. After the second round, he's lying there and starts talking about how I'm too sweet of a girl to be messing around with a guy like him. Then he proceeded to tell me that we should stop having sex and establish a friendship and a mutual respect for each other, to which I asked, "Do you not respect me now?" to which he responded, "No, I DO respect you, it's just a completely different kind of respect..." [Whatever THAT'S supposed to mean!] Haha

To make a long story short, my best friend seems to think that was his way of hinting that he's developing feelings for me. There was more to his and I's conversation, but I'm too tired to write it all out!

We had sex again this morning because I crashed at his place. I ended up going to Walgreen's and getting Plan B [the OTC morning-after pill] because we slipped up last night. Keep your fingers crossed that I'm not pregnant!

Well, it sounds like he realizes that you guys are just f**k BUDDIES at the moment. I think that he wants to get to know you better. It sounds like he wants to get to know you better so he can see if he wants to establish relationship.

He probably doesn't have that much respect for you, and he wants to develop that respect. You don't get respect for someone by having sex with someone. You gain respect through time spent getting to know each other. Respect is earned, and not sexed.

I hope you aren't pregnant.

[letdramadie]

UPDATE

I think I have a UTI. I've had one before from not peeing after sex, so I know what to expect with one. They're so uncomfortable! I got a big 3L bottle of cranberry juice, and I have every intention of drinking the entire thing tomorrow! Also, I took the Plan B pills on Saturday, so I'm praying that they worked [if anything happened to have slipped up]. God knows I'm not ready for a kid, and I know what ya'll are going to say...

"If you're not ready for a kid, then don't be having sex...OR, at least be using some form of contraception."

We use condoms...99% of the time. I'm normally on the pill, but my cycle has been screwed up since I stopped taking them. I had been bleeding [graphic, sorry] for a month and a half straight when my doctor finally said to stop taking them.

I like him, I do. Yeah, it's one of those situations where it's a mutual understanding that we're just f**k buddies, but it's fun, and I'm completely comfortable with him. I don't see the problem with what we're doing as long as it's understood that neither of us expect anything. IF something were to start leaning towards a relationship, I wouldn't be against the idea, BUT I definitely don't expect it to lean that way anytime soon!

[letdramadie]

[LONG UPDATE FOLLOWS]

Hi everyone, I'm in over my head! If you aren't familiar with my story but are interested in helping,
#1. I appreciate it! but
#2. You miiiight want to read through my original post plus my updates so you have an idea of what's going on.

So my last update talked about how I had a UTI, which I did. I went to the doctor after not having a period for over 2 months and had everything checked out. The Morning After pill must have worked, because they gave me a pregnancy test, and it came back negative. The results for the UTI came back positive, so they put me on an antibiotic. Blah blah blah...

Moving on. I saw him on a few occasions during the month of February, but we didn't have sex. [Surprised? Me too!] I heard through the grapevine that he was "dating" a girl around Valentine's Day, even though both of their profiles said single. I figured that was the reason he hadn't called me to hook up.

The weekend after Valentine's Day, I went to a party and somehow ended up back at the f**k buddy's house...with a DIFFERENT boy! Nothing happened...I was drunk and he was taking care of me. We fell asleep together on the couch. Then, my f**k buddy walked in and saw me with the other guy on the couch, but he was too wasted to realize or care. Come to find out, he had brought a girl home with him from the bars anyways, so whatever.

Within a couple of days, I sent him a message saying that I wanted to get together because I was in need of some good booty, to which he replied, "What, wasn't Scott good enough?" [Scott=boy I fell asleep with on couch]. When I told him that nothing happened, he questioned me about another one of my guy friends, who he apparently thought I was dating or interested in. I proceeded to tell him that he's just a really good friend and that there was nothing romantic between the two of us.

Now, this is where I have to stop and scratch my head! Whyyyyyy would he care who I was talking to or getting booty from besides him IF he wasn't interested in me except for getting some sex?!?! To me, the fact that he took the time to question me about two different guys SCREAMS jealousy, because here I sit, fully aware that he's having sex with other girls while he continues to have sex with me, and yet, I DON'T QUESTION HIM ABOUT THOSE OTHER GIRLS! I'm in no position to dig up dirt on the other girls he's messing around with because we're NOT dating! If I were to ask him about the other girls he's been sleeping with, he would probably think I was starting to get clingy and jealous, but yet it's okay for him to do it to me? I don't think that's fair...

Needless to say, I didn't hear from him for a good two weeks after I explained that my guy friend and I are just friends and nothing more.

Then, out of nowhere, I get a call from him while I'm in class. It was on Wednesday [February 28th] and he wanted to get together. I told him I'd leave campus if he drove to my apartment, and he agreed. We did our thing and then took a shower together. Then he left and said he'd talk to me later. I followed him out, and joking around said, "So, you have any crazy girls on your tail?" to which he replied, "Yeah, you!" and I was like "Uhhh yeah right, pretty sure I'm the least crazy girl you'll ever meet!" to which he said, "Yeah, you're right about that. You're really good in that department!" Haha riiiiight...okay, moving on.

Last night I was drinking with some friends [one of them being the guy friend that he thought I was dating/interested in] and I texted him NOT thinking he would respond. It was around 2:30 AM, and all it said was, "i'm drunk, need sex ;)" and he responded with, "come over". Well, my friend doesn't know that I was the one who initiated the conversation, so he took my phone and hid it because he didn't want me leaving to go see him! He thinks that he's a piece of crap who treats me like dirt and he made me promise him that I wouldn't mess around with him anymore. Finally, he gave me my phone back around 4:45 AM and when I turned it on, my f**k buddy had sent a text that said "f**k u". I tried sending him a message earlier this afternoon explaining what had happened. I said, "Look, I was drunker than I thought and my friends didn't want me to drive so they hid my phone and keys so I wouldn't be tempted to leave...let me know when I can make it up to you."

Well, he read it [because I sent it to him on Myspace, and you can tell if someone reads a private message] and he hasn't responded yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he rarely responds back to private messages, but now I'm worried that he's not gonna want to hook up anymore. It'd be stupid if he decided to quit hooking up with me just because I didn't come over ONE night, but I guess we'll see...

Maybe I'll get another call while I'm in class! ;) That was freakin' hot! Haha

ALRIGHT, so HEEEELLLLLP!!!! I'm aware of the fact that he's just a f**k buddy, but do you think that him questioning me about other guys is a sign that he's starting to develop feelings for me?!? Remember also, this is the same guy that told me we shouldn't have sex as often anymore so that we could develop a friendship and build up some trust the last time we were together [the time I got the UTI/Morning After pill].

Any and all suggestions welcome!